The Third Book the 23rd Chapter - Jesus is Pain

 

Jesus is Pain

September 6, 2020

I named this chapter “Jesus is Pain” as it garners attention. Whether you believe in Christ or not, it provokes an emotional response.

It is important to focus on the non-believers of the love and grace of God that flows through Jesus and into us. At some point in our lives, we may not have understood the concept of being born-again. Becoming aware of the concept may have been when the hard work began. Once you see, you cannot forget. Once you are aware of how to live your truth, which is in the alignment of God’s, no matter how hard you try to push away from that sight of the vision, it never ceases. The more you try to move away from making self-serving choices, the more challenging the love of God makes itself known to you. The faster you run, the brighter the vision becomes of knowing your truth.

I am a new born again person that struggled for many years. I didn’t allow the love of Jesus to fill my life. I am hopeful you will begin to understand why you are not allowing that gift into your life. I had been told all I had sought was “just through that door”. I struggled for many years before walking through the door and deciding to do it was most likely the hardest thing I had ever done. I often wonder why I was resistant. Even when I did walk through, I still didn’t understand why I was feeling so much pain. It was after some prayer, thought, and guidance from the Spirit and mentors that I realized why it took so long and why it hurt so much. Once I chose to walk through that door of a relationship with Christ, I was filled with peace and understanding of self that was not present before.

As individuals, we are often broken and do not have a relationship with Christ. All of us have either experienced trauma or have made horrible mistakes in our past that riddles us with shame and guilt. While we don’t have a relationship with Christ, we may turn to alternative forms of treatment that may include alcohol, illegal drugs, or prescription medication. Over time, using any combination of these medications, we may experience an intense feeling of inadequacy fade away. We may begin to think that we are okay and that we are coping well. Eventually, gentle nudges or spiritual sledgehammers provide moments of clarity. Feelings of discomfort and past pains return. A realization that we are not fully healed from our past and how we dealt with our pain only treated the symptoms of our self imposed burden of remorse and guilt. We may doubt why we have been encouraged to have a relationship with Christ, but are still experiencing pain. Why does that happen? Traditionally we are taught there is nothing but love and peace through that relationship.

In the quiet moments, no matter how hard we try to ignore and deny what we are feeling, the truth becomes clear that we have to deal with all of our pain before we walk through “that door”. We have to acknowledge and deal with all the pain that is in our life. It doesn’t mean it needs to be repaired; it just means it needs to be addressed. By walking through “that door”, you will finally be provided specific tools to heal finally and live your truth with clarity and confidence.

As my worldly accomplishments were being stripped away and I hit my rock bottom, a miracle happened. It became easier to give in and walk through “the door” vs. being afraid of facing my pain and demons. I denied Him for so many years as I didn’t want to experience my pain. I didn’t want to stop running. After a failed intimate relationship, I tried to cope with a combination of therapy to gain an understanding about the other person’s actions and alcohol. Every time I experienced loneliness, it became too strong for me to control. I allowed alcohol to kill my feelings of despair. I didn’t want to feel the sense of loss. I didn’t want to feel the pain of failure. I didn’t want to be alone. I fooled myself into believing that I was okay and that I was healed, all with my own power, and I didn’t need the healing power of Christ.

I lied enough to myself that I believed it, but with an unnecessary cost. I didn’t want to deal with the pain.  I could continue to bury it. I didn’t have the strength to mourn the loss. I was only self-medicating. With the excess consumption of alcohol, I experienced increased blood pressure, weight gain, and gout flare-ups. One of many examples, I continued to be disillusioned and denied Christ. 

As gentle nudges began hitting me over the head daily, I realized I had to deal with my past. I had to remember and identify all the trauma in my life in order to heal. Before walking through “the door”, not knowing why it was so difficult or uncomfortable, I knew is the pain to not walk through was more significant. Faith, experience, and the love of Christ were a gift given to me later. Now, with these tools, I am able to have the strength to heal and repair.

Some moments are still challenging for me. However, I have realized that the nature of sin or to repeat my past mistakes come from a place of negative energy and not from God. I have also realized, upon reflection and learning, that God always provides us with an “out” before we commit our sin. The most important thing I now consider is that “out”. Considering it, I am now able to remove myself from past patterns and stay in alignment with my relationship with Jesus. Through prayer and meditation, I lower my anxiety levels, which allows me to identify areas of my life that I do not want to address. The root cause is always something so deep and painful that I don’t want to deal with it. The more I avoid and choose strength to overcome the avoidance, the more anxiety I feel. As I have repeated this uncomfortable task many times in my life since I have walked through “the door”, I now know how to deal with the root cause before the anxiety paralyzes my judgment to make sound decisions.

In moments when I do not know the root cause, I reply on prayer for visibility. I have also increased my understanding of sin. I will use the example of pre-marital sex and how we are taught our choices we may act upon; it is not in our best interests and it is self-serving.

The first concept is usually easy to identify. We know the thought of being intimate with another person is not in alignment with growth out of wedlock. It is easy to have the gentle nudge that we shouldn’t be considering it, by telling ourselves lies. The hard begins. When we are getting close to the act, it is more difficult to stop. It is so easy identify the sin, but hard to stop before committing it.

If you are one that receives visions of the future, this was an area that was difficult for me to identify as a sin. It was hard to identify, but once the vision was provided, it was easy to stop the behaviour. It tied into the hidden dark areas of my past. Creating anxiety within me, I knew I was out of alignment, but fear continued to build. My spiritual mentor Mark was able to teach me how to use the power of prayer to provide visibility to my root cause. Once I had sight, I was immediately able to stop the sin and face the pain. Previously, I hadn’t been able to address without the use of avoidance and alcohol. Even then, I had never dealt with my issues. With the help of lies I told myself, I had been able to temporarily mask the hurt. The cycle became exhausting for me. I couldn’t do it alone any longer without the help of a higher power. With this visibility, I was able to feel and process the pain of loneliness and submit to the Will of God knowing, in time, healing would prevail. The healing I needed, never had the strength to tackle, but tucked in my consciousness knowing it existed. It was like the proverbial bogeyman that was always lurking and always telling me I didn’t have the strength to walk through “the door” to having a relationship with Christ.

Currently, if you are a non-believer and don’t yet want to walk through “the door” of being born again, I urge you to take the most challenging first step. Once you do, you will find a sense of relief. When you allow faith to take you higher than you have ever been, you will be given tools to help ensure you don’t return to your past. Encircle yourself with mentors and people that love you and are of like-minded spirits sharing the burden of your past. We were meant to share and grow together, and with numbers, we can all overcome our pasts. You can overcome the impossible. You can overcome the feelings of inadequacy. You can achieve all you believe walking through “the door” and being greeted with the warmth of love that will last forever.

The Third Book The 22nd Chapter - Love is Life

 

Love is Life

September 4, 2020

Using a building metaphor, the importance of having a perfect and true cornerstone cannot be overstated. Once a building is started, for it to be straight and have a solid foundational base, it is vital to have a perfectly set cornerstone.  As construction continues, the building will follow the blueprint of the genesis of the stone. As important as a cornerstone is to a new build, how many times have you seen an entire building built out of cornerstone? You never have, as it not possible. As a building is constructed, many different components come together to form the completed structure. Bricks to paint and drywall to roofing materials, all are needed. All of those components need to be in alignment and originate from the cornerstone, even though they are all drastically different.

In the New Testament, Jesus was asked about the most important thing we can remember to ensure is in our daily life. He replied we must have love. It is that simple and there are no other religious rules or protocol. It is that love is life. Yes, it is essential to have our foundation with the cornerstone of Christ in our lives, but there is a need to have more components to build our spiritual house. Always having love in our life is vital for our build and this is added to the perfect cornerstone of Christ.

As I have thought about love and the concept of true love, I realized that there were times in my life when I did view someone else or a thing with judgment. I have realized it was a mistake. I am not in a position to judge others as they try to live their life based upon love. What may work for some people may not work for others. As long as the cornerstone of Christ is in his or her life, why would anyone want to tear down someone’s hard work? When love operates within a person, it truly makes a difference and no one can identify where that love will end. It will never stop having a positive impact.

I recently experienced the power of love. Sometimes we may feel that the only way to share Christ is through church and through contact with someone that is of like mind. I realized that it is through having a relationship with Christ that allows his love to flow through and touch people positively, even when conventional wisdom will suggest love can't exist.

I had reached out to someone to see if it was possible to discuss some concepts that could add value to their life. Initially, they responded and agreed to meet up. Just before we were to meet, I received word that the meeting wasn’t possible and they would contact me another time. I was saddened, as I wanted to give a personal apology to this person and felt it may no longer be possible.

You may recall I have referenced God will provide us with either gentle nudges or a spiritual sledgehammer. When I woke on a specific Saturday morning, I felt a gentle nudge prompting me to travel to a specific mountain lake. I learned that even if you can’t say something in person to another, through the power of prayer, you can speak an apology. While I had been in a relationship with someone special, we spent a good deal of time together. One of my most precious memories, was sharing time with her at a lake. As a result, I felt compelled to visit the boat docking area and say a prayer. In that moment, I owned the hurt I interjected into the relationship, specifically for being emotionally unavailable. I realize now how painful that had been as feelings were developing and I was emotionally vacant. I remember looking down at my watch at 7:50 am, as I began speaking my prayer, apologizing and asking forgiveness.  

When I returned to an area that provided better cell services, I noticed at exactly 7:50 am, she had emailed me and said we could meet up. Unbelievable? Not at all, I stopped using the word “unbelievable” because if a person is born again and has a cornerstone of Christ in their life, everything you think is believable. The wonders will never cease if you continue to invite the love of Christ into your life.

A few days later, after 4 years on not seeing each other, finally met up. We were both nervous and uncomfortable with high levels of anxiety. I shared the story of my prayer to her and the timing of her email. I was now able to say the prayer of apology in person. I will never forget that experience of allowing the love of Christ to flow through me and touch someone else. The “old Craig” was reluctant to show weakness or ask for forgiveness. The “old Craig” was always right about his decisions and never lovingly apologized. The anxiety and discomfort was being replaced by warmth and happiness – Love is Life.

In a moment, the environment completely and beautifully changed. When we had previously parted ways, conventional wisdom suggested we would never have loving words spoken again. Yet it happened. After all the time that had passed between us, the power of Christ’s love was still able to make an impact.

The key ingredients of the cornerstone of Christ and following the gentle nudges combined with the belief that anything is possible will help move your life forward in ways that you may have never imagined. The benefit will continue and like the air in the Flight of Faith – in a brief moment, something you didn’t realize existed was beside you the entire time. In a brief moment, will be able to exceed anything you thought was achievable. Whatever you use to build your house after your cornerstone is laid can be used, as long as it is based on love. There are no specific modern rules or protocols that make my decision better than yours and vice versa. God is one that has set us in a world that has unlimited possibilities of wonder, growth, and love. He is a loving God and He wants us to experience transformation and development in order to be in harmony with all around us.

All we need to do is allow ourselves to believe that we are given His gift of love. Through His gift, we are able to live our lives in a way that was intended. Imagine a life full of the believable instead of a life full of the burdens of fear, doubt, low self-esteem, and lack of resources. A life that is full of love and experiences that enrich all of those we encounter is a life that allows us to become an ever-developing better version of ourselves.

The Third Book The 21st Chapter - Flight of Faith

 

Flight of Faith

August 16, 2020

I feel most of us have an idea of what faith is, but have a difficult time visualizing and measuring faith. How can you attach a metric to something you can’t explain? How can you show someone else how to embrace faith? Faith is vital to living a full life. It needs to be part of our daily life, yet can be difficult to master. How do you start to feel the effect of faith in your life and how do you maintain it? Faith is required to experience miracles. How do you begin incorporating faith into your life? Faith provides the energy to arrive at life’s milestones on the journey of life.

On August 10^th, I was given the gift of understanding faith through a new perspective lens. In the morning, I spoke to my mentor who encouraged me to do something new that day. As I thought about it, I had no idea what it would be. I was staying near Invermere BC, located in the beautiful mountains. My thoughts drifted to the power of flight and I began looking for local helicopter tours. I was drawn to the beautiful valley and mountains.

I had previously visited the valley for over 30 years during the summertime. I had always felt comfortable returning and spending time in the area. If you have visited the mountains and experienced the air, the water, and the peace of the valley, you may be familiar. If you have not visited the area, I will do my best to describe the location.

As I was looking for a powered flight tour, it didn’t feel right. Instead, I started looking at gliders that flew out of the airport. I remembered always being attracted to the gliders that would travel in and out of the airport. I watched in fascination, as they would be towed up in the air, remaining so high, circling the mountains long after the tow plane had left. It seemed so graceful and beautiful as their long gull-like white wings seemed to effortlessly climb into the sky. I had been curious for so many years and realized as I looked at the glider website, I wanted to experience it. The timing was right to experience the power of non-powered flight.

When I called to inquire about flight times, my thoughts drifted back to when I woke up that morning. As I woke, my eyes drifted to the mountains that were outside of my window. I knew I would experience something that day that was going to be unique and positively impact my life. At the time, I had no idea what exactly the experience would be other than the person I would meet would also be someone of significance. As the journey of life continues, have you ever met someone and knew they were a master of their craft? Whatever their passion, you could immediately identify their unique gift, and through that special gift, you felt positive energy. When Trevor answered my call, I sensed it was the beginning of such an experience.

Trevor had afternoon openings.  As he explained, the glider experience is more effective later in the day after the clouds build. When I arrived at the airport, I met Trevor. Trevor was sitting in the shade and immediately felt his quiet confidence. He was in his mid 60’s and had long flowing white hair. He was the image of a wise teacher sitting on the bench waiting for his next student to arrive. I believe authentic learning experiences occur when the ready student meets the waiting teacher. I remember sitting down beside him and feeling I was at the right place at the right time. I didn’t ask him how long it would take, what the cost would be or what was required; all I knew was that everything was in alignment.

The airport is located in the valley surrounded by majestic mountains ranging 5000 feet - 11,200 feet. There were scattered cumulus clouds with a light breeze and a temperature of 25 degrees Celsius. We watched as the tow plane took up a glider and the seemingly effortless process amazed me. As we moved our glider into position on the runway, I was filled with excitement.

Trevor explained getting into the glider and provided a safety demonstration. The instrument gauges were located directly behind Trevor’s seat. The tow plane returned to hook up our glider. We were quickly heading down the runway. I looked about and noticed the glider wings beginning to flex, almost like they were alive and wanted to embrace the invisible air. Suddenly, we were lifted into the air. I remember the sense of freedom and awe. Two hours passed in what seemed like seconds. I recall as we were still attached to the tow plane seeing a crystal clear mountain lake on the left and a large mountain on the right. I had said to Trevor “Wow this is amazing” and he replied, “ You haven’t seen anything yet, just wait for us to get higher.” I had no idea exactly what he meant, but I believed in Trevor’s words, as I knew my life was in the hands of a master of his craft.

As we ascended in slow right-hand reaching an altitude of 5200 feet, the command was given to release from the tow plane. I felt a little bump and then the sound of a light breeze coming over the cockpit’s clear bubble canopy. I noticed we were about halfway up a mountain and Trevor continued to circle in tight right turns. Then the miracle of an unseen powerful force presented itself. I remember again feeling the invisible power of the wind rushing up from the valley floor alongside the mountain. The force was pushing us higher and higher. Within minutes, we were looking down on the mountain peak, just moments before the mountain peak was looking down at us.

I began to view the area entirely differently than I had for over 30 years. Just 5 minutes into the air, I could see lake to the south that would have been a 30-minute drive. To the east, I could see the Kooteney Valley. I was seeing the contours of the valleys, lakes, rivers, and mountains all in a way I didn’t know existed.

Intuitively, Trevor could sense the wind updrafts and continued to pilot the glider higher and higher. We were nearly in the clouds when he said we would soon touch them and moments later we did. He changed course and headed west. We crossed the valley where we had taken off at and skipped across the air currents to a new line of mountains. At this height, he was able to maintain speed and lose minimal altitude, as he was able to fly into the updrafts. It was a sensation of skipping across the wind and clouds. I overwhelmed by emotion of the unseen force of God’s perfect creation. I could feel the power of the wind and see the impact of its energy. We were far higher than all the mountain peaks that were once higher than us. I could see glaciers, rivers, lakes and beauty that seemed dreamlike.

Trevor received notification that his next rider had cancelled. I felt a sense of awe, as I knew my journey was going to be extended. It seemed Trevor was relieved, as he could sense my enjoyment and we would be able to continue our travel. He pointed out a movie and commercial locations, historical mining camps, and shared information about the area. Without accepting the gentle nudge I received earlier in the morning, I wouldn’t have had such an amazing experience. I continued to feel the wind pushing us higher.

The experience allowed me to feel closer to God than I have had. I realized the unseen miracle of the power and was able feel it’s power. The teacher was there all along. I was finally ready to learn more about the miracles of God that He freely gives. As I thought about the experience and how it relates to the unseen force and concept of faith, the glider experience mimics the pattern of faith.

The glider needed a more significant force than it could generate by itself while it was sitting static on the runway. The glider required the initial energy of the tow plane to lift it into the air. At some point in time, we all will hit our rock bottom of despair and not know which way to turn or what action to take next. If you have hit rock bottom, there was likely someone or something that gave you the initial power to start moving and climbing out of despair. If you haven’t been there, it will happen. When it does, it is the first step into feeling the force of faith. There will be a force that will propel your forward, lift you and will allow your wings to connect with your power source.

Once the initial helping force is used, it will be time to let go and move forward without the force that lifted you. It will be a transitional time for you to take what you have learned and find a new source of power. The source of energy is hard to understand and even harder to see. You will need to believe in faith and yourself. Your unseen force will allow you to take flight within your faith. You will begin to feel and see life’s miracles as faith. Your faith will provide you with the power to move forward to and experience the miracles in your life.

It is truly is about the journey of your life and not the destination where true happiness and love exist. It is about the unplanned moments with family when you can grow your connection. It is unplanned moments when you meet a stranger that is a master in their craft. It is in the unplanned moments when faith will push you to higher levels of enlightenment and clarity of vision. Through trusting in the unseen force of faith is when you will be provided your vision of the next steps. You will see your next steps as clearly as looking at a Google Map destination. You will know exactly how to grow your faith, your love of family, and your career in a way that you could never see before.

Develop your process and faith that is in alignment. Keep it simple and repeat and repeat. Far too often in our personal and business lives, we make our initial plan of success complex, and then we become lost. We lose the power of the updrafts of our faith. We begin to sink lower into our depths of despair. We lose sight of what had been so evident at a higher level of our being and forget about the simple acts that had lifted us so high. Where do you feel your sense of faith is? Do you have your clarity of vision? Have you tapped into the unseen force of faith? Do you believe you, too, can feel the power of faith? If not, when are you going to start? What can you use as your tow plane to begin your growth?

Follow the nudges that God provides you, as there will be a Trevor waiting for you on a bench. He will be waiting to give you a gift that will help transform your life into something you never thought was possible. He will provide you with clarity that you never knew existed. He will allow you to look forward to creating your future successes instead of focusing on your past failures. All you have to do is to take the first step to grow your flight of faith. As you move forward, you will come around a corner, and your “Trevor” will be sitting in the shade waiting for you.

The Third Book The 20th Chapter - Spiritual Nudges

 

The Nudge of the Holy Spirit

August 4, 2020

Have you ever had a strong, unexplainable, and undeniable moving feeling?  Perhaps it was a message you had resisted for quite some time, but realized you could no longer resist acknowledging. Oftentimes, the longer you ignore an intrinsic feeling, the louder the wake-up call. Awareness of such experiences can enhance our awareness of the blessing of subtle nudges.

I had an experience that I can only believe was divine intervention. It was during a period of my life that I was struggling with my personal relationships. I had experienced the loss of an intimate relationship and I was also struggling with the connection to my daughter. My experiences lead me to become bitter and jaded with the work I put into my personal development. I was not getting the results I felt I should have achieved.

In December 2016, I had traveled by myself to Belize. After a few days of vacation, I had wakened one morning so adamant that I would never embrace God into my life. I was angry at my life. I vowed not to spend another moment entertaining the idea of opening up to the concept of spirituality in my life. I remember being so passionate about the thought and also comforted by my decision.

Later in the day, I toured the island and noticed a sign advertising a small Internet chat shack 10 miles north of the main town center. Although 10 miles may not seem far, the motor transportation on the island was a golf cart. Between the golf cart and awful roads, it took about an hour to travel 10 miles. As I was getting closer, I had a sense of excitement about arriving at my destination. When I arrived, it was closed. I decided to continue traveling north and came upon a small oceanside bar. It had room for about 10 people and the location was breathtaking. Prior to my trip, folks had prepared me for the condition of some of the restaurants, but said if I saw other people, it would be a safe place to stay and visit.

Upon sitting down, I met Chris. He was the bar’s owner and a fellow Canadian. I had asked him how he became so fortunate to live in such a beautiful place, surrounded by beautiful people. It was dreamlike. He said it was easy, as simple as making the choice to do it. I looked at him with amazement, confusion and disbelief.  I thought he had to be crazy. Over time, I have learned he was right. Once we begin smashing down our self-imposed walls of fear, anything is possible.

As I pondered his concept, Lady Katherine and Stuart walked in. They were from North Carolina and reminiscent of southern Belle and regal gentleman. They had southern accents and a general old-fashioned sense of mystery surrounding them. After a few brief introductions, Lady Katherine could not contain herself. She apologized by saying “I am sorry and please do not think I am crazy, but I have this loud voice in my head that I have to share this idea with you.” Of course, I was immediately curious and open to what she was going to say. I asked her to share her thoughts. She continued, “The decision you made this morning to turn your back on God, you cannot do this. He has big plans for you, and you need to embrace him in your life. Not only does your life depend on it, but others as well.” I was amazed that she didn’t know me from the sand on the beach but specifically knew about my recent experience.

I had been ignoring and pushing away God for years. In that moment, I no longer could. The energy I needed to ignore was greater than it was to submit to the idea I was wrong that morning. In that moment, it was like a spiritual sludge hammer forcing me to accept my place in this life. I have learned that miracles come when you least expect them. Through my father, I have also learned that the pace of wonders is on God’s time and not our own.

In my experience with Lady Katherine, I was moved and a seed began to grow. I could no longer ignore the calling of the spirit. In March of 2017, I was able to attend a John Maxwell training session in Orlando, Florida. Roughly halfway through the course, I had the opportunity to sit down beside Mark and Judy. I did not realize at the time, the miracle that just occurred. Mark is a retired pastor was there to become certified in coaching. I ended up becoming his first client.

Initially, the coaching was corporate-based. Over time, it evolved into spiritual. I realized the importance of having a life that is in balance. The seed that Lady Katherine had planted eventually made me realize what I lacked in my spiritual development. If you have hit rock bottom before and embraced Christ, you may relate to another experience in my life. In July 2019, my career had hit rock bottom, bills were piling up, and I had lost hope. I remember being overcome by anger and realized I had to change. I myself was the common root problem in my life’s equation. In my next meeting with Mark, I let him know I could no longer pay him. I wished him best of luck, but I needed to go on alone without his coaching. He suggested he would wave the session fees as he believed in me and we still had work to do. I was overcome by emotion and taken back by his willingness to help me. I felt so unworthy and was in such a low period in my life. 

As the months passed, Mark continued working with me. In November, I officially took my first step. It was the hardest first step that I have ever made. It had taken nearly 3 years from the moment I declared a “hard no” to when Lady Katherine came into my life. When you are hit over the head, embrace the gift, but don’t worry about the speed of the gift or have any expectations. Life is about the journey and not the destination. In those 3 years, I had grown and become ready for the gentle nudges I now embrace.

It is essential to remember that all of this is based on free will and free will is required for real-life to be experienced. Through free will and gentle nudges, you have to prepare yourself to acknowledge the gentle nudges and allow the door to open. The person meant to receive your gift may not be there. You have to be okay with feeling pain and realize that the moment may not be immediate. You may feel the frustration of free will. You have to be strong enough to walk away and take comfort; you did follow the spiritual nudge. In most cases, the miracle you were sent to deliver will happen, and it is one of the most satisfying experiences you will have.

Recently, I decided I wanted to attend a new church. On the morning prior to attending, I had a feeling that I needed to travel to Banff overnight. In doing so, I had the incredible experience of getting to know someone very deeply. We had an experience that will forever connect us. It was biblical in nature and provided mutual life-changing comfort. Following your gentle nudges allows you to experience miracles and receive beautiful gifts.

I was given the gifts of several valuable life-changing experiences. My resort had a beautiful rooftop hot tub. When I woke up on Sunday morning, I felt a need to be there when it opened, as someone needed a message. When I arrived, before the sun came over the mountains, I was moved to pray in the direction the sun was rising. As I finished praying, and the sun had crested the mountains, I was overcome by deep emotion. I knew that the person to whom I was going to deliver a message would arrive soon. Moments later, a young father and his 5-year-old son and 3-year-old daughter arrived.

As I knew it was my time to leave, I briefly spoke to the father. I shared with him the importance of enjoying the time with his kids as time passes so quickly. I also shared that as his daughter grows older, their relationship will change forever, so to enjoy his time with her while she is a little girl. He said he was working on it and thanked me for my advice. When I walked away, I felt the gentle nudge of our meeting and how it changed his life forever. I knew his marriage was saved and would reach a new level. He would now have a better relationship and a deeper connection with his children. As I entered the elevator to return to my room, I felt the power of a miracle. I was in awe of the gratefulness of being able to be a part of God’s plan and providing value to which started with that gentle nudge.

I almost always ignored my gentle nudges and felt they didn’t mean anything. The energy we give and the energy we take has a lasting impact on others as well as ourselves. Most of the time, we will never know what or how profound that impact is. The importance of being kind to everyone, including ourselves, is vital. We may never know how we may scar a person forever with our words and we will be held accountable for those actions.

Are you currently ignoring something in your life? How long are you going to ignore it? How big of a spiritual hammer do you need? Why are you fighting it? Once you embrace it, you will feel so much peace with the experiences of the gentle nudges. Once you invite Christ into your life, you will feel his unconditional love. Even though you may have denied him for years, there is no retribution but kindness and joy that your journey has returned you home.

The Third Book - The 19th Chapter - Build Your Faith

Build Your Faith

July 18, 2020

When you begin experiencing growth and accomplishments, it’s important to keep the momentum going. Continued growth requires energy to maintain continued accomplishments.

Though sometimes difficult to maintain daily, strength may be gained through visualization. Measuring each of your decisions against the value they will bring to your life takes discipline.  It can be easy to indulge in self-serving decisions seeking instant gratification that may only keep you in the negative patterns of your past. It is much harder to make decisions that are long-lasting if you do not see instant results. It takes self-sacrifice to others and yourself. As you maintain the path of making challenging decisions that maximize your value, it will become easier as well as your exponential growth. When we make decisions that are quick and impulsive in order to achieve an immediate sense of gratification it is always linear in effect and the benefit always fades away. With the long-term decision-making, the growth is unlimited. It is only limited by ones fears and demons that are negative in nature. Faced with thousands of decisions a day, the hard part is to have the discipline and strength always to stay the course and add to your quest. It is a simple concept but can be very difficult to carry out consistently.

Growing strength may also be achieved through faith. Faith can be more challenging to visualize and realize. It requires that ones ego is secondary to achieving the gift of faith that is all around us. Christ is always providing us with what we need when we need it. We just have to recognize it. Through my mentor, I have realized how blessed I have been. I have met many people who have shared stories with me that have given me the gift of faith. It has given me the gift of knowing I am living my life in accordance with serving God.  It is through their stories that I can recognize His love that provides me with a vision that I am on the right track and gives me the strength to keep building my momentum.

In restoring my faith, I have reflected upon recent experiences. Last summer, when I felt lost and I depressed, I was drinking too much.  At the time, I was working at a safe injection site. I had been reflecting upon my place in life. I felt a lot of self-pity. However, I was able to meet many beautiful people, who were also feeling lost, and we were able to form friendships. It is often easy to look down upon people who are facing addictions. However, I was able to relate to each person’s story.  I also recognized that each person has a gift even though they may not recognize it within themselves. What I have learned is that people try to live their best life. I realized I had more in common with them and that our addictions had different levels of control over each of us.

Recently, my daughter and I went on a road trip. As we were entering the highway, a young man was standing with a sign and begging for money. Quickly my daughter gave him 2 $5 bills and we pulled away. My daughter asked me what I thought about her giving money to this young man. I anticipated she thought I might criticize her for wasting her money. I let her know that she had just taught me a lesson to freely give to someone else that is under the table. My daughter gave freely without knowing the intention of how the money would be spent. I also let her know that I know the young man and he's a good person who was just in a terrible place in his life. The $10 my daughter gave may or may not have saved this man's life, but it helped get him closer to changing his life. I thought it was a great example of what Christ would do. He would freely give love out of kindness, compassion and without expectation. Growing momentum and strength through faith allows for exponential growth.

   

Days later, while traveling to a business meeting at a local coffee shop, I saw an older man asking for money. At the time, I was late for my meeting and I didn't want the person to wait any longer. I vowed to myself if the older man were standing there when I left, I would give him money. During my meeting, the other person shared they had lost their husband the previous year.  She shared the focus of missing her husband was more than loving God. With this focus, she realized she wasn’t fully living her life. She knew in time she would once again be with her husband, but in the meantime the center had to be on loving God. Her belief caused her spirit to soften and she was able to provide the strength that someone needed in her life. Without her gift of strength, she likely would have lost the other person. In only one month from when she decided to serve and focus on God, she was able to save a life. The multiplying effect of that action has spilled into many lives and has allowed a child to know his mother longer and allowed a husband to know his wife longer.

Sometimes people ask how long it takes to change. Once you see your truth and feel the love of Christ, it only takes one breath to change your life and countless others around you. The gift given to me was providing me with more faith and the quiet confidence in knowing I am growing my relationship with Christ. I know I am living a life obedient to the Will of God. I have realized God doesn't want anything from us. He truly wants us to live a life full of love and to share that with others.

As I was leaving the coffee shop, the old man was still standing in the middle of the entryway. As I pulled up to the old man, I said hi, asked how he was doing, and gave him $20. After I gave him the money, I could see appreciation in his eyes. He kissed the bill and he put it in his pocket. At first, I thought that his display of emotion was solely about the money. However, I realized he saw the kindness in my eyes towards him. I realized he felt I valued him as a person, as someone who mattered. In that brief moment, he gave me more than I had given him. A lot of people may live a life that is based upon a foundation of lies instead of value. Acceptance and faith go hand in hand. In order to grow our faith, we need to accept ourselves and accept what God wants in our lives. Through acceptance, we can fully begin to live our lives through knowing our truths and begin building our strength in order to achieve exponential momentum.

How secure is your faith? In the last week, how many examples have you experienced that Christ has given you to grow your faith? Have you used the experiences to not only grow your faith but to share it with someone else in a way that exhibits the love of Christ? Whether you have or haven’t, what is your next step? The journey of life may be difficult, but the pattern of hard work replicates with hard work. I have experienced exponential growth and momentum in my faith. My prayer is that you can also feel it happen in your life and are able to share it with others. You can truly make a difference when you least expect it.      

The Third Book The 18th Chapter - Contain Your Demon

Contain your Demon

July 10, 2020

Have you ever experienced a moment of flow and accomplishment?  You work so hard and achieve so much, but life throws you a curveball.  Perhaps something you never anticipated and something so powerfully personal that you feel emotions and distress about your demons returning.  You remember that you have worked so hard for all you have accomplished, but now have to work even harder to control your demons. Your sense of pain may have you reverting back to what used to numb it. The pain may seem unbearable leaving you wonder if you will have the strength to contain your demons. I have an experience to share, which may help you realize you have the power to contain your demons and continue to become stronger.

Do you have faith in the Spirit of Christ in order to allow that spirit to work within you?  My story begins with my daughter. At 17, she became pregnant with my beautiful granddaughter. During that time, I could only imagine how she may have been overwhelmed by the magnitude of what she had learned and how she and her fiancé’s lives had instantly changed forever. She was fortunate enough to have discovered a faith-based nonprofit organization. The organization was established to help young parents prepare for the unknown. My daughter and her fiancé ended up getting through a challenging time and now my little grandbaby is nearly two years old. Recently, the organization requested my daughter and her fiancé record a video of their experience and share the emotions they encountered as they navigated their pregnancy. They had considered an abortion, but quickly realized that through the support of this organization, they didn't need to choose that option. When my daughter was first asked to record the video, she didn’t feel comfortable. Our family encouraged her to share her precious story, as it may change another’s life forever.  A few weeks ago, the video was recorded and recently aired.  It did change someone’s life.

Not long ago, a relationship ended for me that had been a very painful and uncomfortable to process. There was a brief moment in time when the relationship ended that some communication occurred. A moment in time, I will never forget, as the offer was phone number to a therapist. At the time, I didn't realize the significance of that gift until today. As I began working on my issues with my therapist, a key take away was the importance of lowering my anxiety. I have been diagnosed with anticipatory anxiety.  A way to control this anxiety is through various breathing techniques and strategies. Just before my daughter’s video aired, I was struggling with the feeling of pain, sense of loss, and feeling of confusion. I haven’t been able to piece together the puzzle as to why this has all occurred. For the first time, I was fighting to process my feelings and my demons were coming to the surface. My demons wanted me to drink again so that I didn't have to feel the pain. Implementing the new breathing strategies, I was able to control my anticipatory anxiety and recognized what was happening and had the strength not turn to alcohol. I was able to deal with the moment, though challenging. I had wondered how I would push through and not return to patterns that did not add value to my life. Our demons don’t go away after our first steps of embracing Christ, but with his strength, we can make choices so we do not repeat.

I realized this morning if I wasn't given the gift of my new therapist, my anxiety would've got out of control, and I would resort to drinking. The self-control of my anxiety allowed me to welcome the presence of Christ.  His spirit provides me strength to not repeat past troubles. I have realized, in so many ways that as you follow the path laid out for you and you embrace Christ, there are small moments in your Life that help you conquer the most critical moments. Without the gift of my therapist, I know I would not be sharing my story now.

As I was able to pull myself out of the awful feeling of depression angst of a relapse, I was able to prepare for the video presentation of my daughter, her fiancé and my granddaughter. I shared it on Facebook live.  After the presentation was completed, I received a text from a friend, who just happened to be viewing, that shared with me the value of the presentation. I gave him a call, and as we talked about the video, I realized it had changed his life forever.  I realized the importance of my daughter sharing her story. My friend has made the choice to take his first step, and he's made the choice to embrace the spirit of Christ.

How do you measure the significance of one small act that leads to something that is a God-like experience? All the small stories put together of choices that many individuals had to make and obstacles had to be conquered that lead to my friend’s experience. If my daughter didn't share her story and didn't push through her fear, the moment wouldn't have happened. If my relationship past didn't share with me my therapist, I wouldn't have had the strength not to drink and I wouldn't have been filled with the spirit of Christ. With the absence of the Spirit in my life, I wouldn't have shared the video on Facebook, and my friend may not have embraced Christ.

All of your actions determine where we will go and how we will experience life. God is a loving God.  He only wants the best, but it's up to us to make the choices in our lives that empower us. After I spoke to my friend, I was so excited I texted my mentor. The mentor who, on November 4, invited me to give my life to Christ, as I cautiously accepted and nervously took my first step. I was so excited because I was able to take what I learned from him and pass it on to my friend.  With our conversation, his Life is now changed forever. My mentor and I know that it wasn’t us that have changed someone’s life, but the Spirit working through us. All the glory of this Life changing event has to go to where it came from, it’s origin and that is God.

As my mentor and I talked and I shared the beautiful experience, he asked if my ex-girlfriend had the spirit of Christ. My feeling was not at this time. He asked if I would be open to praying for her and her salvation and for her to find and allow the Spirit of Christ to work within her. As he led the prayer, I began to feel strong emotions.  Three times my brain wanted to reject my emotions. My brain didn't want to deal with them.  I knew for me to grow and to grow my connection with Christ, I had to let these feelings exist within me. As my emotions grew, I had a quickness of breath and a shedding of tears as I was filled with the Spirit of Christ. I had the realization of the sacrifice of Christ sacrificing His life for me; I felt the significance of his sacrifice.  I could feel His love flow through me. I knew, in that moment, that I had to give my life just as Jesus did for me. He was put on this earth to save all of us.  He was put on this earth as an example of how to live our lives. We were put on this earth to embrace this gift. Through this gift, we are able to fully live and experience life.  We are able to fully understand the sacrifice that was given to us. Once I had this realization and awareness, I knew I had to pay it forward by giving love and kindness to everyone that has been in my life.

As time has passed, with the new skills I now have in my life, I realize that today is better than yesterday, I realize tomorrow will be better than today.  I realize it is about one step at a time. It is one step at a time to embrace this life, one step at a time to love others, and one step at a time to share this amazing gift.  The amazing gift grows daily.  You never know the value it will give someone else. Have the faith to believe this gift was given to you. This gift has no conditions and is always waiting and ready when you are. It is long lasting and will not let you down.  It will not hurt you, and if you allow your faith to grow, your positive qualities will be magnified through the Spirit of Christ.      

The Third Book The 17th Chapter - Demon of Change

                           Demon of Change

July 4, 2020

Once you identify your “whys”, you can begin implementing change towards a healthier and more positive mindset. Have you determined what triggered past choices that didn't serve your growth and development? Evaluating your triggers is just as important as your growth. It is important you understand the trauma that you went through before your rebirth. Usually, this trauma triggers you to make thoughtless choices. You may find after a contrary decision has been made, you're filled with regret, confusion, and a general feeling of “that wasn't me”, but yet it had happened. As this negative cycle becomes part of your past, sometimes a reminder from someone else may provide that little nudge so you can also turn your life around.

Do you have a story that should be told so that others can learn and grow from your experience?  However, feel that sharing your story is hard and that hiding from shame is easier. This is my story, as I have shared and grown, I have helped others through my writing. It is a story I didn't want to share, but as I thought about it, felt the need to share.

Have you ever heard about the local mechanic that makes sure that everyone else's car is running correctly, but his isn’t? Something as subtle as making sure everyone ‘s car is functioning correctly while neglecting their own is paramount. As I was writing words on paper, they came from a place of kindness, love and support. Through those words though, I was hiding a secret.  My secret was that I had spent many years as a highly functioning alcoholic.

I genuinely put in the effort to help others, but for years forgot to help and myself. My car was broken, and as I tried to function, I fooled myself into believing I didn't have a problem. I would put my all into everything I did, including drinking alcohol. I thought it was controlled, and it was hidden, but it controlled me. I had a successful career, a loving family and what appeared to be a seemingly perfect life. On Father's Day, I realized for the first time in years as I cooked for my family the value of not drinking. I felt a sense of connection with my family and the clarity of the day I hadn’t previously experienced. Fast-forward to June 24 after an extensive amount of realization, I made a decision to not drink alcohol again. 

My daughter had mentioned a few times she was concerned about my drinking. However, I rationalized that I didn't drink and drive, I always got my work done, and my family was healthy, so I didn't have a problem. As I thought about it more, I began to realize that the many impulsive choices and actions that I made while I was drinking never served to provide value to others or myself around me. The drinking pushed people away, causing me more pain resulting in drinking even more. All the while on the surface, I pretended I was in control and didn't have a problem. Even though I knew I was making positive changes in my life and becoming a better person, the alcohol was slowing down this process and kept my mind in a fog.

After Father's Day, I was once again alone with a clear head. I realized for me to actualize the value of the changes and begin to build upon them, I had to make one more change. With clarity, I knew my next step on my continued growth and my continued relationship with Christ; I had to stop abusing alcohol.

On June 24, I did. I have since felt I couldn't share in writing until this morning. I was speaking with my mentor and shared that I thought “my car was broken” and I needed to repair it before I started to share again. He asked me why I wouldn’t share my story.  In a moment, my mind changed and realized I had to share this painful experience that I hid for so long.

As each day passes, sometimes it is challenging to honour my commitment, but when times are challenging, I remember the benefits I have already received in the short time since this positive choice. Something as simple as being able to walk soberly to board an airplane, not pretending to be sober. Something as simple as enjoying a lunch conversation at a level of connection that it wasn’t possible under the fog of alcohol. Something as simple as being in the moment and realizing the positive changes I have made is more valuable recognizing them “when”, not “after” they happen.

Whatever you strive for in your life, your desired outcome is set into motion with the decisions you make in every second. If these millions of timely decisions are not in alignment with your desired outcome and your passion for your life, you'll never arrive at your destination of success. You might want to blame others for your lack of progress or talk yourself into denial like I had, but for valuable change to occur in your life, you need to ask yourself honest questions. If you haven't completed flushing out your demons, your choices will then make it nearly impossible to enjoy life fully and live in the moment. We were given a life of free will and a life that is up to us to live with abundance, love, and kindness. All we have to do is make each decision count to where our happiness lies.

Trust me, one of the most challenging decisions you will make is to conquer your demons and make the decision they will no longer control your life. Once that happens, the changes you have made will magnify and you will gain strength. You will also feel uncomfortable. Embrace this feeling because once you feel it, you will know you are changing and growing. If you haven't already experienced it, you will feel a better sense of satisfaction in your life. It is so worth the hard work and dedication you are putting in to repair yourself.

I am so grateful that my kids and family didn't give up on me. I have realized they believed in me the entire time. So if you feel stuck and you haven’t reached the uncomfortable feeling of growth, pause for a moment and listen. Listen to the words of someone that cares about you as they're speaking your truth. Embrace that gift, build your momentum, and never look back.                   

The Third Book The 16th Chapter - Growing Your Change

Maintaining Your Change

June 15, 2020

While you are moving in the direction you want to go, you are learning, growing, and feeling your momentum building. You begin sharing your experiences with friends and family. You also begin sharing some new ideas that you would like to accomplish that align with your new growth. You may feel a bit confused, not sure how to move forward with your new ideas because of the static that may be coming from your friends or social norms. This barrier is more significant than your wall of fear you have just crossed over.

Often, there is a barrier to growing your competence in your new life. It is easy to listen to others that provide caution and information that challenge your ability to push forward. With any new experience and growth, it is essential to gather insight and direction from others around you, but most importantly, you need to follow what is right for you. Most people around you will have your best interest at heart and will share what they think is best for you based on their experiences and lens of communication. If the information aligns with your growth, great; however, if the advice doesn't sit well with you, perhaps it’s advice you shouldn't follow.

I would like to share a story that happened not long ago, it was the ending of a beautiful relationship. With time, I realized I began the relationship in the wrong order. I followed what was most comfortable and convenient, but missed the essential part of really getting to know them. I realize now The Bible speaks of the importance of handling your intimate relationships in a specific order. Although I knew of this teaching, I didn't follow it, nor did I understand the importance of it. I rationalized that I'm a good person, I'm old enough, and it just made sense. I ignored that I needed to follow a tried and true method. I felt it would last forever because I had never previously experienced meeting a person so unique. However, I was wrong, and it didn't last. I know I can't go backwards in time to integrate what I've learned now and the importance of doing things correctly, but I can go forward with what I have learned.

How often after something has failed in your life, whether it is a relationship, a job, or a task, you wonder why it failed? As you process, you typically turn to experts and your ones closest to you. They often provide very valid technical information based upon your experience and how not to repeat the same failures. As you have grown through experiences, how often have you felt the need to do something different than the advice given to you? You may have felt confused as others have told you not to do what you think is right. This concept is so essential for your growth and not repeat the same mistakes, and you need to master it. Remember, as long as you act in kindness, love and sincerity, you must act on your feelings. The moment you stop making it about yourself and begin making it about somebody else is when Christ and the Holy Spirit are moving through you. If you can honestly tell yourself that this is in your truth, then move forward. As you move forward, whatever you are sharing was meant to be shared, and on the other side, someone will receive value from you operating from a place of love.

I felt the impact of this the first time over the last few weeks. I had been struggling with the thought that I needed to share my true feelings with my ex. As I read more on the subject, more often than not, the reference was not to go back and share, as it would impact my self-worth. As I struggled with this concept, I was given the gift of insight, and that came from my daughter. She suggested I had nothing to lose and I had no reason not to share my feelings. I realized she was right. She was right because it's how you share this information and is not about losing yourself; it is about finding yourself.

Traditionally we're taught never to go backwards and share with an ex the feelings we have. The explanation is that by doing this, you give away your power, which results in lowering your self-esteem. I've realized through the gift of Christ this is only true if you make it about you. The moment you remove the “me” in the scenario and truly make it about the other person, this sharing will empower you. When it comes from a place of love, it also provides value to the other person. Through the action of following in the perfect example of Christ, you can feel love, and others will feel the love of Christ flowing through you. This example is not about self-preservation. it is about is Salvation, and by doing this, you will be living and replicating the model given to us by Jesus.

I am so thankful for my daughter’s simple advice that made a difference; that made a difference to understand the love of Christ. It made me know it truly is not about me, and it truly is not about my power, but allowing the power of the Holy Spirit to be within my life. I knew my next step, even though it might end with rejection, hostility, and pain, I crossed my barrier. What I unfolded was a gift that keeps on giving, and I am so grateful I was able to share. I started with an apology for my actions followed by sharing my feelings, and I realized that is OK. After I shared, I didn't feel I lost anything of myself in reality, I feel I gained a friend. I think the foundational work that I should have taken in the beginning occurred in that moment. The beginning work in truly getting to know someone and realizing the value they are giving, I am giving back and realizing that it is appreciated. 

That is a secret of a foundation that all relationships require and knowing there is momentum building in you life. Are you listening and communicating in a respectful meaningful way just in the same way Christ has modelled for us? All of what we need is right in front of us as soon as we get rid of that little word “me”.  

The Third Book The 15th Chapter - Discover Your Change

Discover Your Change

June 14, 2020

So, you have identified what you want to do in your life to live more fully. You've identified how and why you want to make changes. You are now taking baby steps and taking action. Now what? This is a brand new journey for you. Do you know if the “how, what, and why” the gift you have identified within yourself is truly making any difference?

I would like to share a story of my journey that started about three years ago when I wrote my first book. The “how” of how I wrote my first book and format remained similar as I wrote the following two books. Until this book, I knew my technical writing ability was novice. In the past, I had overlooked that because it was always something I truly wanted to do and truly wanted to share with others. I remember the first chapter I wrote was hardly a page and I had nothing more to write.  As I thought about this, I asked myself, “How am I supposed to fill all the empty pages of this book”? The strategy I developed was a simple goal to fill two pages at a time. By doing that, I was able to finish my first book called “Climb Your Mountain”.

I remember a sense of accomplishment, but also knew I could do so much better. How do you become better, you may ask? Practice, practice, practice, practice all with the foundation that is based on truth and integrity. Identify what you need to do to improve and listen to the feedback others provide. This is a slow process, but picture yourself gathering little golden Nuggets scattered through the years of your life. Meltdown and combine these little golden Nuggets that will allow you to provide the currency to grow your accomplishments. One of these small golden Nuggets was a story told by John Maxwell. He shared that his first book was made up of many short chapters and the reason it was made like that was that he had nothing more to give. He didn't know how to write; he didn't know how to make words flow; he didn't know how to make a complex idea sound easy and straightforward for the reader.

When I first started to write, I allowed myself to fool myself, saying that I strategically chose short chapters to engage new readers. I rationalized that people are often too busy to devote three to four hours a day to read a book and if they had three to five minutes, they could read one of my chapters. I now realize this was a lie I told myself in order to justify my short chapters. I would have been much better off at the time just to tell the truth. The truth was I didn't know what to write. The truth I was feeling overwhelmed. The truth I was feeling insecure. The truth that I wanted everybody to know I knew what I was doing. Unfortunately, in reality, I didn't. I did believe at the time I was doing my best and I did feel there was value in what I was writing, but it would have been better if I had just told the truth at the time. Wayne Gretzky didn't become a superstar in one day at the age of 18. He spent years of his life in the preparation of becoming one of the youngest professional hockey players. Once he got there, he didn't stop. He kept practicing, growing, and giving to others. Those actions combined, allowed him to become one of the all-time greatest professional hockey players. How often when we start something new, do we have an unrealistic expectation about the technical level we should achieve? How often do you lie to yourself that impacts how quickly you are able to grow?

My journey changed when I hit rock bottom. We all have different experiences when we hit rock bottom, but the impact is tremendous to each of us. My experience was after years of building a successful leadership career, I ran out of work. I was surrounded, and I'm still surrounded by an amazing, loving family, but my career had run out of steam. I had searched, applied, and refined my resume but did not receive one call back for a formal interview. I had spent hours and hours trying to move forward, but not one opportunity. I remember the warm day, last August, when I broke as if it only happened a few moments ago. I remember a sense of desperation, despair, low self-esteem, and a sense of utter uselessness. Quickly, that was replaced by a wave of anger that I had never previously felt. Questioning, “Why am I going through this experience? What have I done to deserve this experience? Haven't I worked hard enough to grow my skillset? Haven't I worked hard enough to raise my kids? Haven't I worked hard enough to provide value to others? So now, when I need the opportunity the most, how come I cannot catch a break?” I realized at that moment, I had to change. I had to do something different. I had to find a different way to build my strength.

I remember riding home that day in silence with the full realization I had a gift to change my life. It was sitting in front of me the entire time; the gift of a relationship with Christ. That gift was provided to me by my great friend and spiritual mentor, Mark. I had met Mark about 2 1/2 years ago at a John Maxwell training seminar. Since then, we have become close friends, and he has been coaching me for a year and a half now. He gave his gift freely many times, intending to serve me and for me to become a believer of Christ. There have been many occasions I have felt God speak directly to me through the words of Mark. It happened again the first time I spoke with him after hitting my rock bottom, and he asked me if I was ready. With tears in my eyes, I said yes, and he formally asked me to give my life to Christ. At first, I felt a little uncomfortable, followed quickly by this is the right thing to do, but I had no idea how to do it and how to measure it. I thought, “What do I do now? How do I go forward? How do I put this gift in my life to benefit others? How do I show others this is something different, this is something lasting?” I had this conversation with Mark on many occasions, now that I have this gift of Christ, what now? Once I allowed myself to let go of my ego, once I allowed myself to believe I didn't know how to do it on my own, it was OK. Once I allowed myself to believe in faith and that things would happen when they were meant to happen, things began to change.

Once I realized to turn to everlasting life, the momentum started to grow. So how do you know and how do you measure your change? Here is another story. For the first 2 1/2 years of my writing, once I posted it to my blog, I would share it with others. I would see a small number of views on my blog after I shared with others, but shortly after that, it would fizzle. Once in a while, there might have been a random view but overall, the pattern was the only time there was an increase in views was when I would actively push the blog. My thoughts went back to the story of Jesus and the woman at the well. Daily, I had to go back to the well to create hits to my blog; although that worked, it was very time consuming and not very sustaining. Then I recognized a change in this pattern once I started writing again after I found Christ. I still share new posts with family and friends, but things have shifted. I have noticed views are growing, not only on the day I post, but also on the following days. As I have watched this change occur, I have been fascinated; I don’t actively push the blog, and I asked myself, “why do I see new views?” Then I realized, the spirit is providing the momentum shift. The spirit is doing more than what I am able to do alone. There is a measure of change to my “how” and my “what” and that my “why's” are coming together one nugget at a time and beginning to move the momentum needle.

When you have hit your rock bottom and start moving your life to where you need to be, small changes begin to happen. Once you have discovered your change, you become more aware of where you need to be. You realize the first few steps, after pushing through your barrier fear, are in alignment with your goals. Then if you want to supersize your vision, add in the most powerful ingredient, that is Christ. Only then, will you see and feel how your change becomes more prominent than you are. This change will provide you with the strength that you have used to have to contribute to yourself. It will allow you to move faster and enable you to help others. You will be in awe. The discovery of change will allow you to move forward no matter the obstacle you face, no matter what social media barrage you may face. It will allow you to sift through the garbage, identify the truth, and see the golden Nuggets before you.

Now, more than before, and depending on where you are on your journey, is the time you need to make that conviction. Have you hit rock bottom? Have you started to make some changes? Have you started to discover some of those changes have moved your momentum? Right now, think of someone that is your “Mark” and I guarantee you this person is patiently waiting to give you the gift. It doesn't matter what you went through in the past, it only matters right now, and you are worthy of this gift of everlasting love.     

The Third Book The 14th Chapter - My Mesa

My Mesa

June 12, 2020

In the last chapter, the theme was removing fear barriers in order to receive your gifts of life and provide value to others. The small decisions you make can lead to moments that are greater than yourself. Your greatness happens through building your momentum, "the mighty mo", as referred to by John Maxwell. When you initially put your plans into action, a small speed bump can stop you. However, by continuing to make decisions that add to your life's work, with momentum, you can overcome significant life obstacles. Remaining still, you will not gain the momentum needed to overcome them.

I will share a story about how fear held me back for many years and how it changed my life once I conquered it. Over the last 15 years, I have been blessed with a few incredible life and business mentors. One is my great friend and mentor, Joe P. Joe P and his wife have a 2^nd home in Mesa AZ they enjoy as a getaway from the cold winter months in Western Canada.

As our relationship developed over several years, Joe invited me numerous times to visit in Mesa. I politely declined, as I was fearful that if I visited, I might have overstayed my welcome. I was afraid that I would lose an incredible friend and mentor. As the years passed, I finally realized someday Joe might stop inviting me. The opportunity would be closed, and even though I might still have a friend, the gifts of what may lay in Mesa would never be discovered.

On a cold winter day, I reached out to Joe and asked if they were open to me making a visit. His immediate response was, "absolutely, and we can't wait to see you, pal." Fast-forward a few months; I was on my way to Mesa. As the trip was approaching, I was nervous about how the visit would go, yet excited about the adventures that lay ahead.

One of the gifts I experienced, I hadn't anticipated when I walked through Joe's front door. Have you ever had a meeting or an experience that you knew was significant, but didn't realize it's meaning at the time? The only thing you did know was that something out of the ordinary had just occurred. As I met the other people in the room, one stood out from the rest, and that was Melanie. During the time I stayed, the group of newfound friends and I enjoyed many conversations full of sharing, laughter, and each other's company.

A few months prior to the visit, my first book had been published. I knew I needed an editor to help polish the words I had put on paper.  As time went on, it became more apparent that I needed an editor, as I was aware I was missing a vital piece of the team. I knew from my business career the importance of having team support, and without it, it was challenging to experience success and accomplishments.

Over a three-year period, I had searched for an editor but was never able to find the right person. In August, I gave my life to Christ and resumed a relationship that I had ignored for my adult life. It during that time that my writing began conveying the message of Christ to continue providing value to others. When I wrote the 12th chapter of this book, the thought came to me to share it with Melanie. However, I ignored the thought and didn't act upon it because of fear of rejection, and once again, the possibility of losing a good friend. I was afraid the quality of my work, combined with a spiritual-based tone, would create a response of nonacceptance.

As time went on, I still felt I needed to share the 12^th chapter. So one afternoon, I drummed up the courage and asked Melanie if she would read a short section on my current book. She agreed and responded shortly after sharing her opinion; this was good. The next thing that happened I couldn't believe and I was utterly shocked. Without me asking, she provided several edits to my work that made it easier to read and much better than the raw copy I had sent. The gift that was flowing before my eyes was incredible, and I had no idea that would have been the outcome of sharing chapter 12.

It was in that moment I realized I found my editor. It was in that moment I realized if I hadn't taken that first step over three years prior to visit Mesa, I would not have found my editor. The next big hurdle was asking Melanie if she would become an editor for my book. Initially, I assumed she would decline, as she is a very successful businesswoman and wouldn't have time to devote to such an undertaking. Once again, I was surprised by her response, "I have always wanted to be an editor." Remember when I noted that once you conquer your fears, not only will you receive the value of your accomplishments, but usually someone else does too. A gift was given to both of us that could not have been foreseen many years earlier when I had initially declined the invitation to visit Mesa AZ. I realized a pattern of accomplishment could not be achieved alone. It truly takes multiple people aligning, working together and sharing a vision of achievement.

I have realized if you want to supersize your accomplishments, allow Christ to be the one partner you never go without. Since I have allowed myself to get closer to Christ, I have felt my accomplishments and value to others grow at a higher level than ever before. One of the greatest gifts I have been able to realize at a higher level is the gift of my family and the moments we share. Christ will allow you to build strength that you wouldn't have on your own. Christ will allow you to take that first step to build your momentum and confidence so you can achieve more than ever before.