Dec 13/17
When is the last time you have checked your emotional and mental health? What is your current gauge of how you feel? Can you still feel a wide range of emotions or do you find yourself in a place where you don't feel anymore?
When I was a young boy growing up on a farm, I often would spend warm summer afternoons exploring the country side. One day I decided I could fly like Superman and with that thought I scampered up to the top of a 15 foot cliff. As I looked down I was filled with excitement of what the feeling will be like to experience flight. I launched myself of the cliff thinking I would have a nice gradual glide and fall to the ground. As I struck the ground with my left arm first, I heard a loud snap followed at the same moment extreme pain in my left arm.
Off to the hospital I went and shortly after an ex-ray a cast was created to set my broken bone. In our current modern times it is quite easy to see and repair basic physical wounds like these. Yet when it comes to our general mental health it is not as easy to repair our past hurts and damages. Not only is it difficult to identity our hurt but once that brokenness is identified, it is also difficult for us to put in the effort for that repair to occur.
Unlike physical bones that usually our body will repair automatically our emotional wounds will not heal by themselves. I have heard the phrase time heals all emotional wounds and I don't agree. If we don't spend the same amount of energy on the impact of those wounds to reverse the damage, no amount of time will heal.
Always the first step to recovery is the acknowledgement that something is wrong. That same pattern occurred to me when I broke my arm. Healing always starts with addressing the source of our pain. Its easier to identify physical pain as it hurts immediately once it occurs at a higher level than our emotional pain. Yet if our emotional damage isn't treated, eventually that pain will become so strong we won't be able to feel the wide range of emotions we were intended to experience.
Our foundation of all health is based on our daily choices, which applies to our emotional health. Today in our society it is common to spend hours in a week perfecting our physical body in both exercise and diet. Yet during that same week how much time are you spending on creating a mental mindset of health?
There has been some increased awareness of mental health lately yet the focus is still low compared to our physical health. If you have found yourself feeling your in your abyss of emotional existence. First start by being honest with yourself and acknowledge your emotional brokenness and start your work required to heal. Make this day your first day of going to your mental and emotional health gym.
Friday 29 December 2017
Thursday 28 December 2017
The Second Book The 84th Chapter - Professionalism and Flexibility
Dec 3/17
How do you increase the your level of leadership? Do you apply a combination of flexibility in your day when your leading yourself and others? What is your current organizations culture in regard to being autonomous in your flexibility decisions?
Recently I experienced first hand a combination of both flexibility and professionalism. that was on a recent trip with WestJet Airlines. Everything was going to plan with the typically loading of the plane, safety demo complete and the in flight service was just about to start. It was at that moment the normal process met a minor mishap. The flight attendant came to me first, as I was sitting in the front of the plane, and asked me what I wanted for something to eat or drink. I replied with, what are the choices? She went to the seat pocket to pull out the menu and there wasn't one there. She went to the seat beside me and looked for the the menu in that seat pocket and it wasn't there either. She realized on the second look there was not menus in any of the seats.
What happened next was a great example of professionalism and leadership culture flexibility. First of all it was probably someones task to put the menus in the seat pockets but currently there were all up in a storage compartment wrapped neatly in the original packaging. She quietly returned the menus to the storage compartment and disappeared to the small galley in the front of the plane. Not long after she returned with a neatly stocked tray of examples of all the food that was available on that flight. She proceeded down the aisle asking each person what they wanted and completed the in-flight service without a hitch.
This quick redirection by the flight attendant was effectively corrected without anyone else on the plane noticing except for me. The acceptance of her reality and execution of a new plan happened in quick succession with a net result of the passengers not experiencing any negative outcomes. Kudos to her skill and also the environment that WestJet has created for the execution of live critical thinking problem solving skills.
Great people allowed to be great within a large organization. A balance of standard process needs to exist to provide consistent service quality but the unexplainable magic has to be created. That magic is what we all strive for in our life, as that magic injects excitement into our life. Most of us have to work for a living so its important to make choices where work can be fulfilling and fun. Not only fun but the organization has created a work environment that encourages your growth and development. An environment where you feel comfortable to exercise your autonomy is something to strive to have in your life. Or if your a leader to be able to set that environment for your people to have autonomy so that outcomes like this can happen.
Create an environment of magic that people will feel value and are contributing more that the bare minimum. By doing this the needle of commitment will grow to a point it will appear to become a living organism of positive culture. The results of this culture will then start to erase all the typically problems many mangers will discuss and not sure of how to solve them.
How do you increase the your level of leadership? Do you apply a combination of flexibility in your day when your leading yourself and others? What is your current organizations culture in regard to being autonomous in your flexibility decisions?
Recently I experienced first hand a combination of both flexibility and professionalism. that was on a recent trip with WestJet Airlines. Everything was going to plan with the typically loading of the plane, safety demo complete and the in flight service was just about to start. It was at that moment the normal process met a minor mishap. The flight attendant came to me first, as I was sitting in the front of the plane, and asked me what I wanted for something to eat or drink. I replied with, what are the choices? She went to the seat pocket to pull out the menu and there wasn't one there. She went to the seat beside me and looked for the the menu in that seat pocket and it wasn't there either. She realized on the second look there was not menus in any of the seats.
What happened next was a great example of professionalism and leadership culture flexibility. First of all it was probably someones task to put the menus in the seat pockets but currently there were all up in a storage compartment wrapped neatly in the original packaging. She quietly returned the menus to the storage compartment and disappeared to the small galley in the front of the plane. Not long after she returned with a neatly stocked tray of examples of all the food that was available on that flight. She proceeded down the aisle asking each person what they wanted and completed the in-flight service without a hitch.
This quick redirection by the flight attendant was effectively corrected without anyone else on the plane noticing except for me. The acceptance of her reality and execution of a new plan happened in quick succession with a net result of the passengers not experiencing any negative outcomes. Kudos to her skill and also the environment that WestJet has created for the execution of live critical thinking problem solving skills.
Great people allowed to be great within a large organization. A balance of standard process needs to exist to provide consistent service quality but the unexplainable magic has to be created. That magic is what we all strive for in our life, as that magic injects excitement into our life. Most of us have to work for a living so its important to make choices where work can be fulfilling and fun. Not only fun but the organization has created a work environment that encourages your growth and development. An environment where you feel comfortable to exercise your autonomy is something to strive to have in your life. Or if your a leader to be able to set that environment for your people to have autonomy so that outcomes like this can happen.
Create an environment of magic that people will feel value and are contributing more that the bare minimum. By doing this the needle of commitment will grow to a point it will appear to become a living organism of positive culture. The results of this culture will then start to erase all the typically problems many mangers will discuss and not sure of how to solve them.
Wednesday 27 December 2017
The Second Book The 83rd Chapter - A Moment of Sharing
Dec 2/17
In this chapter I am going to branch out a little further than my usual on a very personal experience. One of my great friends, Patricia, has encouraged me to share this painful story.
I first met Patricia about six years ago when she started working closely with me in my previous role. During that time we worked hard together and shared success and some set backs as well. As we got to know each other we shared a little of our family background and relationships.
As time progressed it became clear she had a healthy relationship with her long time partner Cory. I even spent sometime with Cory and realized he is another person that has a kind and thoughtful soul. I was grateful to get to know him and his life's observations he shared with me are very insightful.
During this time period until roughly a year and a half ago, I was also in a relationship. This is where this story is going to get tough to share with you. However my goal is to continue my journey to become more healthy and help at least one other person see the abuse they might be under.
When I met up with Patrica a few weeks ago, her comment was wow - have you ever grown and changed. She expressed of how happy she was for me that I have been on my own for the last year and a half. A question for you, the reader, - In your current relationship is there anyone worried about your well being or perhaps some suggestions to change your current path? If so, then this chapter is for you and is intended to help you provide a focus on what you need for you and what is currently impacting your life.
To this day I still care for the person that was in my life and I do miss her still. So lets wind the clock back to the start - In the beginning of my relationship with her, it was incredible and amazing. One filled with kindness, understanding and a general sense of I finally found my best friend. Someone that I can share all of life's ups and downs and generally enjoy her company everyday.
After about a year things started to slowly shift away from the honeymoon period. The best way I can describe it was a transfer of anger and resentment of her past failed relationships onto ours. This anger slowly lead into friction in our relationship and I felt I needed to work harder to prove my commitment to her. Which I did, some of the things I did was to eliminate some of my friends in my life to try to maintain trust and show her she is the most important person to me.
Yet it seemed the harder I tried to meet the needs of the relationship the higher the barriers that were raised. Once I started to distant my friends, I noticed now as I look back, that with one word I spoke to her could cause a dramatic issue followed by a confrontation. If your an emphatic person you will know how uneasy the feeling is when one word will bring down negative energy to you from another person. You will also know when this starts to happen of how much you will want to avoid this kind of confrontation.
My natural personality is one of child like curiosity and I slowly realized I stopped exploring and growing myself to try to stabilize the relationship. At roughly the two year period, people started to notice I became withdrawn. My natural child like curiosity was slowly replaced with fear. Fearful of doing or saying something that would invoke a strong verbal confrontation. As I am emphatic as well and to be able to feel such strong emotions projected onto me became draining.
I know I wasn't perfect nor am I even close to that now yet a constant discharge of negative energy started to change my foundation of who I was. I realize now, at the time I should have stated my boundaries, but I didn't because I was afraid to lose my best friend. During that time there was moments were I was the happiest I have ever been followed randomly and quickly to the most unsettling times. I know I should have been stronger but I wasn't able to at the time. My loyalty, thoughtfulness, compassion remained focused on the relationship the entire time.
Yet as time wore on, my physical health was becoming impacted due to the instability of the relationship. Also the more I isolated myself from my family and friends. I am so grateful that most of my family and friends have remained as I emerged out of my darkness. The darkness I allowed myself to go down was as dark as you could image. My self-esteem and self-confidence was lowered so low I didn't feel I had any value to anyone anymore. I remember moments of conversation were it was suggested by her I was too sensitive. In fact there were moments that I actually wanted to slip from my mortal coil, as the black cloud of depression invaded my whole being.
It was like the classic example of the struggle of two different energy sources that could no longer be aligned in tandem. I have now realized I became dependent on her in my life and I tried to maintain that dependency at all costs. Due to my poor choices the emotional scars have implanted themselves very deep. The pain that we both caused each other will remain in me for the rest of my life.
If you can relate to my experience, I encourage you to do a rest. Take time out for you and listen to some of the folks closest to you. With the combination of time that was spent and being an empath there isn't a day that goes by that I don't feel that pain. I also know if we would have remained together that emotional pain would be worse than it currently is. To delay your decision to exist the relationship will only cause you more pain in the future and the emotional wounds will be that much deeper. The truth is that no amount of time or help will truly repair that damage that was done. Yes with time and help the wounds become scabbed over but they will never fully disappear and have your innocence reappear.
Reach out to someone that is strong and they will help you. It will take more effort than anything you have done in the past to pull away from that relationship. In my case. perhaps with time or fate we might be drawn together again, if we both are able to reach a place of being as healthy as we can be.
This same pattern may happen to you and you might rekindle as well. The important part is to stand up for you and to not let a negative situation break you down anymore. For me, even now in my quiet moments alone I will still cry as my scars slowly scab over.
The last year and a half has taught me the value of myself and slowly once again my child like nature is coming out and being more confident. It has taught me I am a kind and good person. It has also allowed me to connect with other people that are experiencing this type of relationship as well. It is very difficult for a man to talk about emotional abuse and even harder to find support groups that actually understand. For those of you that don't physically know me, I am larger than the average build and height for a male. I shouldn't have feelings of being truly scared of someone half my size but yet I was terrified.
I still suffer from moments of anxiety if I think too long about my past. Society doesn't allow for a "strong man" type to share feelings like these. As support groups and funding for people like me are hard to find, my goal is to offer some of my support to someone else that might be needing it. There were several times during the relationship I actually questioned my own sanity. I questioned right to my core as a person and it had an impact on everything I did everyday.
It has been a long slow climb of my mountain and it has been difficult. I sill have moments where I miss her very much as I felt she truly was my best friend. Inside and out she was the most beautiful person I have known at that intimate level. I also know in her way she truly cared for me as well.
I encourage you to start creating your environment that will enable you to be healthy and emotionally stable. Know that you can do this and the pain will diminish, but never truly fully go away. It is like recovering from an addiction and everyday you have to mentally focus on your outcome that is healthy for you. You will also slip back and want to reunite, but that's ok too. Just don't be too hard on yourself with a slip and allow that slip to ruin all the hard work you have put into your improvement.
It is love and hope I want all of you to feel when you read this chapter and help others that need your strength. Or believe in yourself that you can overcome any barrier you might currently have in your life.
In this chapter I am going to branch out a little further than my usual on a very personal experience. One of my great friends, Patricia, has encouraged me to share this painful story.
I first met Patricia about six years ago when she started working closely with me in my previous role. During that time we worked hard together and shared success and some set backs as well. As we got to know each other we shared a little of our family background and relationships.
As time progressed it became clear she had a healthy relationship with her long time partner Cory. I even spent sometime with Cory and realized he is another person that has a kind and thoughtful soul. I was grateful to get to know him and his life's observations he shared with me are very insightful.
During this time period until roughly a year and a half ago, I was also in a relationship. This is where this story is going to get tough to share with you. However my goal is to continue my journey to become more healthy and help at least one other person see the abuse they might be under.
When I met up with Patrica a few weeks ago, her comment was wow - have you ever grown and changed. She expressed of how happy she was for me that I have been on my own for the last year and a half. A question for you, the reader, - In your current relationship is there anyone worried about your well being or perhaps some suggestions to change your current path? If so, then this chapter is for you and is intended to help you provide a focus on what you need for you and what is currently impacting your life.
To this day I still care for the person that was in my life and I do miss her still. So lets wind the clock back to the start - In the beginning of my relationship with her, it was incredible and amazing. One filled with kindness, understanding and a general sense of I finally found my best friend. Someone that I can share all of life's ups and downs and generally enjoy her company everyday.
After about a year things started to slowly shift away from the honeymoon period. The best way I can describe it was a transfer of anger and resentment of her past failed relationships onto ours. This anger slowly lead into friction in our relationship and I felt I needed to work harder to prove my commitment to her. Which I did, some of the things I did was to eliminate some of my friends in my life to try to maintain trust and show her she is the most important person to me.
Yet it seemed the harder I tried to meet the needs of the relationship the higher the barriers that were raised. Once I started to distant my friends, I noticed now as I look back, that with one word I spoke to her could cause a dramatic issue followed by a confrontation. If your an emphatic person you will know how uneasy the feeling is when one word will bring down negative energy to you from another person. You will also know when this starts to happen of how much you will want to avoid this kind of confrontation.
My natural personality is one of child like curiosity and I slowly realized I stopped exploring and growing myself to try to stabilize the relationship. At roughly the two year period, people started to notice I became withdrawn. My natural child like curiosity was slowly replaced with fear. Fearful of doing or saying something that would invoke a strong verbal confrontation. As I am emphatic as well and to be able to feel such strong emotions projected onto me became draining.
I know I wasn't perfect nor am I even close to that now yet a constant discharge of negative energy started to change my foundation of who I was. I realize now, at the time I should have stated my boundaries, but I didn't because I was afraid to lose my best friend. During that time there was moments were I was the happiest I have ever been followed randomly and quickly to the most unsettling times. I know I should have been stronger but I wasn't able to at the time. My loyalty, thoughtfulness, compassion remained focused on the relationship the entire time.
Yet as time wore on, my physical health was becoming impacted due to the instability of the relationship. Also the more I isolated myself from my family and friends. I am so grateful that most of my family and friends have remained as I emerged out of my darkness. The darkness I allowed myself to go down was as dark as you could image. My self-esteem and self-confidence was lowered so low I didn't feel I had any value to anyone anymore. I remember moments of conversation were it was suggested by her I was too sensitive. In fact there were moments that I actually wanted to slip from my mortal coil, as the black cloud of depression invaded my whole being.
It was like the classic example of the struggle of two different energy sources that could no longer be aligned in tandem. I have now realized I became dependent on her in my life and I tried to maintain that dependency at all costs. Due to my poor choices the emotional scars have implanted themselves very deep. The pain that we both caused each other will remain in me for the rest of my life.
If you can relate to my experience, I encourage you to do a rest. Take time out for you and listen to some of the folks closest to you. With the combination of time that was spent and being an empath there isn't a day that goes by that I don't feel that pain. I also know if we would have remained together that emotional pain would be worse than it currently is. To delay your decision to exist the relationship will only cause you more pain in the future and the emotional wounds will be that much deeper. The truth is that no amount of time or help will truly repair that damage that was done. Yes with time and help the wounds become scabbed over but they will never fully disappear and have your innocence reappear.
Reach out to someone that is strong and they will help you. It will take more effort than anything you have done in the past to pull away from that relationship. In my case. perhaps with time or fate we might be drawn together again, if we both are able to reach a place of being as healthy as we can be.
This same pattern may happen to you and you might rekindle as well. The important part is to stand up for you and to not let a negative situation break you down anymore. For me, even now in my quiet moments alone I will still cry as my scars slowly scab over.
The last year and a half has taught me the value of myself and slowly once again my child like nature is coming out and being more confident. It has taught me I am a kind and good person. It has also allowed me to connect with other people that are experiencing this type of relationship as well. It is very difficult for a man to talk about emotional abuse and even harder to find support groups that actually understand. For those of you that don't physically know me, I am larger than the average build and height for a male. I shouldn't have feelings of being truly scared of someone half my size but yet I was terrified.
I still suffer from moments of anxiety if I think too long about my past. Society doesn't allow for a "strong man" type to share feelings like these. As support groups and funding for people like me are hard to find, my goal is to offer some of my support to someone else that might be needing it. There were several times during the relationship I actually questioned my own sanity. I questioned right to my core as a person and it had an impact on everything I did everyday.
It has been a long slow climb of my mountain and it has been difficult. I sill have moments where I miss her very much as I felt she truly was my best friend. Inside and out she was the most beautiful person I have known at that intimate level. I also know in her way she truly cared for me as well.
I encourage you to start creating your environment that will enable you to be healthy and emotionally stable. Know that you can do this and the pain will diminish, but never truly fully go away. It is like recovering from an addiction and everyday you have to mentally focus on your outcome that is healthy for you. You will also slip back and want to reunite, but that's ok too. Just don't be too hard on yourself with a slip and allow that slip to ruin all the hard work you have put into your improvement.
It is love and hope I want all of you to feel when you read this chapter and help others that need your strength. Or believe in yourself that you can overcome any barrier you might currently have in your life.
The Second Book The 82nd Chapter - Do You Know Your Gift
Dec 1/17
What makes you unique over the billions of others on this place earth we call home? If you have identified your gift, do you use it? If so how often?
In my travels I have had the pleasure to meet a fellow by the name of Brad. During a few month period he and I would meet on a weekly basis with a group that focuses on sharing and helping each other in our growth. Several times the group wold discuss our goals and our passion. During these sharing moments I noticed Brad was quiet and vague when his turn would come to share his goals and aspirations. Then one day he shared with the group, I don't know my passion or my gift.
I was shocked to hear that from him, as my perception his gift is public speaking. During all the meetings he would command attention when he spoke due to a combination of his powerful voice and the energy he gave out. Brad is the type of person that when he speaks, the room goes silent and still.
One of my gifts is the ability to see peoples gifts in a moment of observing them. It was so clear to me his gift is speaking and that was why I was surprised he didn't see his gift. I thought of how I could be his bridge to clear his sight and so he too could see his own gift.
So the next meeting when I felt his pause about his goals and the direction he was taking in his life, it was then I spoke up. It was in this pause I asked him, are you aware of the presence you command when you speak? The room went silent, Brad paused for a moment and said no, I then suggested perhaps your gift is too speak to others. I comment on the fact that when you speak you make an impact on others and I can feel your passion come alive with each word you express.
A week goes past and then Brad commented, I can now see my path and I now know my goals. That unique gift of Brad is too speak and now he can also see it. He commented once you see you can no longer go back and un-see. How can you measure the impact of this one conversation with one person, when in a brief moment their entire view of themselves has now been changed forever.
As for as how often do you use your gift, as much as your able to possibly use it. I spoke before on working your obsessions, this is your time now to work your obsession constantly. By working it, you will grow your gift and create your energy to survive. Also by using your gift that will create the magic that will attract others to your craft.
With some inward reflection you will know this gift and do not be deterred by others who don't understand you, as you start to apply your gift. Like everything in your life, you will need to practice for 1000's of hours to master you talent. That snap shot in time when your meeting someone new and successful can be replicated in you. Realize before that snapshot in time when you met this person, they to have spent perhaps years perfecting their craft.
What makes you unique over the billions of others on this place earth we call home? If you have identified your gift, do you use it? If so how often?
In my travels I have had the pleasure to meet a fellow by the name of Brad. During a few month period he and I would meet on a weekly basis with a group that focuses on sharing and helping each other in our growth. Several times the group wold discuss our goals and our passion. During these sharing moments I noticed Brad was quiet and vague when his turn would come to share his goals and aspirations. Then one day he shared with the group, I don't know my passion or my gift.
I was shocked to hear that from him, as my perception his gift is public speaking. During all the meetings he would command attention when he spoke due to a combination of his powerful voice and the energy he gave out. Brad is the type of person that when he speaks, the room goes silent and still.
One of my gifts is the ability to see peoples gifts in a moment of observing them. It was so clear to me his gift is speaking and that was why I was surprised he didn't see his gift. I thought of how I could be his bridge to clear his sight and so he too could see his own gift.
So the next meeting when I felt his pause about his goals and the direction he was taking in his life, it was then I spoke up. It was in this pause I asked him, are you aware of the presence you command when you speak? The room went silent, Brad paused for a moment and said no, I then suggested perhaps your gift is too speak to others. I comment on the fact that when you speak you make an impact on others and I can feel your passion come alive with each word you express.
A week goes past and then Brad commented, I can now see my path and I now know my goals. That unique gift of Brad is too speak and now he can also see it. He commented once you see you can no longer go back and un-see. How can you measure the impact of this one conversation with one person, when in a brief moment their entire view of themselves has now been changed forever.
As for as how often do you use your gift, as much as your able to possibly use it. I spoke before on working your obsessions, this is your time now to work your obsession constantly. By working it, you will grow your gift and create your energy to survive. Also by using your gift that will create the magic that will attract others to your craft.
With some inward reflection you will know this gift and do not be deterred by others who don't understand you, as you start to apply your gift. Like everything in your life, you will need to practice for 1000's of hours to master you talent. That snap shot in time when your meeting someone new and successful can be replicated in you. Realize before that snapshot in time when you met this person, they to have spent perhaps years perfecting their craft.
The Second Book The 81st Chapter - Don't Waste Your Time
Nov 26/17
Do you feel your making the most of each of your day's? What do you do if you have some spare time? Are you creating value with your time or wasting your most precious resource of time?
The term consistency beats talent all day long comes to mind. I have talked before about your obsessions and the need for you to practice your passion obsessions. My thoughts went to my friend Todd and in one conversation a few months ago he planed a seed with me that raised my awareness of the value of time.
I was always aware of the passage of time but never really understood the full impact of personal time management. Todd has a gift of asking questions in the right moment and one conversation I was sharing about my journey of growth. As the conversation grew he asked me if I felt I was making the most value with my time. Up to that moment I never thought of time in that capacity and I knew I could do better with my time management. One of my wasters of time is social media exploring. I explore social media for other connections, ideas and to build a network of like minded people. This is my intent however my personality allows myself to get distracted and follow an endless trail of information on the internet.
It is these moments, I realize I am making choices that are not aligning up to my goal and dreams. The power of that question, if I am using my time effectively has made an impact. I am aware when I am wasting time and will consciously make another decision. An example of this though process is right now, I had several distractions today, but I knew I had to focus and share this chapter. If only one person reads these words and finds value in them, how it is possible to measure this time?
Recently I was watching Jimmy Fallon interview Jerry Seinfeld on the Tonight Show. In that interview Jerry touched on the fact it takes a lot of work to become successful in your life. He also touched on the fact your passion needs to become your obsession. With that lead in, Jimmy showed a picture of Jerry and a street full of paper bits that Jerry created in his first four years. A street full of words and a visual symbol of Jerry's dream. Not all of the material was successful yet most was and due to that obsession he has touched the lives of millions.
Success doesn't necessary mean to touch the lives of millions. Success means you have used your time effectively and created your chapter and increased your own self-worth. I am guessing you know the next question I am going to ask you. That question is, are you wasting your time? If you answer yes, what are you going to do different starting today? Tomorrow? This year? More importantly, how are you going to use your time that aligns up to your natural gifts?
Do you feel your making the most of each of your day's? What do you do if you have some spare time? Are you creating value with your time or wasting your most precious resource of time?
The term consistency beats talent all day long comes to mind. I have talked before about your obsessions and the need for you to practice your passion obsessions. My thoughts went to my friend Todd and in one conversation a few months ago he planed a seed with me that raised my awareness of the value of time.
I was always aware of the passage of time but never really understood the full impact of personal time management. Todd has a gift of asking questions in the right moment and one conversation I was sharing about my journey of growth. As the conversation grew he asked me if I felt I was making the most value with my time. Up to that moment I never thought of time in that capacity and I knew I could do better with my time management. One of my wasters of time is social media exploring. I explore social media for other connections, ideas and to build a network of like minded people. This is my intent however my personality allows myself to get distracted and follow an endless trail of information on the internet.
It is these moments, I realize I am making choices that are not aligning up to my goal and dreams. The power of that question, if I am using my time effectively has made an impact. I am aware when I am wasting time and will consciously make another decision. An example of this though process is right now, I had several distractions today, but I knew I had to focus and share this chapter. If only one person reads these words and finds value in them, how it is possible to measure this time?
Recently I was watching Jimmy Fallon interview Jerry Seinfeld on the Tonight Show. In that interview Jerry touched on the fact it takes a lot of work to become successful in your life. He also touched on the fact your passion needs to become your obsession. With that lead in, Jimmy showed a picture of Jerry and a street full of paper bits that Jerry created in his first four years. A street full of words and a visual symbol of Jerry's dream. Not all of the material was successful yet most was and due to that obsession he has touched the lives of millions.
Success doesn't necessary mean to touch the lives of millions. Success means you have used your time effectively and created your chapter and increased your own self-worth. I am guessing you know the next question I am going to ask you. That question is, are you wasting your time? If you answer yes, what are you going to do different starting today? Tomorrow? This year? More importantly, how are you going to use your time that aligns up to your natural gifts?
The Second Book The 80th Chapter - Relive Your Moments
Nov 26/17
Do you ever ask yourself how to get value out of your past? When do you relive your moments and how much time will you spend in those moment?
The other day I logged onto my Facebook account and a memory popped up of a year ago. This is when my son and I were at an airport heading out for another adventure. Both of us had smiles on our faces with the excitement of travel that lay ahead of us. I took a few moments to remember that time with my son and relived that trip.
As I relived that trip I didn't remember the financial costs at all, all the remember was the time I spent with my son. I often find when life's pressure seems to be mounting and when the demands of life are getting higher. It is in these times when we require some support and energy the most. Once you are realizing this pressure, it is then time to quiet your activity level and reflect back to a positive moment.
With this increase in life's pressure this sometimes will create a lack of clarity of your next steps and you may find yourself paralyzed. This is when the power of reliving you moments will provide you the vision to go forward. All of us will get tired and that is normal yet sometimes we are too hard on ourselves with our life. The demands we put on ourselves are fair, as they are our demands. The issue is the pace of our demands and the high pressure this will put on us to achieve our own expectations.
When the pace becomes too intense then we will start to lose our focus. When this happens think back to an positive moment and gather energy from that moment. The time you take on your reflection is up to you. You will know you have spent enough time looking back as you will receive a thought that will suggest you now need to move forward.
A key point is to listen to your internal voice which is your built in internal compass to show you that direction you need to take. The difficult part will be to not stay in your past of positive reflection for an extended period of time. As looking back too long will cause you to miss your now and your future. Life is about balance and if your balance is lost so will your ability to enjoy your life. As I shared my memory on my Facebook post, I smiled and felt an injection of energy to finish out my day with purpose.
Keep your life simple and full by using this process. Identify where you are at and search for a tool to go over your current obstacles Live and share your successes with others that helped create that environment of success in you. Gratitude will help take you where you need to go and attract like minded people that will also add to your life.
Do you ever ask yourself how to get value out of your past? When do you relive your moments and how much time will you spend in those moment?
The other day I logged onto my Facebook account and a memory popped up of a year ago. This is when my son and I were at an airport heading out for another adventure. Both of us had smiles on our faces with the excitement of travel that lay ahead of us. I took a few moments to remember that time with my son and relived that trip.
As I relived that trip I didn't remember the financial costs at all, all the remember was the time I spent with my son. I often find when life's pressure seems to be mounting and when the demands of life are getting higher. It is in these times when we require some support and energy the most. Once you are realizing this pressure, it is then time to quiet your activity level and reflect back to a positive moment.
With this increase in life's pressure this sometimes will create a lack of clarity of your next steps and you may find yourself paralyzed. This is when the power of reliving you moments will provide you the vision to go forward. All of us will get tired and that is normal yet sometimes we are too hard on ourselves with our life. The demands we put on ourselves are fair, as they are our demands. The issue is the pace of our demands and the high pressure this will put on us to achieve our own expectations.
When the pace becomes too intense then we will start to lose our focus. When this happens think back to an positive moment and gather energy from that moment. The time you take on your reflection is up to you. You will know you have spent enough time looking back as you will receive a thought that will suggest you now need to move forward.
A key point is to listen to your internal voice which is your built in internal compass to show you that direction you need to take. The difficult part will be to not stay in your past of positive reflection for an extended period of time. As looking back too long will cause you to miss your now and your future. Life is about balance and if your balance is lost so will your ability to enjoy your life. As I shared my memory on my Facebook post, I smiled and felt an injection of energy to finish out my day with purpose.
Keep your life simple and full by using this process. Identify where you are at and search for a tool to go over your current obstacles Live and share your successes with others that helped create that environment of success in you. Gratitude will help take you where you need to go and attract like minded people that will also add to your life.
The Second Book The 79th Chapter - Are You Making a Difference
Nov 20/17
Have you ever wondered if you are making any amount of difference to anyone or adding value in your work? If you are making that difference, how do you measure it and how do you improve your difference?
In short, with every thought and intention you are making an impact or difference. Whether it be large or small your energy will cause a ripple affect with a start of your thought. With that energy you create from your thoughts, it will expand out to where you have directed that thought. If you happen to direct a thought to another person, you will have an affect on them, even if you don't have any physical contact, you will leave an impression on that person.
Those impressions overtime and if they are repeated will have a larger impact on that person. As we are all based on energy and can feel the affects of that energy, it is vital, we only extend kindness in our thoughts. Some of us man not fully understand why we are feeling a certain way after we are directed with this energy but it does cause a sense of uncomfortableness.
I would like to share a story about my blogging and I was questioning what the value was for others reading my blog. I would ask myself, am I making a positive difference or a positive impact in the writing of these sharings. Not long ago I met up with an old friend and I asked him they very question. To my surprise and without hesitation he indicated he has read each one and he expressed the fact value was added by the time he spent reading them.
In that moment I realized I had an impact to a person for over a year and a half and I didn't realize it at the time. Furthermore it reinforced the fact that with each thought I am impacting others and my own reality. John Maxwell often will comment to lead others, first you need to lead yourself. Which has shifted my thoughts to the interaction of thoughts and limited time I have to write.
Another friend of mine once made a comment to me that has stayed with me. That comment was make sure you use your time wisely. I have integrated that comment into my daily routine now. When I am building my thoughts in that moment I am asking myself, am I using my time wisely? Will these thoughts and time I am spending be creating a positive difference or not?
Most of the time, yes I am trying to create positive thoughts of time however there are moments I catch myself off base with my thoughts and I realize I am wasting time. I have to be careful on how I am spending my time as I will sometimes drift away from my focus.
The pattern of awareness is key and once we are aware, the true value of who we are as a person becomes apparent. The sense of accountability then is on us with this gift of knowledge followed quickly by awareness.
What is your choice of difference going to be on the outcomes to you and others?
Have you ever wondered if you are making any amount of difference to anyone or adding value in your work? If you are making that difference, how do you measure it and how do you improve your difference?
In short, with every thought and intention you are making an impact or difference. Whether it be large or small your energy will cause a ripple affect with a start of your thought. With that energy you create from your thoughts, it will expand out to where you have directed that thought. If you happen to direct a thought to another person, you will have an affect on them, even if you don't have any physical contact, you will leave an impression on that person.
Those impressions overtime and if they are repeated will have a larger impact on that person. As we are all based on energy and can feel the affects of that energy, it is vital, we only extend kindness in our thoughts. Some of us man not fully understand why we are feeling a certain way after we are directed with this energy but it does cause a sense of uncomfortableness.
I would like to share a story about my blogging and I was questioning what the value was for others reading my blog. I would ask myself, am I making a positive difference or a positive impact in the writing of these sharings. Not long ago I met up with an old friend and I asked him they very question. To my surprise and without hesitation he indicated he has read each one and he expressed the fact value was added by the time he spent reading them.
In that moment I realized I had an impact to a person for over a year and a half and I didn't realize it at the time. Furthermore it reinforced the fact that with each thought I am impacting others and my own reality. John Maxwell often will comment to lead others, first you need to lead yourself. Which has shifted my thoughts to the interaction of thoughts and limited time I have to write.
Another friend of mine once made a comment to me that has stayed with me. That comment was make sure you use your time wisely. I have integrated that comment into my daily routine now. When I am building my thoughts in that moment I am asking myself, am I using my time wisely? Will these thoughts and time I am spending be creating a positive difference or not?
Most of the time, yes I am trying to create positive thoughts of time however there are moments I catch myself off base with my thoughts and I realize I am wasting time. I have to be careful on how I am spending my time as I will sometimes drift away from my focus.
The pattern of awareness is key and once we are aware, the true value of who we are as a person becomes apparent. The sense of accountability then is on us with this gift of knowledge followed quickly by awareness.
What is your choice of difference going to be on the outcomes to you and others?
Tuesday 26 December 2017
The Second Book The 78th Chapter - When Do You Focus On Your Growth
Nov 13/17
How do you know when to push forward on your growth and when to pause? Do you know what to focus on in your moment? Can you recognize your particular feeling that signals your need to push forward with your growth?
I was thinking about success and how do we actually taste our successes. Then my thoughts went to the pioneers of the North American Continent and some of the actions taken by our previous generations have not been all positive over the hundreds of years. Yet as a human race we are still trying to evolve and move forward. With all the firsts we have achieved, to the first main in space to cures for diseases, there is a common trait in all we do to reach success and that is to never quit with each failure toward the goal.
That common trait is our ability to move forward in the moments when we least want too. Can you think of something you want to achieve but it is difficult for you? What is that dream for you that you want to master? For me, one of them is to have a higher level of physical activity that leads to me maintaining my physical health. I have realized that my physical health is also connected to my emotional health and they are both directly impacted by my choices.
Something that I have always enjoyed doing, once I start doing it, is running. The feeling of the physical effort and the sense of accomplishment I feel once I have complete a run is actually quite addicting. Now that I have a set routine for my run, most days are pretty typical and do take effort to complete the run, but I would not consider this effort difficult.
What I have observed on my running routine is the days when I least feel like running. Perhaps I didn't sleep well the night before or it can be as simple as I really don't feel like it. It is in those moments, when I push past my self-imposed barriers, that I grow the most after the completion of the run. When I force myself to put on my running shoes and start my journey, it is during the first few minutes that are the most difficult. Yet as I near completion of the end of my run, each step taken seems to become easier. It is in these moments I have the highest return on my investment in both my physical ability and emotional health.
I have realized that in the moments I least feel like doing a growth exercise is the moment to focus on my growth. When I was able to climb out of my static phase is when the most I could feel the positive return on effort. This pattern is the same in all of the success of our known history.
Almost all leaders as some point in time want to give up and give in to average but they don't. This is the trait in them that allows them to be a leader. That fire that is ever burning and can not be extinguished except by themselves.
The pattern to focus harder to achieve your goals when you least feel like it is of vital importance. As it is in these moment you will enable yourself to move forward.
How do you know when to push forward on your growth and when to pause? Do you know what to focus on in your moment? Can you recognize your particular feeling that signals your need to push forward with your growth?
I was thinking about success and how do we actually taste our successes. Then my thoughts went to the pioneers of the North American Continent and some of the actions taken by our previous generations have not been all positive over the hundreds of years. Yet as a human race we are still trying to evolve and move forward. With all the firsts we have achieved, to the first main in space to cures for diseases, there is a common trait in all we do to reach success and that is to never quit with each failure toward the goal.
That common trait is our ability to move forward in the moments when we least want too. Can you think of something you want to achieve but it is difficult for you? What is that dream for you that you want to master? For me, one of them is to have a higher level of physical activity that leads to me maintaining my physical health. I have realized that my physical health is also connected to my emotional health and they are both directly impacted by my choices.
Something that I have always enjoyed doing, once I start doing it, is running. The feeling of the physical effort and the sense of accomplishment I feel once I have complete a run is actually quite addicting. Now that I have a set routine for my run, most days are pretty typical and do take effort to complete the run, but I would not consider this effort difficult.
What I have observed on my running routine is the days when I least feel like running. Perhaps I didn't sleep well the night before or it can be as simple as I really don't feel like it. It is in those moments, when I push past my self-imposed barriers, that I grow the most after the completion of the run. When I force myself to put on my running shoes and start my journey, it is during the first few minutes that are the most difficult. Yet as I near completion of the end of my run, each step taken seems to become easier. It is in these moments I have the highest return on my investment in both my physical ability and emotional health.
I have realized that in the moments I least feel like doing a growth exercise is the moment to focus on my growth. When I was able to climb out of my static phase is when the most I could feel the positive return on effort. This pattern is the same in all of the success of our known history.
Almost all leaders as some point in time want to give up and give in to average but they don't. This is the trait in them that allows them to be a leader. That fire that is ever burning and can not be extinguished except by themselves.
The pattern to focus harder to achieve your goals when you least feel like it is of vital importance. As it is in these moment you will enable yourself to move forward.
The Second Book The 77th Chapter - Sharing Experiences and Increasing Value
Nov 8/17
Have you wondered how to increase value in others? Can you think of a time when someone added value to you? Remember back of how that person has made that impact on you.
All of us deep down want to provide value and to be valued by our tribe. Sometimes as our life goes on we forget how important the simple things in life really are.
I know when I was in my previous managing role there was a time I lost my balance. In my work world I excelled however at the cost of my personal life. I realized what I enjoyed doing and I was good at the gift of conversation and increasing the value of what others thought of themselves. Through that gift of conversation I am able to leave a sense to that person of an increased value. I now practice that fully in my personal life as well.
As I am creating this book there has been several times while I am writing that a random conversation occurs. One has remained with me as a conversation that has left value in both me and that other person. This conversation occurred with the waitress I had that day while I wrote. It happened at the end of my lunch while I was paying my bill. It started out the typical general talk but quickly she shared she is also a writer. Turns out she creates self development reads based on her life's experiences and from these experiences she shares of how to improve the readers life.
So a very similar style and format of how I create. I asked what her current status is in having her book published. She stated that she has tried the traditional way with several publishers however at this time she has not had success in getting her first book out there. I then shared my story of how I self publish and how easy that process is. I could immediately see by that sharing the spark of hope come alive in her eyes. I offered to provide any help I could to help her achieve her goal of having her book out to the world.
The gift I received from this brief interaction was I was able to help someone else. My goal is to daily make a positive difference in everyone I see. If you are unsure of how to start enjoying your life perhaps it's as simple as one conversation at a time. Focus on what you want to achieve with each moment and repeat. Allow the natural flow of energy to carry you to where you want to level up.
Take some healthy risks to get out of your comfort zone. If you remain in your comfort zone you will never grow into your potential as a human being. When I first started having random conversations, I wasn't very good at it and I was nervous. Now it comes easily and I am allowing my natural gift to make a difference with others.
What do you want to do different today? How are you going to be different today? When are you going to take your action?
Have you wondered how to increase value in others? Can you think of a time when someone added value to you? Remember back of how that person has made that impact on you.
All of us deep down want to provide value and to be valued by our tribe. Sometimes as our life goes on we forget how important the simple things in life really are.
I know when I was in my previous managing role there was a time I lost my balance. In my work world I excelled however at the cost of my personal life. I realized what I enjoyed doing and I was good at the gift of conversation and increasing the value of what others thought of themselves. Through that gift of conversation I am able to leave a sense to that person of an increased value. I now practice that fully in my personal life as well.
As I am creating this book there has been several times while I am writing that a random conversation occurs. One has remained with me as a conversation that has left value in both me and that other person. This conversation occurred with the waitress I had that day while I wrote. It happened at the end of my lunch while I was paying my bill. It started out the typical general talk but quickly she shared she is also a writer. Turns out she creates self development reads based on her life's experiences and from these experiences she shares of how to improve the readers life.
So a very similar style and format of how I create. I asked what her current status is in having her book published. She stated that she has tried the traditional way with several publishers however at this time she has not had success in getting her first book out there. I then shared my story of how I self publish and how easy that process is. I could immediately see by that sharing the spark of hope come alive in her eyes. I offered to provide any help I could to help her achieve her goal of having her book out to the world.
The gift I received from this brief interaction was I was able to help someone else. My goal is to daily make a positive difference in everyone I see. If you are unsure of how to start enjoying your life perhaps it's as simple as one conversation at a time. Focus on what you want to achieve with each moment and repeat. Allow the natural flow of energy to carry you to where you want to level up.
Take some healthy risks to get out of your comfort zone. If you remain in your comfort zone you will never grow into your potential as a human being. When I first started having random conversations, I wasn't very good at it and I was nervous. Now it comes easily and I am allowing my natural gift to make a difference with others.
What do you want to do different today? How are you going to be different today? When are you going to take your action?
Monday 11 December 2017
The Second Book The 76th Chapter - Maintain Long Term Connections
Nov 6/17
Do you desire a close inner circle of friends? Have you seen other people with many strong friendships, and wanted to build that in your life as well? Do you know how to accomplish this?
We are all social creatures, and we need to belong and interact with a tribe. I view a tribe as a group of people that helps us when we are weak, and that we give back to when they need our strength. When I was younger I kept my guard in my interactions with others. So high were my walls that I didn't let anyone in, yet I longed for a strong base of friends. I am naturally an introvert and I enjoy being alone. However, once I got older I realized that due to this lack of exposure to good people, I was limiting my opportunities to level up.
I knew I didn't have all the answers, and if I wanted to learn more, that others would freely share their experiences with me. I worried that if people shared with me, they would expect something in return. I realize now that I have a healthy inner circle of people, the environment is one of giving with the hope, and not the expectation, of reciprocation. I also realize that the effort I put into creating and maintaining positive relationships is vital. Even amazing people will drift away if all I do is take from them, or wait for them to contact me.
I learned to allow balance to come into my life, and if a thought of a friend comes to mind, I will reach out to them. Moments of thoughts like these are the universe’s way of talking to us. These thoughts arise from an intuition that someone needs our support, or we have a gift for someone else. Listening to these clues from the universe can help guide you to act in a way to add value, for yourself and others.
Once I started to follow this pattern in my life, I noticed a strengthening of my band of fellowships. My inner circle began to grow and now I am maintaining these long-term relationships at a level I didn’t experience before. I also noticed that almost all conversations start with: "it's great to hear from you and I was thinking about you." In my past quite often, I wouldn't reach out to others when these thoughts came to me, for two reasons: the fear of extending myself and choosing to be vulnerable, and of course, the concern that they might want something in return.
Reaching out is sometimes about choosing to be vulnerable to judgement and rejection. It’s a hurdle that takes self-compassion, and recognition of your own value as a person, to turn into a habit. Truly reaching out is not looking for validation from others, but looking to give them validation and energy.
If you are already effectively maintaining long term relationships, when is the last time you have taught this ability to someone else that needs this skill to level up? Perhaps one conversation with them will plant the seed of awareness to start growing this habit. Teaching others the habit of reaching out, and the courage to build it, is powerful way to increase the strength of connections in your inner circle. If they take your example and run with it by teaching others, imagine the impact on your greater community, all started from one conversation. Strong connections are like well-maintained roads, which allow the traffic of kindness and understanding to flow freely back and forth.
Do you desire a close inner circle of friends? Have you seen other people with many strong friendships, and wanted to build that in your life as well? Do you know how to accomplish this?
We are all social creatures, and we need to belong and interact with a tribe. I view a tribe as a group of people that helps us when we are weak, and that we give back to when they need our strength. When I was younger I kept my guard in my interactions with others. So high were my walls that I didn't let anyone in, yet I longed for a strong base of friends. I am naturally an introvert and I enjoy being alone. However, once I got older I realized that due to this lack of exposure to good people, I was limiting my opportunities to level up.
I knew I didn't have all the answers, and if I wanted to learn more, that others would freely share their experiences with me. I worried that if people shared with me, they would expect something in return. I realize now that I have a healthy inner circle of people, the environment is one of giving with the hope, and not the expectation, of reciprocation. I also realize that the effort I put into creating and maintaining positive relationships is vital. Even amazing people will drift away if all I do is take from them, or wait for them to contact me.
I learned to allow balance to come into my life, and if a thought of a friend comes to mind, I will reach out to them. Moments of thoughts like these are the universe’s way of talking to us. These thoughts arise from an intuition that someone needs our support, or we have a gift for someone else. Listening to these clues from the universe can help guide you to act in a way to add value, for yourself and others.
Once I started to follow this pattern in my life, I noticed a strengthening of my band of fellowships. My inner circle began to grow and now I am maintaining these long-term relationships at a level I didn’t experience before. I also noticed that almost all conversations start with: "it's great to hear from you and I was thinking about you." In my past quite often, I wouldn't reach out to others when these thoughts came to me, for two reasons: the fear of extending myself and choosing to be vulnerable, and of course, the concern that they might want something in return.
Reaching out is sometimes about choosing to be vulnerable to judgement and rejection. It’s a hurdle that takes self-compassion, and recognition of your own value as a person, to turn into a habit. Truly reaching out is not looking for validation from others, but looking to give them validation and energy.
If you are already effectively maintaining long term relationships, when is the last time you have taught this ability to someone else that needs this skill to level up? Perhaps one conversation with them will plant the seed of awareness to start growing this habit. Teaching others the habit of reaching out, and the courage to build it, is powerful way to increase the strength of connections in your inner circle. If they take your example and run with it by teaching others, imagine the impact on your greater community, all started from one conversation. Strong connections are like well-maintained roads, which allow the traffic of kindness and understanding to flow freely back and forth.
Sunday 3 December 2017
The Second Book The 75th Chapter - Master Our Thoughts Master Our Life
Nov 6/17
People talk about their success and will give you direction of how to replicate that success in your life. With that direction, what does that really mean to you and how do you actually apply that direction into meaningful results?
Helpful mentors are keys to all of us to key growing and learning. Yet it needs to be deeper than a surface of following a set of given instructions for our success. People make millions packing their products but I wonder how much value individuals actually utilize from these products? I completely agree with this approach of people sharing and creating their energy to survive, as that is what I am currently doing as well. I think most of these products will provide value to people that buy them but how do you fully utilize the opportunity and integrate these new concepts to your life.
As I thought about this question my mind drifted to the power of our thoughts. The thought process in your mind is your driver and will determine of how fulfilling your life can or will be. Once your awareness has been raised and you find your alignment passion then go out and buy your development product. The next step is to use this product into shaping your thoughts into mastering your thoughts on what you need to improve in your life.
This is a long process and that length of this process directly relates to the effort of the thought that you put into this process. For the accountant types, this pattern is similar to an account ledger. If you have more days of positive thoughts this will result in you to be in the black on your personal ledger. The higher the level of black the sooner you will realize your success. All of which is directly related to you in the amount of effort you put into your quest.
My thoughts turn to my kids and I remember when I was a younger parent, I didn't feel I had the skills to parent at the level I wanted too. I recognized that even though I didn't know all the correct steps to do at the time. I did realize a direct correlation to time invested in my thoughts and result outcomes of raising my kids become directly related.
The idea of just to start to do something on your goals comes to mind. Once you start doing you will learn what to do. This pattern replicates in all forms of learning and once a start has occurred you can never unlearn. With raising my kids, I always know I could have improved however now both kids at a young adult age are independent and happy. As a parent, isn't that a great gift and really I feel my goal was accomplished. To have two individual amazing children adding value to our society is a blessing. They have taught me the importance of mastering my thoughts to help master my life.
Over the rest of today, this week, this month and this year, what are you going to do with your thoughts? How are you going to integrate your thoughts to create your next steps to live your life?
People talk about their success and will give you direction of how to replicate that success in your life. With that direction, what does that really mean to you and how do you actually apply that direction into meaningful results?
Helpful mentors are keys to all of us to key growing and learning. Yet it needs to be deeper than a surface of following a set of given instructions for our success. People make millions packing their products but I wonder how much value individuals actually utilize from these products? I completely agree with this approach of people sharing and creating their energy to survive, as that is what I am currently doing as well. I think most of these products will provide value to people that buy them but how do you fully utilize the opportunity and integrate these new concepts to your life.
As I thought about this question my mind drifted to the power of our thoughts. The thought process in your mind is your driver and will determine of how fulfilling your life can or will be. Once your awareness has been raised and you find your alignment passion then go out and buy your development product. The next step is to use this product into shaping your thoughts into mastering your thoughts on what you need to improve in your life.
This is a long process and that length of this process directly relates to the effort of the thought that you put into this process. For the accountant types, this pattern is similar to an account ledger. If you have more days of positive thoughts this will result in you to be in the black on your personal ledger. The higher the level of black the sooner you will realize your success. All of which is directly related to you in the amount of effort you put into your quest.
My thoughts turn to my kids and I remember when I was a younger parent, I didn't feel I had the skills to parent at the level I wanted too. I recognized that even though I didn't know all the correct steps to do at the time. I did realize a direct correlation to time invested in my thoughts and result outcomes of raising my kids become directly related.
The idea of just to start to do something on your goals comes to mind. Once you start doing you will learn what to do. This pattern replicates in all forms of learning and once a start has occurred you can never unlearn. With raising my kids, I always know I could have improved however now both kids at a young adult age are independent and happy. As a parent, isn't that a great gift and really I feel my goal was accomplished. To have two individual amazing children adding value to our society is a blessing. They have taught me the importance of mastering my thoughts to help master my life.
Over the rest of today, this week, this month and this year, what are you going to do with your thoughts? How are you going to integrate your thoughts to create your next steps to live your life?
Saturday 2 December 2017
The Second Book The 74th Chapter - Give Vision
Nov 3/17
Do you have the ability to see the big picture? If you do, do you help others see the vision as well? Or perhaps you feel the need to see more than you have before?
To see the big picture of your reality, to some this ability comes naturally and with ease, hence we view them as natural born leaders. To others that don't have this ability it can be taught. If you find yourself wanting to see more and your not able too and you are not sure what your next step is. You can relax as you have just completed your first step on leaning your vision.
Now your next step is to identify someone you know that just seems to get "it" and ask if they will teach you. This process development time will vary depending on your relationship with your vision mentor and how much time you spend working your new skill. Once you learn your skill of vision then it is your obligation to freely give this gift of sight to others.
My story on this is about a good friend of mine that I have known for about 6 years now. We first met when he joined my training team at my former position. I remember meeting him for the first time in the interview process and how much youth type energy he showed. Any question asked of him he had an answer of how to solve the question. He also had deep and insightful life experiences that he brought to his new role.
As he started in his position, he quickly made new positive work relationships and accomplished many new tasks at his work. With all this positive qualities it became quite apparent he lacked the ability to see the big picture. Due to this lack of ability he was not able to utilize his full potential. John Maxwell has stated leadership is influence, nothing more nothing less. As he couldn't see the big picture when he had to lead other leaders he wasn't able to articulate the importance of his vision, as his vision didn't exist. His lack of ability in this one area had nothing to do with his attitude, in fact his attitude was always positive. When you don't know you don't see and that is not a reflection on anyone's competence. The reality is once a leader identifies this issue in a team member, competence directly transfers to the leader as well as accountability of the performance of the team member.
It was at that time we started to meet on a weekly basis on training the skill of seeing the big picture. The overall theme was to debrief on his last week and ask him from his perspective how it went on building his vision. Did the conversations and projects all have alignment on what the organization required of him to increase the overall value? Most of the time through his own reflection he was able to identify where he succeeded and where he needed to improve. When he wasn't able to answer my questions, I would provide him with direction on next steps.
This process took about a year and once he saw the vision he couldn't unsee. We still remain in touch and I will never forget his excitement as he shared with me that he is now teaching others this process. I knew at that moment that each moment spent with him will continue to remain and grow.
In that moment I knew I had a small part in his growth and the high sense of self-satisfication I felt was truly a gift.
Out of a rating scale of 1-10, where would you rate your vision? What are your next steps going to be?
Do you have the ability to see the big picture? If you do, do you help others see the vision as well? Or perhaps you feel the need to see more than you have before?
To see the big picture of your reality, to some this ability comes naturally and with ease, hence we view them as natural born leaders. To others that don't have this ability it can be taught. If you find yourself wanting to see more and your not able too and you are not sure what your next step is. You can relax as you have just completed your first step on leaning your vision.
Now your next step is to identify someone you know that just seems to get "it" and ask if they will teach you. This process development time will vary depending on your relationship with your vision mentor and how much time you spend working your new skill. Once you learn your skill of vision then it is your obligation to freely give this gift of sight to others.
My story on this is about a good friend of mine that I have known for about 6 years now. We first met when he joined my training team at my former position. I remember meeting him for the first time in the interview process and how much youth type energy he showed. Any question asked of him he had an answer of how to solve the question. He also had deep and insightful life experiences that he brought to his new role.
As he started in his position, he quickly made new positive work relationships and accomplished many new tasks at his work. With all this positive qualities it became quite apparent he lacked the ability to see the big picture. Due to this lack of ability he was not able to utilize his full potential. John Maxwell has stated leadership is influence, nothing more nothing less. As he couldn't see the big picture when he had to lead other leaders he wasn't able to articulate the importance of his vision, as his vision didn't exist. His lack of ability in this one area had nothing to do with his attitude, in fact his attitude was always positive. When you don't know you don't see and that is not a reflection on anyone's competence. The reality is once a leader identifies this issue in a team member, competence directly transfers to the leader as well as accountability of the performance of the team member.
It was at that time we started to meet on a weekly basis on training the skill of seeing the big picture. The overall theme was to debrief on his last week and ask him from his perspective how it went on building his vision. Did the conversations and projects all have alignment on what the organization required of him to increase the overall value? Most of the time through his own reflection he was able to identify where he succeeded and where he needed to improve. When he wasn't able to answer my questions, I would provide him with direction on next steps.
This process took about a year and once he saw the vision he couldn't unsee. We still remain in touch and I will never forget his excitement as he shared with me that he is now teaching others this process. I knew at that moment that each moment spent with him will continue to remain and grow.
In that moment I knew I had a small part in his growth and the high sense of self-satisfication I felt was truly a gift.
Out of a rating scale of 1-10, where would you rate your vision? What are your next steps going to be?
Friday 1 December 2017
The Second Book The 73rd Chapter - Grow Your Perspective
Nov 3/17
Have you ever wanted to expand your perspective of life? As you thought about that, have you wondered about a possible way to accomplishing growing your awareness of the world?
As I continue my quest to learn more, I also asked that same question. One way I found to grow my perspective is to travel. To travel, it doesn't mean to spend a lot of money on a trip but it is a simple as mentally traveling out of your current mindset. Of course to be able to physically travel, will expand your perspective quickly to others way of life. From the interaction of others that will provide you with experiences and thoughts you would have not achieved on your own.
There are so many ways to travel and grow your view of your reality. To grow your reality of understanding will provide you with more of life's gifts. It will also provide you a competitive advantage in your ability to gather energy to survive.
My story of travel today is the start of posting my spare room in my house on-line for travelers to stay. This process hardly cost any money to get started yet once the room was on-line people started to come. All of the people that have come so far have added a greater perspective and added value of their gift of conversation.
One guest in particular was from Kuwait and his visit has remained with me. One evening we were sharing about our cultures and the general idea of exploring our world. As the conversation progressed he commented on his observation of how much his travels have added to his life. One observation he has was some folks are unaware of what is out there in the world and don't seem to have a desire to become aware. His comment was not one of judgement but one of wonder of why some folks are not curious to grow their perspective.
My thoughts drift to John Maxwell and one of his quotes - "When is the last time you have done something for the first time?" Ask yourself where would you view yourself currently in your growth cycle? Are you wanting to learn or are you content to stay as is? If your okay with staying as is, I highly encourage you to change that mindset. With that mindset you are starting to build your mountain of regret. This mountain of regret will grow all your life and when your out of time with this life; you will be crushed with your mountain of regret. All the things you weren't aware of, suddenly you will be and your gift of time will be wasted.
As you read and your awareness is starting to grow you do have time to adjust your course. It is a simple as a start of creating your thought in your mind. With this start you will feel your awareness growing and your perspective. This growth of perspective happens with the re-engaging of your imagination, that you used so often when you were younger.
Where will be your first trip location be to grow your perspective?
Have you ever wanted to expand your perspective of life? As you thought about that, have you wondered about a possible way to accomplishing growing your awareness of the world?
As I continue my quest to learn more, I also asked that same question. One way I found to grow my perspective is to travel. To travel, it doesn't mean to spend a lot of money on a trip but it is a simple as mentally traveling out of your current mindset. Of course to be able to physically travel, will expand your perspective quickly to others way of life. From the interaction of others that will provide you with experiences and thoughts you would have not achieved on your own.
There are so many ways to travel and grow your view of your reality. To grow your reality of understanding will provide you with more of life's gifts. It will also provide you a competitive advantage in your ability to gather energy to survive.
My story of travel today is the start of posting my spare room in my house on-line for travelers to stay. This process hardly cost any money to get started yet once the room was on-line people started to come. All of the people that have come so far have added a greater perspective and added value of their gift of conversation.
One guest in particular was from Kuwait and his visit has remained with me. One evening we were sharing about our cultures and the general idea of exploring our world. As the conversation progressed he commented on his observation of how much his travels have added to his life. One observation he has was some folks are unaware of what is out there in the world and don't seem to have a desire to become aware. His comment was not one of judgement but one of wonder of why some folks are not curious to grow their perspective.
My thoughts drift to John Maxwell and one of his quotes - "When is the last time you have done something for the first time?" Ask yourself where would you view yourself currently in your growth cycle? Are you wanting to learn or are you content to stay as is? If your okay with staying as is, I highly encourage you to change that mindset. With that mindset you are starting to build your mountain of regret. This mountain of regret will grow all your life and when your out of time with this life; you will be crushed with your mountain of regret. All the things you weren't aware of, suddenly you will be and your gift of time will be wasted.
As you read and your awareness is starting to grow you do have time to adjust your course. It is a simple as a start of creating your thought in your mind. With this start you will feel your awareness growing and your perspective. This growth of perspective happens with the re-engaging of your imagination, that you used so often when you were younger.
Where will be your first trip location be to grow your perspective?
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)