Feb 19/17
Have you ever felt a feeling of not feeling it? Whether it is in a work environment or when you were younger growing up in school? Or perhaps now in your personal life? Have your views and ides seem so different from those of your peers? When you expressed these ideas were they received with a general misunderstand by others?
If this did happen did your confidence suffer and as a result of lower confidence levels in you, did you stop sharing your ideas? As you knew your unconventional thoughts would not fit into others current ways of thinking. As time progressed in this environment did you ever reflect on your ideas of past and now see others coming up with your ideas you previously had shared with the same folks? At the time when you shared your same ideas that were not adopted and now are they are met with excitement.
As time has passed all of the above has occurred to my at some point in time in my life. There was a time when I struggled with these experience and the direct result was the overall lowering of my confidence. Which lead me to question my ability to have strong critical thinking skills in both the work force and my personal life. As with patterns, usually the effects of our experience in life will be both in our work life and personal life.
As I continue on this life's journey - there was a time when negative comments of my expression did affect me and the result was a withdrawn sense of self. Inward I was still the same person although outwardly I struggled as I was trying to fit into my surroundings and to be accepted.
As we are social beings and the need is strong to be a part of our pack, I realized I altered my response in alignment of that goal to fit in. Key ingredients of behavior is different in all of us, yet the need to produce value and to be value by our pack is in everyone. I have spoke before about the power of words and how they can impact others, is the thought that comes to mind now.
How often have you expressed something and been met with some type of negative reinforcement? Did it cause you to stop or alter your path based on that negative feedback? By being able to realize this is a key component in the communication loop and is another key to unlocking your gift that is lying in you wanting you to discover.
At first it will feel uncomfortable and unnatural to express yourself to others, yet I am going to encourage you to push past the feeling of wanting to stop your growth based on negative reinforcements of your environment factors given to you by others. As long as your coming from a place of kindness, push yourself and go forward.
Explore and grow your gift. It may have a large effect to other around you or may not, however that should not be your goal to look for significant feedback others at the beginning. As your goal is your growth with no expectation from others. Once you start to explore, take feedback both positive and negative from others.
Reflect and decide what feedback content can be utilized to further help your growth. Picture the feedback as a form as water to the young growing apple tree. The pattern of growth in nature requires balance as well your internal growth will also require balance. Be mindful of the negative feedback that you will not allow this to stop your growth and to impact on what you truly want to do in your life.
It took me 42 years to finally start writing and sharing my thoughts with others. As I continue to create, the sense of expression has provided me the gift of growing confidence and enjoyment of being able to share. My encouragement to you, is to start living your life based on your internal compass. Timing is a key ingredient for success, so perhaps the timing is right for you to start right now taking baby steps in the direction you truly want to go.
As you start to do this task, I assure you will look back at your life at some point and be grateful that you took that first step to follow your gift and create your passion.
Now is your moment and make each thought count of unlocking your greatness.
Sunday 30 April 2017
Sunday 23 April 2017
The 64th Chapter - The power of your thoughts and how they relate to your success.
Feb 18/17
My thoughts are on the impact of positive communication and actively listening to others. With a theme of the power of our thoughts created into words that others will hear - and the lasting impact of those thoughts can be incredibly powerful.
A experience comes to mind that happened to me recently. I was having a conversation with a co-worker about the culture in our society and how we behave is based on our daily interactions with others. I shared a story of a behavior based study with him on how strong the impact of our external environmental conditions are and in fact will condition our mindset of reality. Also the lasting power of what that conditioning and time can create on our environment of reality of unknowns.
What I mean by that is it is possible to behave a certain way with no idea of why we are behaving that way. Some feedback loops on behavior is very simple - example of that - you touch a hot stove once and based on that experience you will not do that again. So this is an rational form of reality based behavior change, to not touch a hot stove to avoid painful bodily harm. As adults that learn lessons based on this concept we will teach others - with the goal of providing a safe environment to others around us that have not yet touched that hot stove.
In the study I spoke about to my co-worker external factors were created and players in the experiment change their behavior based on these external factors, with no rational thought to why this environment was created. As such a behavior was created in that group, a culture, that was based on no real logical feedback other that than the fact that the culture dictated that is just the way things are doing around here.
So a few weeks passed and we had another conversation and he said to me - remember the experiment you told me about a while back? He goes on to tell me he was watching a movie and in that movie the experiment I spoke to him about, was in that movie and he expressed of the value of hearing of it twice to him. Based on this, it has created a positive experience that has resulted in some growth of his awareness.
Which goes to my thought at the beginning of this chapter of communication and how powerful this process is in us and the importance of always coming from a place of kindness. As one never knows how another person will interpret your words or how long those words can impact a person. This brief 5 minute original conversation has created an environment in my co-worker that continues to resonate with him. Also the value he has provided me with closing of the communication cycle is very positive and has provided me with fuel to keep going forward on my quest of providing value to others. Not only has it provided me with fuel but also a general feeling of my growth as well.
Another thought came to me is based on this type of communication skill and who you chose to communicate with can allow you to grow and add energy to your emotional well being.
So this morning I was randomly looking at the movie guide and I stumbled onto the movie he saw that talked about the social experiment. As the part played on the social experiment a smile came to my face and I felt a send of gratefulness.
All a random events this chapter is based on? Or a conversation that started out so small that it is growing? Perhaps the pattern of life and growth is possible with the art of strategically choosing the origins of our thoughts. By choosing our thoughts that are based on our alignments will then start providing us the momentum of our greatness.
Like the small apple seed that grows into a strong tree providing shelter with its leaves and branches. Not only shelter but food is also proved freely to all of nature, with this food it provides nature the ability to gain strength and energy. The apply tree quietly provides so much value with no expectation of anything in return that are benefiting from its greatness.
So imagine using this pattern of life with everything we chose to do. The benefits and the richness of our life will be unlimited. The strength of our communities would be one of mystic type properties that would have no ending to the value provided to all of us.
My thoughts are on the impact of positive communication and actively listening to others. With a theme of the power of our thoughts created into words that others will hear - and the lasting impact of those thoughts can be incredibly powerful.
A experience comes to mind that happened to me recently. I was having a conversation with a co-worker about the culture in our society and how we behave is based on our daily interactions with others. I shared a story of a behavior based study with him on how strong the impact of our external environmental conditions are and in fact will condition our mindset of reality. Also the lasting power of what that conditioning and time can create on our environment of reality of unknowns.
What I mean by that is it is possible to behave a certain way with no idea of why we are behaving that way. Some feedback loops on behavior is very simple - example of that - you touch a hot stove once and based on that experience you will not do that again. So this is an rational form of reality based behavior change, to not touch a hot stove to avoid painful bodily harm. As adults that learn lessons based on this concept we will teach others - with the goal of providing a safe environment to others around us that have not yet touched that hot stove.
In the study I spoke about to my co-worker external factors were created and players in the experiment change their behavior based on these external factors, with no rational thought to why this environment was created. As such a behavior was created in that group, a culture, that was based on no real logical feedback other that than the fact that the culture dictated that is just the way things are doing around here.
So a few weeks passed and we had another conversation and he said to me - remember the experiment you told me about a while back? He goes on to tell me he was watching a movie and in that movie the experiment I spoke to him about, was in that movie and he expressed of the value of hearing of it twice to him. Based on this, it has created a positive experience that has resulted in some growth of his awareness.
Which goes to my thought at the beginning of this chapter of communication and how powerful this process is in us and the importance of always coming from a place of kindness. As one never knows how another person will interpret your words or how long those words can impact a person. This brief 5 minute original conversation has created an environment in my co-worker that continues to resonate with him. Also the value he has provided me with closing of the communication cycle is very positive and has provided me with fuel to keep going forward on my quest of providing value to others. Not only has it provided me with fuel but also a general feeling of my growth as well.
Another thought came to me is based on this type of communication skill and who you chose to communicate with can allow you to grow and add energy to your emotional well being.
So this morning I was randomly looking at the movie guide and I stumbled onto the movie he saw that talked about the social experiment. As the part played on the social experiment a smile came to my face and I felt a send of gratefulness.
All a random events this chapter is based on? Or a conversation that started out so small that it is growing? Perhaps the pattern of life and growth is possible with the art of strategically choosing the origins of our thoughts. By choosing our thoughts that are based on our alignments will then start providing us the momentum of our greatness.
Like the small apple seed that grows into a strong tree providing shelter with its leaves and branches. Not only shelter but food is also proved freely to all of nature, with this food it provides nature the ability to gain strength and energy. The apply tree quietly provides so much value with no expectation of anything in return that are benefiting from its greatness.
So imagine using this pattern of life with everything we chose to do. The benefits and the richness of our life will be unlimited. The strength of our communities would be one of mystic type properties that would have no ending to the value provided to all of us.
Sunday 16 April 2017
The 63rd Chapter - Write Down Your Life
Feb 12/17
Are you familiar with or do you practice writing down in a journal what you would like to achieve in your life or have questions you would like to have answered? To those of you that do this - isn't it incredible of how what you write down in words over time actually manifest based on your writings?
To those of you that are questioning this concept or have wrote down wishes in the past and the outcome is not what you expected - then this chapter is dedicated for you. Some concepts and ideas to help bring in your life what you truly want. First of all on this process, take the time and meditate on what you truly want in your life - it does not matter what it is - it is possible as long as you truly want it. The moment you doubt your truth of what you want you will not achieve your goals or wonder if your answers to your questions will be answered, they too will not be answered.
This negative thought pattern will create that reality in your life. So at first keep your writing simple and remain focused on your goal. Sometimes life will carry us or distract us from what we truly want. The result of this distractions is starting of several journeys and growth with the completion of none. The dream or hope for something new in your life is easy, the difficult part is to go forward and slowly accomplishing your goals. The pattern of creating some great in you is all around you in nature and is possible for you to successfully replicate that process in your life.
Imagine the great pyramids once a plan was completed to start building them - that the builders focus was diverted from the original plans - things like design, location and construction material were constantly changed. If that happened they would have not been successfully built. Relentless focus of back to the original plans and by one movement at a time the pyramids were slowly created and come to life. Keep in mind this process took years to complete so that same concept applies to your goals you have wrote down in your journal.
So depending on how much time and effort you put in your goals will directly result on how long they will take to have your goals reached. Remember all of your goals are different and all will take a different strategy to create success in them.
A personal example of how I received answers to one of my questions I would like to share. Over the past few years I have felt unsettled in my physical location of where I lived. I also have two incredible your adult children. Where I live, there are long periods of cold and darkness and I have gotten to a place where I feel more unhappy with these two conditions. So on Sept 17/16 I wrote down a specific question in my journal and what I asked for was the answers of where I would like to live and why I would like to live there.
I ended up taking a holiday to a warm location by myself in mid December 2016 for two weeks. As time passed on my vacation I realized many things in my life and what I need to do. One of the things I realized was the fact I knew I would never be able to move away from my kids. I will still go away for brief warm vacations however a long term move is not an option for me.
I have communicated to my kids that I am not making the choice to move away however if opportunities come their way - like for work or relationships that require them to move I have encouraged them to follow these opportunities. Which takes me to today and I will be moving into my forever home in three days.
This new home location is in close proximity of my kids and the feeling of being settled is so confirming of my alignment. I have received my answers using the above tools with the key take away, while you are on your journeys is to follow what life brings your way and to have the courage to try new things.
Most importantly, while you are trying new things to enjoy your experiences and to keep your thoughts on your goals. While doing this you need to recognize when the universe provides you with what you want. This opportunities if missed, will be gone forever and will ending up taking you a long time to be able to feel this comfort of your alignment.
This is the most important part of your goal is to capture your quest and to recognize that your goal or answers have been provided to you. As if your unfocused and looking the other way you will miss your gifts.
As like the great pyramids in your life, they will never be built and achieved with the missing of these gifts.
Are you going right now to write in your journal what you truly want?
Remember time is moving right now - will you?
Are you familiar with or do you practice writing down in a journal what you would like to achieve in your life or have questions you would like to have answered? To those of you that do this - isn't it incredible of how what you write down in words over time actually manifest based on your writings?
To those of you that are questioning this concept or have wrote down wishes in the past and the outcome is not what you expected - then this chapter is dedicated for you. Some concepts and ideas to help bring in your life what you truly want. First of all on this process, take the time and meditate on what you truly want in your life - it does not matter what it is - it is possible as long as you truly want it. The moment you doubt your truth of what you want you will not achieve your goals or wonder if your answers to your questions will be answered, they too will not be answered.
This negative thought pattern will create that reality in your life. So at first keep your writing simple and remain focused on your goal. Sometimes life will carry us or distract us from what we truly want. The result of this distractions is starting of several journeys and growth with the completion of none. The dream or hope for something new in your life is easy, the difficult part is to go forward and slowly accomplishing your goals. The pattern of creating some great in you is all around you in nature and is possible for you to successfully replicate that process in your life.
Imagine the great pyramids once a plan was completed to start building them - that the builders focus was diverted from the original plans - things like design, location and construction material were constantly changed. If that happened they would have not been successfully built. Relentless focus of back to the original plans and by one movement at a time the pyramids were slowly created and come to life. Keep in mind this process took years to complete so that same concept applies to your goals you have wrote down in your journal.
So depending on how much time and effort you put in your goals will directly result on how long they will take to have your goals reached. Remember all of your goals are different and all will take a different strategy to create success in them.
A personal example of how I received answers to one of my questions I would like to share. Over the past few years I have felt unsettled in my physical location of where I lived. I also have two incredible your adult children. Where I live, there are long periods of cold and darkness and I have gotten to a place where I feel more unhappy with these two conditions. So on Sept 17/16 I wrote down a specific question in my journal and what I asked for was the answers of where I would like to live and why I would like to live there.
I ended up taking a holiday to a warm location by myself in mid December 2016 for two weeks. As time passed on my vacation I realized many things in my life and what I need to do. One of the things I realized was the fact I knew I would never be able to move away from my kids. I will still go away for brief warm vacations however a long term move is not an option for me.
I have communicated to my kids that I am not making the choice to move away however if opportunities come their way - like for work or relationships that require them to move I have encouraged them to follow these opportunities. Which takes me to today and I will be moving into my forever home in three days.
This new home location is in close proximity of my kids and the feeling of being settled is so confirming of my alignment. I have received my answers using the above tools with the key take away, while you are on your journeys is to follow what life brings your way and to have the courage to try new things.
Most importantly, while you are trying new things to enjoy your experiences and to keep your thoughts on your goals. While doing this you need to recognize when the universe provides you with what you want. This opportunities if missed, will be gone forever and will ending up taking you a long time to be able to feel this comfort of your alignment.
This is the most important part of your goal is to capture your quest and to recognize that your goal or answers have been provided to you. As if your unfocused and looking the other way you will miss your gifts.
As like the great pyramids in your life, they will never be built and achieved with the missing of these gifts.
Are you going right now to write in your journal what you truly want?
Remember time is moving right now - will you?
Saturday 15 April 2017
The 62th Chapter - Keep Your Life Simple - Create Your Great
Feb 11/17
Have you taken a moment to reflect and look at where you are in life? If not, how long has it been where you have taken a moment for yourself and to look inward deeply? One of the patterns I have recognized in my life is the fact I sometimes will get lost in the confusion of my daily interactions and situations I face.
Over the last few months I have taken the time to reflect of what I need in my life in order to continue to grow as a person. As I have practiced this concept, and always a focus of keeping my actions simple in relation to the positive foundation of my life. I have felt richness and a daily joy of life that I have never experience before. The most exciting thing is for me is this richness of life is growing daily.
Once this growth first started to occur, I felt glimpse of this feeling however it was not always sustainable everyday. As I continue to practice it becomes easier and easier. Recently I was able to share a movie with my son that had deeply impacted my life in a positive way. Which in turn he expressed the movie was a positive experience for him.
This may seem like a small evet that has occurred however it is moments like these that create an environment of richness I am now feeling on a daily basis. Fundamentally events like these have occurred in my life by allowing myself to be vulnerable and to be me. Once fear was conquered in my life, the fear of being enough in any given situation was erased.
The strength I realized from that moment has provided me with the higher level of confidence required to move forward. Now in my personal and work like I want to do more - I want to learn to be better in all aspects of my life and to be continually improving. I know now life's journey to become a better person and to keep learning will never be over. All of what has originated from a single thought in my life to be a better person - not only to be a better person but to share my experience with the hope and belief these writings will impact others in a positive way. With the overall underlying concept of paying forward the intent of positive energy. With the higher goal of to truly make a difference in a person's daily life.
To help build the confidence in others that will allow their greatness to be uncovered and to be shared with the world. One quote that has come to my mind is one from Henry Ford " If you think you can do a thing or think you can't do a thing, you're right" So simple yet so powerful, quotes like these have helped me with my goal to keep my thoughts simple and focused on where I want to go.
In all factors of your life - personal, work, fitness your current reality is you - you and only you can change this reality. Granted there is a lot of situations in our life that are very difficult and complex - however as long as your able to physically walk away from your negative environments - you and only you can change what you are currently experiencing.
Do not wait for someone else to unlock your greatness and happiness - if you decide to wait - you will run out of time. In times where you feel this concept is impossible for you to achieve or you are thinking your too tired to carry on - dig deeper - there is always more you can do to propel yourself forward and change your current reality.
Step one is to truly believe Henry Ford's quote - So as you take that moment now to reflect on your life. What are you going to discover? What are you going to do with these discoveries? Are you going to make changes to your personal alignment or not?
Have you taken a moment to reflect and look at where you are in life? If not, how long has it been where you have taken a moment for yourself and to look inward deeply? One of the patterns I have recognized in my life is the fact I sometimes will get lost in the confusion of my daily interactions and situations I face.
Over the last few months I have taken the time to reflect of what I need in my life in order to continue to grow as a person. As I have practiced this concept, and always a focus of keeping my actions simple in relation to the positive foundation of my life. I have felt richness and a daily joy of life that I have never experience before. The most exciting thing is for me is this richness of life is growing daily.
Once this growth first started to occur, I felt glimpse of this feeling however it was not always sustainable everyday. As I continue to practice it becomes easier and easier. Recently I was able to share a movie with my son that had deeply impacted my life in a positive way. Which in turn he expressed the movie was a positive experience for him.
This may seem like a small evet that has occurred however it is moments like these that create an environment of richness I am now feeling on a daily basis. Fundamentally events like these have occurred in my life by allowing myself to be vulnerable and to be me. Once fear was conquered in my life, the fear of being enough in any given situation was erased.
The strength I realized from that moment has provided me with the higher level of confidence required to move forward. Now in my personal and work like I want to do more - I want to learn to be better in all aspects of my life and to be continually improving. I know now life's journey to become a better person and to keep learning will never be over. All of what has originated from a single thought in my life to be a better person - not only to be a better person but to share my experience with the hope and belief these writings will impact others in a positive way. With the overall underlying concept of paying forward the intent of positive energy. With the higher goal of to truly make a difference in a person's daily life.
To help build the confidence in others that will allow their greatness to be uncovered and to be shared with the world. One quote that has come to my mind is one from Henry Ford " If you think you can do a thing or think you can't do a thing, you're right" So simple yet so powerful, quotes like these have helped me with my goal to keep my thoughts simple and focused on where I want to go.
In all factors of your life - personal, work, fitness your current reality is you - you and only you can change this reality. Granted there is a lot of situations in our life that are very difficult and complex - however as long as your able to physically walk away from your negative environments - you and only you can change what you are currently experiencing.
Do not wait for someone else to unlock your greatness and happiness - if you decide to wait - you will run out of time. In times where you feel this concept is impossible for you to achieve or you are thinking your too tired to carry on - dig deeper - there is always more you can do to propel yourself forward and change your current reality.
Step one is to truly believe Henry Ford's quote - So as you take that moment now to reflect on your life. What are you going to discover? What are you going to do with these discoveries? Are you going to make changes to your personal alignment or not?
Sunday 9 April 2017
The 61st Chapter - Find Your Power
Feb 4/17
The concept of "leveling up in life" has remained with me over the last few weeks. I remember a time in my work career of not being fully secure in my position and role within the company. I had thoughts of " if only I received a high position of power and title all would be better". With that title would come the ability to feel secure and to be able to lead and make a difference.
I was in the mindset for a while - in general, looking forward to another title - and once that was achieved it would all fall into place and I would know with confidence of what do do next. To be clear it was not the need for a promotion. What was driving me is if I thought I could have a promotion then others would follow so the goal I had to provide value to others would occur. What I had realized that true growth can not come from someone else or somewhere else and that growth can only come from inside myself.
I realized now - with each promotion - that feeling of having "nailed it" continued to be as elusive as the legend of the unicorn. With each transition I felt I was almost there but not really ever reaching that feeling that I was looking for. Like a dream that seems so real and reality sets in as you wake up and realized all what you experience was not real.
So as I thought about the concept of "leveling up" I realized that work titles or perhaps rich financial personal life - does not matter. These kind of title or things have only a short term positive effect and when the honey moon period always wears off and disappears, the realization of what is inside of us truly is what matters and remains.
All the riches of the world or your biggest title will not effect the foundation of who you are. Conversely no riches or title can determine this foundation and also as some of the happiest people I have met in my travels have a lot of riches. Once again the pattern of happiness reappears. As I reflect on my current work position I now realized how grateful I am - to that feeling of knowing and it doesn't matter in the big picture of long term positional titles.
The real value of what I can achieve is up to me and me alone. One moment, one conversation, one key stroke and one coaching session at a time is truly what I can do to make a difference. The importance of me being able to keep things in my mind simple and to keep focused on what I am trying to accomplish is a key foundation block.
Human beings are programmed to build and to create and to improve. So based on your internal thoughts your creations will truly determine your outcome. So ask yourself, whether personal or your professional life, are you happy or not with your current results of what you are creating?
To those reading these words, if you truly believe that maybe someone else's fault to the reason you are not achieving your happiness and success you truly want. I am going to suggest, politely and with respect, perhaps it is time to look in your mirror. Ask yourself if over the last period of time of negative cycles and not being able to level up. What is the common factor in all of these experiences?
Probably that common factor is you - the people and experiences are most likely not all identical however if the result on your outcomes are almost identical - take a moment right now and be truly honest with yourself.
As I have continued on my quest to become a better person - I had one of those moment of looking in my mirror - while I was reflecting and realizing I was the common factor in my outcomes which were negative. The emotions I felt were overwhelming and the results at that point was several tears were shed in private as I was looking at my mirror.
Like any problem one is trying to solve - step 1 is to accept the responsibility and own the part that is your problem. Once I realized that and did that in my life - I started making choices to eliminate negative influences in my life and embracing the positive ones. By one moment at a time and one thought at a time I slowly started changing my reality. I also now realized I will never be able to stop growing as I will never be able to achieve perfection. Yet that will never stop in me that quest to become better and try to provide value to each person I come in contact with.
Now my days are filled with activities that I chose to do to keep making progress on one positive change at a time. The joy I feel when I think of some people that have remained at my side, even when I was not positive and they were, I am overwhelmed with gratitude.
As my growth continues, on a daily basis, I do pay it forward with every person I meet. Whether it is as simple as a kind smile or to more complex leadership processes. The joy I received when these moments with other people have a positive affect - fuels me to go further and I gather more energy in me to continue to provide value for others.
Life is incredible and it seems life the more I give away the more life gives back, which in turn allows me to "level up" and feel happiness resonate within my body. I even notice the gait in my walk now even has purpose.
What is your internal mirror showing you? What are you going to do?
You and time are truly the only two things that are holding you back from your richness in life you deserve.
I know as I speak from my heart to you, I was there!
The concept of "leveling up in life" has remained with me over the last few weeks. I remember a time in my work career of not being fully secure in my position and role within the company. I had thoughts of " if only I received a high position of power and title all would be better". With that title would come the ability to feel secure and to be able to lead and make a difference.
I was in the mindset for a while - in general, looking forward to another title - and once that was achieved it would all fall into place and I would know with confidence of what do do next. To be clear it was not the need for a promotion. What was driving me is if I thought I could have a promotion then others would follow so the goal I had to provide value to others would occur. What I had realized that true growth can not come from someone else or somewhere else and that growth can only come from inside myself.
I realized now - with each promotion - that feeling of having "nailed it" continued to be as elusive as the legend of the unicorn. With each transition I felt I was almost there but not really ever reaching that feeling that I was looking for. Like a dream that seems so real and reality sets in as you wake up and realized all what you experience was not real.
So as I thought about the concept of "leveling up" I realized that work titles or perhaps rich financial personal life - does not matter. These kind of title or things have only a short term positive effect and when the honey moon period always wears off and disappears, the realization of what is inside of us truly is what matters and remains.
All the riches of the world or your biggest title will not effect the foundation of who you are. Conversely no riches or title can determine this foundation and also as some of the happiest people I have met in my travels have a lot of riches. Once again the pattern of happiness reappears. As I reflect on my current work position I now realized how grateful I am - to that feeling of knowing and it doesn't matter in the big picture of long term positional titles.
The real value of what I can achieve is up to me and me alone. One moment, one conversation, one key stroke and one coaching session at a time is truly what I can do to make a difference. The importance of me being able to keep things in my mind simple and to keep focused on what I am trying to accomplish is a key foundation block.
Human beings are programmed to build and to create and to improve. So based on your internal thoughts your creations will truly determine your outcome. So ask yourself, whether personal or your professional life, are you happy or not with your current results of what you are creating?
To those reading these words, if you truly believe that maybe someone else's fault to the reason you are not achieving your happiness and success you truly want. I am going to suggest, politely and with respect, perhaps it is time to look in your mirror. Ask yourself if over the last period of time of negative cycles and not being able to level up. What is the common factor in all of these experiences?
Probably that common factor is you - the people and experiences are most likely not all identical however if the result on your outcomes are almost identical - take a moment right now and be truly honest with yourself.
As I have continued on my quest to become a better person - I had one of those moment of looking in my mirror - while I was reflecting and realizing I was the common factor in my outcomes which were negative. The emotions I felt were overwhelming and the results at that point was several tears were shed in private as I was looking at my mirror.
Like any problem one is trying to solve - step 1 is to accept the responsibility and own the part that is your problem. Once I realized that and did that in my life - I started making choices to eliminate negative influences in my life and embracing the positive ones. By one moment at a time and one thought at a time I slowly started changing my reality. I also now realized I will never be able to stop growing as I will never be able to achieve perfection. Yet that will never stop in me that quest to become better and try to provide value to each person I come in contact with.
Now my days are filled with activities that I chose to do to keep making progress on one positive change at a time. The joy I feel when I think of some people that have remained at my side, even when I was not positive and they were, I am overwhelmed with gratitude.
As my growth continues, on a daily basis, I do pay it forward with every person I meet. Whether it is as simple as a kind smile or to more complex leadership processes. The joy I received when these moments with other people have a positive affect - fuels me to go further and I gather more energy in me to continue to provide value for others.
Life is incredible and it seems life the more I give away the more life gives back, which in turn allows me to "level up" and feel happiness resonate within my body. I even notice the gait in my walk now even has purpose.
What is your internal mirror showing you? What are you going to do?
You and time are truly the only two things that are holding you back from your richness in life you deserve.
I know as I speak from my heart to you, I was there!
Saturday 8 April 2017
The 60th Chapter - Make Your Daily Steps Count to Accomplish Your Goals
Jan 29/17
The thought of doing small incremental steps each day to reach your goal vs. doing nothing towards your goal with the end result of achieving nothing. I was talking to a new friend today about my physical journey of becoming more active. I was sharing about how the doctor told me if I did not change my eating habits and increase my activity levels that my health, over time, would slowly decline.
As life is so busy, I was sharing how it seems that the day is filled with so many tasks. I commented that I wish I had more time than one hour a day to work on my physical workout routine. Then we started to talk about people that do not take these types of warnings to heart from their doctor and do not act on them - whether it is our physical or emotional health.
The thought shared by this friend was better to work on ones health at least a hour a day vs. not doing any work on oneself - which by not doing anything could end up having 24 hours a day of free time. That point spoke so strongly to me as, a little sacrifice now - in whatever endeavor we are trying to achieve - will ultimately lead towards our goals.
Conversely if we do not do anything to the warnings given to us will ultimately end up in us not improving ourselves - which in this case about my health and that changing could end up possibly losing everything - hence have nothing but endless time and not anymore having the opportunity to create any amount of positive change.
The passing of time is relative to our current state of mind in how fast that time goes by. One thing I have been learning is the importance of learning life's lessons and realize the gift that life will give you enough time if one is paying attention - however like most things, if you wait long enough your window of time will pass and unfortunately once these moments of time have passed there is not another opportunity to ever wish you had a hour a day to make your changes.
Hence the power of the theory of relativity applies here and how time is so important where as for years that one hour window can no longer be utilized any longer. As you read these words - the time is now for you to act and start now with spending your hour a day - while you have the time. Whether it is your personal or emotional health, do no wait until tomorrow.
Do not wait until tomorrow - as you finish reading these words - start immediately to spend a hour on your goal. Take your thought of your growth and take it to the next level and create a plan of action.
Regardless of how difficult it might be for you - put your thoughts into your action - as your life outcomes depends truly on your choices you are making right now.
Take your action now - when the theory of relativity is in your favor in regards to time.
The thought of doing small incremental steps each day to reach your goal vs. doing nothing towards your goal with the end result of achieving nothing. I was talking to a new friend today about my physical journey of becoming more active. I was sharing about how the doctor told me if I did not change my eating habits and increase my activity levels that my health, over time, would slowly decline.
As life is so busy, I was sharing how it seems that the day is filled with so many tasks. I commented that I wish I had more time than one hour a day to work on my physical workout routine. Then we started to talk about people that do not take these types of warnings to heart from their doctor and do not act on them - whether it is our physical or emotional health.
The thought shared by this friend was better to work on ones health at least a hour a day vs. not doing any work on oneself - which by not doing anything could end up having 24 hours a day of free time. That point spoke so strongly to me as, a little sacrifice now - in whatever endeavor we are trying to achieve - will ultimately lead towards our goals.
Conversely if we do not do anything to the warnings given to us will ultimately end up in us not improving ourselves - which in this case about my health and that changing could end up possibly losing everything - hence have nothing but endless time and not anymore having the opportunity to create any amount of positive change.
The passing of time is relative to our current state of mind in how fast that time goes by. One thing I have been learning is the importance of learning life's lessons and realize the gift that life will give you enough time if one is paying attention - however like most things, if you wait long enough your window of time will pass and unfortunately once these moments of time have passed there is not another opportunity to ever wish you had a hour a day to make your changes.
Hence the power of the theory of relativity applies here and how time is so important where as for years that one hour window can no longer be utilized any longer. As you read these words - the time is now for you to act and start now with spending your hour a day - while you have the time. Whether it is your personal or emotional health, do no wait until tomorrow.
Do not wait until tomorrow - as you finish reading these words - start immediately to spend a hour on your goal. Take your thought of your growth and take it to the next level and create a plan of action.
Regardless of how difficult it might be for you - put your thoughts into your action - as your life outcomes depends truly on your choices you are making right now.
Take your action now - when the theory of relativity is in your favor in regards to time.
Sunday 2 April 2017
The 59th Chapter - Level Yourself Up
Jan 28/17
My thoughts have been on the concept of leveling up. As I thought about that idea or way of doing things - that principle of continuous improvement or leveling up is around us in everything. Examples of this are in nature, our products we use on a daily basis to , in some cases, our personal growth.
Sometimes in my past I would have a sense of not being in a place of fulfillment and feeling a sense of not having a sense of direction. Once I started to realize that pattern in my life, I would search out tangible ways to evolve and move to a place of gratefulness and accomplishment. I soon realized that the only way that is possible to make change in my life is by my actions.
As I started with the realization this is truly up to me and I started to make adjustments to my life. I started to receive a general overall sense of satisfaction as I "leveled up?. I thought about video games and how over the last few years the incredible growth that industry has experienced. Perhaps one of the reasons of that, other than the fact of basic sensory entertainment value, is the sense of accomplishment folks receive as they complete levels of the game they are playing.
Usually at the beginning the start of the games is very simple and also includes a set of simple instructions of how to play the game. Once the instruction level is complete - depending on how much you play, a person can rapidly move up levels and usually some type of reward is also given to the player as they level up. That pattern of video games is exactly what we need to replicate in our life to "level up" and to be provided with that sense of life's accomplishments, which leads to rewards in our life.
So if you find yourself not leveling up - look inside deeply and discovering what it is in you that is causing you to not level up. Unlike a video fame, real life does not provide you with a set of detailed instruction of how to play the game. So the difficult part for you is to discover these instructions for you.
What I found helpful in my journey to finding my instructions is to keep asking why to myself and allowing myself the patience to learn what life is teaching me. Also to have the mind set, that as I learn and grow, I will fail once and a while - that is ok and in fact that is totally normal and should be expected. Like in a video game - it is reasonable to expect the first time you sit down and play it - are you able to complete the entire game without one mistake?
Most of us would say that mistakes will be made as we learn this video game. Yet in life some of us may expect perfection in each step we take in life. Sometimes in life, if we do make a mistake we might stop living and exploring. As we slowly let fear come into our life we may slowly push out the positive things in our life. As a human we do not have an unlimited amount of capacity of energy and our thoughts, choices will directly effect our ability to level up.
This will happen in our life's journey and refer back to the lessons you have learned and change your choices. Like the video game - if your unsuccessful on a level, you have to change what you are doing. It is not possible for you to change the programming of that game.
The great thing about this life is that life always provides you the chances to change. The only two limiting factors to your chance is time and you. As you read and reflect on these words, ask one of three questions. Am I in alignment to what I need in my life and am I leveling up or am I stuck on a level and can not successfully level up?
If you feel compelled to share your story in relation to this chapter - please leave a comment.
My thoughts have been on the concept of leveling up. As I thought about that idea or way of doing things - that principle of continuous improvement or leveling up is around us in everything. Examples of this are in nature, our products we use on a daily basis to , in some cases, our personal growth.
Sometimes in my past I would have a sense of not being in a place of fulfillment and feeling a sense of not having a sense of direction. Once I started to realize that pattern in my life, I would search out tangible ways to evolve and move to a place of gratefulness and accomplishment. I soon realized that the only way that is possible to make change in my life is by my actions.
As I started with the realization this is truly up to me and I started to make adjustments to my life. I started to receive a general overall sense of satisfaction as I "leveled up?. I thought about video games and how over the last few years the incredible growth that industry has experienced. Perhaps one of the reasons of that, other than the fact of basic sensory entertainment value, is the sense of accomplishment folks receive as they complete levels of the game they are playing.
Usually at the beginning the start of the games is very simple and also includes a set of simple instructions of how to play the game. Once the instruction level is complete - depending on how much you play, a person can rapidly move up levels and usually some type of reward is also given to the player as they level up. That pattern of video games is exactly what we need to replicate in our life to "level up" and to be provided with that sense of life's accomplishments, which leads to rewards in our life.
So if you find yourself not leveling up - look inside deeply and discovering what it is in you that is causing you to not level up. Unlike a video fame, real life does not provide you with a set of detailed instruction of how to play the game. So the difficult part for you is to discover these instructions for you.
What I found helpful in my journey to finding my instructions is to keep asking why to myself and allowing myself the patience to learn what life is teaching me. Also to have the mind set, that as I learn and grow, I will fail once and a while - that is ok and in fact that is totally normal and should be expected. Like in a video game - it is reasonable to expect the first time you sit down and play it - are you able to complete the entire game without one mistake?
Most of us would say that mistakes will be made as we learn this video game. Yet in life some of us may expect perfection in each step we take in life. Sometimes in life, if we do make a mistake we might stop living and exploring. As we slowly let fear come into our life we may slowly push out the positive things in our life. As a human we do not have an unlimited amount of capacity of energy and our thoughts, choices will directly effect our ability to level up.
This will happen in our life's journey and refer back to the lessons you have learned and change your choices. Like the video game - if your unsuccessful on a level, you have to change what you are doing. It is not possible for you to change the programming of that game.
The great thing about this life is that life always provides you the chances to change. The only two limiting factors to your chance is time and you. As you read and reflect on these words, ask one of three questions. Am I in alignment to what I need in my life and am I leveling up or am I stuck on a level and can not successfully level up?
If you feel compelled to share your story in relation to this chapter - please leave a comment.
Saturday 1 April 2017
The 58th Chapter - How to keep your life simple by the choices you make.
Jan 22/17
I am thinking about tangible and effective ways of reference points to ensure your still on your correct path for you. As humans we have the tendency to start out simple with a great plan or idea. As time progresses sometimes we will start to create our own difficulty in this goal almost to the point it becomes unattainable because the choices we make - by creating an environment of complexity.
So what started out to do with our greatness of intentions - ends up not getting completed due to our added complexity. So something that I found really helpful is this journal I am currently writing these words in. As months pass I will go back and reread what I have created - by doing this it allows me to remember and return to a focus of my growth. It also provides a check point and an measurement tool to see if I have made any progression in my life's quest.
I find comfort in rereading my thoughts that were lost and provides me the fuel I need to gather my energy to keep growing and evolving . It is also valuable in ensuring I maintain my goal of clarity. Ensuring I am not getting going in too many directions all at once and not allowing my focus to be so wide that will not allow me to go forward.
The picture reference to this point is the old story of a young kid in a candy store - only allowed to pick one candy with 25 cents that they have for the one candy. When there is thousands's of different choices that all may look good to this young kid but yet really has no idea what they may taste like.
All the emotions we feel in our adult life is what that young kid now feels - and questions come to mind life, What if I make the wrong choice? What if I do not like the taste? What if another is better? Sounds familiar doesn't it in our adult life - when we are faced with so many important choices but yet really don't know what choices to make with so many unknowns.
Should we go to school? Who should we marry and spend the rest of our life with? Is this the correct candy for us? Sometimes life can be truly overwhelming and the choices are endless. So for me - when I am unsure and have lost my clarity of focus - I enjoy rereading what I have created. It provides comfort and simplicity for me to go forward. It allows me to select the correct candy for me at the time I need it.
Isn't life great and so simple as patterns keep repeating over and over in our journey.
The same building blocks of our foundation keep repeating yet our experiences are usually always different. One of life's key's to living a fulfilled life is being able to recognize your current pattern you have experience before in your new current life experiences. In a way picture that candy store you experienced as a kid, you now know what exactly you like and recognize the patterns with you as you go into the adult store of life.
By doing this first step correctly of identifying your pattern, it will provide you the confidence in your choices that you need to make that will all be in alignment of what you truly want. So if you decide you want the best candy in the store - go out and create that reality.
The secret is to remember to keep your life simple in your daily choices. By doing this it will allow you to not be paralyzed of what you should do next. Have you ever been in a place in your life at the candy store and you can not select that candy and you will endlessly be froze with the lack of ability to create a decision? That leads to the point of you getting frustrated by being frozen in time? When others around you seem to be effortlessly making their selection and moving on?
Clarity of focus is key and when you find yourself in a spot consistently going in circles - recognize what is going on. Ask why this is happening. Look for the current light houses showing you a safe direction - make your choice with your purpose - be ok with the fact you might take the wrong candy. Take comfort in knowing the choice you made at that time was the best choice you could take with the information you had.
Now step up and take your step forward to your purpose.
I am thinking about tangible and effective ways of reference points to ensure your still on your correct path for you. As humans we have the tendency to start out simple with a great plan or idea. As time progresses sometimes we will start to create our own difficulty in this goal almost to the point it becomes unattainable because the choices we make - by creating an environment of complexity.
So what started out to do with our greatness of intentions - ends up not getting completed due to our added complexity. So something that I found really helpful is this journal I am currently writing these words in. As months pass I will go back and reread what I have created - by doing this it allows me to remember and return to a focus of my growth. It also provides a check point and an measurement tool to see if I have made any progression in my life's quest.
I find comfort in rereading my thoughts that were lost and provides me the fuel I need to gather my energy to keep growing and evolving . It is also valuable in ensuring I maintain my goal of clarity. Ensuring I am not getting going in too many directions all at once and not allowing my focus to be so wide that will not allow me to go forward.
The picture reference to this point is the old story of a young kid in a candy store - only allowed to pick one candy with 25 cents that they have for the one candy. When there is thousands's of different choices that all may look good to this young kid but yet really has no idea what they may taste like.
All the emotions we feel in our adult life is what that young kid now feels - and questions come to mind life, What if I make the wrong choice? What if I do not like the taste? What if another is better? Sounds familiar doesn't it in our adult life - when we are faced with so many important choices but yet really don't know what choices to make with so many unknowns.
Should we go to school? Who should we marry and spend the rest of our life with? Is this the correct candy for us? Sometimes life can be truly overwhelming and the choices are endless. So for me - when I am unsure and have lost my clarity of focus - I enjoy rereading what I have created. It provides comfort and simplicity for me to go forward. It allows me to select the correct candy for me at the time I need it.
Isn't life great and so simple as patterns keep repeating over and over in our journey.
The same building blocks of our foundation keep repeating yet our experiences are usually always different. One of life's key's to living a fulfilled life is being able to recognize your current pattern you have experience before in your new current life experiences. In a way picture that candy store you experienced as a kid, you now know what exactly you like and recognize the patterns with you as you go into the adult store of life.
By doing this first step correctly of identifying your pattern, it will provide you the confidence in your choices that you need to make that will all be in alignment of what you truly want. So if you decide you want the best candy in the store - go out and create that reality.
The secret is to remember to keep your life simple in your daily choices. By doing this it will allow you to not be paralyzed of what you should do next. Have you ever been in a place in your life at the candy store and you can not select that candy and you will endlessly be froze with the lack of ability to create a decision? That leads to the point of you getting frustrated by being frozen in time? When others around you seem to be effortlessly making their selection and moving on?
Clarity of focus is key and when you find yourself in a spot consistently going in circles - recognize what is going on. Ask why this is happening. Look for the current light houses showing you a safe direction - make your choice with your purpose - be ok with the fact you might take the wrong candy. Take comfort in knowing the choice you made at that time was the best choice you could take with the information you had.
Now step up and take your step forward to your purpose.
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