The 61st Chapter - Find Your Power

Feb 4/17

The concept of "leveling up in life" has remained with me over the last few weeks.  I remember a time in my work career of not being fully secure in my position and role within the company.  I had thoughts of  " if only I received a high position of power and title all would be better".  With that title would  come the ability to feel secure and to be able to lead and make a difference.

I was in the mindset for a while - in general, looking forward to another title - and once that was achieved it would all fall into place and I would know with confidence of what do do next.  To be clear it was not the need for a promotion.  What was driving me is if I thought I could have a promotion then others would follow so the goal I had to provide value to others would occur.  What I had realized that true growth can not come from someone else or somewhere else and that growth can only come from inside myself.

I realized now - with each promotion - that feeling of having "nailed it" continued to be as elusive as the legend of the unicorn.  With each transition I felt I was almost there but not really ever reaching that feeling that I was looking for.  Like a dream that seems so real and reality sets in as you wake up and realized all what you experience was not real.

So as I thought about the concept of "leveling up" I realized that work titles or perhaps rich financial personal life - does not matter.  These kind of title or things have only a short term positive effect and when the honey moon period always wears off and disappears, the realization of what is inside of us truly is what matters and remains.

All the riches of the world or your biggest title will not effect the foundation of who you are.  Conversely no riches or title can determine this foundation and also as some of  the happiest people I have met in my travels have a lot of riches.  Once again the pattern of happiness reappears.  As I reflect on my current work position I now realized how grateful I am - to that feeling of knowing and it doesn't matter in the big picture of long term positional titles.

The real value of what I can achieve is up to me and me alone.  One moment, one conversation, one key stroke and one coaching session at a time is truly what I can do to make a difference.  The importance of me being able to keep things in my mind simple and to keep focused on what I am trying to accomplish is a key foundation block.

Human beings are programmed to build and to create and to improve.  So based on your internal thoughts your creations will truly determine your outcome.  So ask yourself, whether personal or your professional life, are you happy or not with your current results of what you are creating?

To those reading these words, if you truly believe that maybe someone else's fault to the reason you are not achieving your happiness and success you truly want.  I am going to suggest, politely and with respect, perhaps it is time to look in your mirror.  Ask yourself if over the last period of time of negative cycles and not being able to level up.  What is the common factor in all of these experiences?

Probably that common factor is you - the people and experiences are most likely not all identical however if the result on your outcomes are almost identical - take a moment right now and be truly honest with yourself.

As I have continued on my quest to become a better  person - I had one of those moment of looking in my mirror - while I was reflecting and realizing I was the common factor in my outcomes which were negative.  The emotions I felt were overwhelming and the results at that point was several tears were shed in private as I was looking at my mirror.

Like any problem one is trying to solve - step 1 is to accept the responsibility and own the part that is your problem.  Once I realized that and did that in my life - I started making choices to eliminate negative influences in my life and embracing the positive ones.  By one moment at a time and one thought at a time I slowly started changing my reality.  I also now realized I will never be able to stop growing as I will never be able to achieve perfection.  Yet that will never stop in me that quest to become better and try to provide value to each person I come in contact with.

Now my days are filled with activities that I chose to do to keep making progress on one positive change at a time.  The joy I feel when I think of some people that have remained at my side, even when I was not positive and they were, I am overwhelmed with gratitude.

As my growth continues, on a daily basis, I do pay it forward with every person I meet.  Whether it is as simple as a kind smile or to more complex leadership processes.  The joy I received when these moments with other people have a positive affect - fuels me to go further and I gather more energy in me to continue to provide value for others.

Life is incredible and it seems life the more I give away the more life gives back, which in turn allows me to "level up" and feel happiness resonate within my body.  I even notice the gait in my walk now even has purpose.

What is your internal mirror showing you?  What are you going to do?

You and time are truly the only two things that are holding you back from your richness in life you deserve.

I know as I speak from my heart to you, I was there!