Aug 27/17
This title might sound controversial in this current age of expression or perhaps the age of not being able to freely express non-mainstream thoughts. As your growing and finding your true self, have you ever found yourself in a state of worry on the person that is coming alive? Have you struggled to find your balance of who you are and your tribes acceptance of your obsessions?
I know I have come out of a period when I was younger where I struggled with this thought and having balance. To be clear this obsession of your passion is a concept for you to become a better person and to continue to unlock your greatness. Ensure your obsession does not lock onto someone else, this chapter is about the healthy obsession of your growth.
When I was arriving at my passion my growth was handcuffed by me as I was fearful of this passion. It took a long time for me to emerge out of the shadows of my shell due partly because of listening to others around me. In general others and society would suggest obsessive is a bad thing however I feel there is a fine line that is quite blurred with that thought.
As anyone that is successful in whatever field they have worked hard and practiced their skill repeatedly. Like a saw blade in a large tree a craftsman will repeat the same action in the same spot until the saw cuts through the log. So by being obsessive with something, it will bring you success.
When I started creating my first book, I lacked the confidence on the quality of my work, I created the words, ideas and put them all together in a book. I chose the image of the cover, letter fonts and layout of the product. All without the aid of formal training in literature or graphic design. From there I started marketing the book, once again all done by trying to work my obsession.
I have learned so much and continue to learn but a key take away is my growing confidence in working my saw. In reality my first book is a little rough and that doesn't matter, what matters is it was a start of seeing and living my passion. That passion is to help others and to be creative with my experiences of life.
Most people know who Wayne Gretzky is and I am guessing he spent countless hours practicing on and off the ice to become a great athlete. Hours spent working his sweet spot as he was perfecting his craft. It is about your confidence and your ability to work your passion.
Let your dreams of success fill you and even though you don't know where you are going to end up, take your first step you living your obsession.
Saturday 30 September 2017
Friday 29 September 2017
The Second Book The 42nd Chapter - Your Insecurities and Your Reality
Aug 27/17
Have you ever arrived at a crossroads or in a crossroad and you can feel your insecurities coming into your thoughts? Did you current thought start out positive but now some negative thoughts are starting to grow which is now becoming your new reality? Has it progressed to the point you might be effecting the reality of others that are close to you?
I think most of use are aware of how our view point will effect our daily activities and what I would like to share today is how our insecurities can impact others. My young adult son is in a good place in his life as he now has realized what he would like to do with his life. With this realization has come for him to leave a high paying job, for a young person, and go attend post secondary education.
As he is in this process of change, his insecurities of the unknown are starting to impact his thoughts. As the day approached to return from his work, he started to communicate that I did not want to see him make this change and be around him. That over the last 7 month of his working he thought I wanted him to keep on this track. As this mindset continued to grow stronger in him, they started to spill over into him putting on the burden to others around him by projecting his reality.
The impact of his statement of the thought that I didn't want him around caused me to feel a sense of hurt in me. I love my son and have always welcomed his presence and this is now the opposite of what his is communicating to me. As I was processing and feeling this experience I was struck again the importance of communication. Also the importance of how my interactions with others will effect them. It caused me to look deeper of my insecurities and how I might be projecting those realities onto others.
When I was younger, I realized now, I would have actions that were based on my insight and would drive realities that were not always positive. I would not think of how my reality and choices was impacting others. This is an unhealthy place for me to be but it took me years to learn this lesson.
With this recent interaction with my son I had a direct and kind conversation on his statement. I asked him first the why, why was he thinking negative thoughts? I had a good sense of where the why was coming from, however at this moment he needed supportive behavior from me. He did not need me to tell him what to do or need me to become harsh with my words.
As he explained to me his current mindset of thoughts it became clear his new path was bringing up these insecurities. As time went on they became projection gremlins that were then extended to me.
Life is about growth and your self-awareness is required for you to grow. Select your positive inner circle of influences and establish healthy boundaries. By doing this your self-awareness will grow to ensure your insecurities do not become your reality.
Have you ever arrived at a crossroads or in a crossroad and you can feel your insecurities coming into your thoughts? Did you current thought start out positive but now some negative thoughts are starting to grow which is now becoming your new reality? Has it progressed to the point you might be effecting the reality of others that are close to you?
I think most of use are aware of how our view point will effect our daily activities and what I would like to share today is how our insecurities can impact others. My young adult son is in a good place in his life as he now has realized what he would like to do with his life. With this realization has come for him to leave a high paying job, for a young person, and go attend post secondary education.
As he is in this process of change, his insecurities of the unknown are starting to impact his thoughts. As the day approached to return from his work, he started to communicate that I did not want to see him make this change and be around him. That over the last 7 month of his working he thought I wanted him to keep on this track. As this mindset continued to grow stronger in him, they started to spill over into him putting on the burden to others around him by projecting his reality.
The impact of his statement of the thought that I didn't want him around caused me to feel a sense of hurt in me. I love my son and have always welcomed his presence and this is now the opposite of what his is communicating to me. As I was processing and feeling this experience I was struck again the importance of communication. Also the importance of how my interactions with others will effect them. It caused me to look deeper of my insecurities and how I might be projecting those realities onto others.
When I was younger, I realized now, I would have actions that were based on my insight and would drive realities that were not always positive. I would not think of how my reality and choices was impacting others. This is an unhealthy place for me to be but it took me years to learn this lesson.
With this recent interaction with my son I had a direct and kind conversation on his statement. I asked him first the why, why was he thinking negative thoughts? I had a good sense of where the why was coming from, however at this moment he needed supportive behavior from me. He did not need me to tell him what to do or need me to become harsh with my words.
As he explained to me his current mindset of thoughts it became clear his new path was bringing up these insecurities. As time went on they became projection gremlins that were then extended to me.
Life is about growth and your self-awareness is required for you to grow. Select your positive inner circle of influences and establish healthy boundaries. By doing this your self-awareness will grow to ensure your insecurities do not become your reality.
Wednesday 27 September 2017
The Second Book The 41st Chapter - See Your Gift
Aug 26/17
When life's transitions come to you, can you see the gift given to you at the time? Do you see the positive or view the change of journey in your life as negative?
When I was running away from my transition I went though a time when I was in a negative place. I pulled myself out of that place and once that happened I was able to reconnect with a friend. I wrote about this friend in my first book and was grateful of being able to work together achieving our goals.
A friendship had started and continues to grow and the value to our journey is also increasing. As I shared with him my current reality and the journey he was impressed that I was able to shift my focus and come back from a dark place. He is also excited for me that I have seen my gift and an now currently following my passion with this gift. He is a positive upbeat person and I have missed our bi-weekly check in's and conversations.
I asked myself why was I not connecting with him until today, I realized the reason is me. I realized that my negative energy that was around me wouldn't allow me to connect with him. Yet once I reset myself a connection immediately happened again and the experience was valuable with a natural flow of conversation. All with alignment of the goals we both have in helping each other to keep improving and achieving more.
I was reminded of the story of holding onto a rock in the ocean in my first book and slowly sinking to the ocean floor because of that rock. Once I let go of my negative rock, I popped back to the surface and he was still there where he needed to be.
I have realized 2 gifts at a higher level today. One is the value of true companionship and the other is seeing the gift I have been given in this moment. How sad it would be for me if I sailed through this moment in my life getting drawn deeper into the depths with my negative rock and not see the opportunity placed before me.
As you read these words, do you have a sense of unease? Do you know you are truly seeing all your gifts that are currently in front of you? I know in my case I have asked for everything I have received and the irony is a first I resented this gift.
I am so grateful I was given the gift of vision of my gift and I intend to keep working hard on making this gift an opportunity with the time given to me. I wasted some of this gift, which I can't get back, however that to is a lesson for me to truly embrace each moment. My gift has been given time and resources to do what I truly love and that is to create words with a goal to help others in their life's experiences.
When life's transitions come to you, can you see the gift given to you at the time? Do you see the positive or view the change of journey in your life as negative?
When I was running away from my transition I went though a time when I was in a negative place. I pulled myself out of that place and once that happened I was able to reconnect with a friend. I wrote about this friend in my first book and was grateful of being able to work together achieving our goals.
A friendship had started and continues to grow and the value to our journey is also increasing. As I shared with him my current reality and the journey he was impressed that I was able to shift my focus and come back from a dark place. He is also excited for me that I have seen my gift and an now currently following my passion with this gift. He is a positive upbeat person and I have missed our bi-weekly check in's and conversations.
I asked myself why was I not connecting with him until today, I realized the reason is me. I realized that my negative energy that was around me wouldn't allow me to connect with him. Yet once I reset myself a connection immediately happened again and the experience was valuable with a natural flow of conversation. All with alignment of the goals we both have in helping each other to keep improving and achieving more.
I was reminded of the story of holding onto a rock in the ocean in my first book and slowly sinking to the ocean floor because of that rock. Once I let go of my negative rock, I popped back to the surface and he was still there where he needed to be.
I have realized 2 gifts at a higher level today. One is the value of true companionship and the other is seeing the gift I have been given in this moment. How sad it would be for me if I sailed through this moment in my life getting drawn deeper into the depths with my negative rock and not see the opportunity placed before me.
As you read these words, do you have a sense of unease? Do you know you are truly seeing all your gifts that are currently in front of you? I know in my case I have asked for everything I have received and the irony is a first I resented this gift.
I am so grateful I was given the gift of vision of my gift and I intend to keep working hard on making this gift an opportunity with the time given to me. I wasted some of this gift, which I can't get back, however that to is a lesson for me to truly embrace each moment. My gift has been given time and resources to do what I truly love and that is to create words with a goal to help others in their life's experiences.
Tuesday 26 September 2017
The Second Book The 40th Chapter - Stop Your Running
Aug 25/17
Have you ever or do you find yourself in a state of running? Running away from the true person inside of you? Being someone that is trying to fit in and the more you do that, the more you run away from who you are.
The movie Forrest Gump comes to my mind where Forrest starts to run and run until finally he stopped. He turned around and faced his struggles from his past. I would like to share of how I finally stopped running. For me it has been a slow process that is taken me about 2 years and I suspect it will still continue. What I mean by that is I will still continue to do some running as this is a character flaw of mine. However now that I know that about myself, I will be able to stop the running quicker then before when moments of transitions begin. For years I kept running and only in the last few years I have realized I need to stop, turn around and go through my struggles.
For me I noticed I would stop running in the two years of growth but when faced with a change, I would turn and run as I was fearful of what the new transition of change would bring. In this journey of growth my desire to create and share with others was starting to provide results. Then all of a sudden my safety net of my day job was taken away and the run started anew for me once again.
It felt like this new path was right for me, yet I was uncomfortable and scared of where this path was going to take me. I realized now what I did was to start running emotionally and not deal with the change of transition. I did this by doing lots of traveling and over indulgence of conversations, food and drink. This was a valuable time with the time I spent with others, especially my family, however it came with a cost of my emotional health.
As time went on I noticed my once positive outlook was starting to change to one that was now more negative. Feelings of abandonment, resentment, frustration and a lower sense of self-worth started to set anchor in my thoughts. From these thoughts it then started to impact my desire to create and started to think about abandoning all my physical improvements I have made over the last 3 years.
Several times when morning came I chose to not get up and do my normal 2 mile run routine. I chose not to create and try to share as the anchors of negativity set themselves deeper in my being. I recognized the pattern that was starting to emerge, I saw of what I worked so hard for over a long time starting to disappear as I continued to run emotionally.
Then one day I went to a river, sat down on a rock and cried. In that moment I stopped running and turned around to face my fears. I faced all the pain that I had pushed down inside of me and felt remorse of the pain I have created in others, due to this behavior flaw in me. So from that moment I set out to restart my continued journey of growth and took out the anchors of negative thought.
I know I have a long journey and I will never fully arrive at a place where I have learned everything. However as I pause, I know it is much better now to be back on my positive mindset of exploring and growing.
Have you ever or do you find yourself in a state of running? Running away from the true person inside of you? Being someone that is trying to fit in and the more you do that, the more you run away from who you are.
The movie Forrest Gump comes to my mind where Forrest starts to run and run until finally he stopped. He turned around and faced his struggles from his past. I would like to share of how I finally stopped running. For me it has been a slow process that is taken me about 2 years and I suspect it will still continue. What I mean by that is I will still continue to do some running as this is a character flaw of mine. However now that I know that about myself, I will be able to stop the running quicker then before when moments of transitions begin. For years I kept running and only in the last few years I have realized I need to stop, turn around and go through my struggles.
For me I noticed I would stop running in the two years of growth but when faced with a change, I would turn and run as I was fearful of what the new transition of change would bring. In this journey of growth my desire to create and share with others was starting to provide results. Then all of a sudden my safety net of my day job was taken away and the run started anew for me once again.
It felt like this new path was right for me, yet I was uncomfortable and scared of where this path was going to take me. I realized now what I did was to start running emotionally and not deal with the change of transition. I did this by doing lots of traveling and over indulgence of conversations, food and drink. This was a valuable time with the time I spent with others, especially my family, however it came with a cost of my emotional health.
As time went on I noticed my once positive outlook was starting to change to one that was now more negative. Feelings of abandonment, resentment, frustration and a lower sense of self-worth started to set anchor in my thoughts. From these thoughts it then started to impact my desire to create and started to think about abandoning all my physical improvements I have made over the last 3 years.
Several times when morning came I chose to not get up and do my normal 2 mile run routine. I chose not to create and try to share as the anchors of negativity set themselves deeper in my being. I recognized the pattern that was starting to emerge, I saw of what I worked so hard for over a long time starting to disappear as I continued to run emotionally.
Then one day I went to a river, sat down on a rock and cried. In that moment I stopped running and turned around to face my fears. I faced all the pain that I had pushed down inside of me and felt remorse of the pain I have created in others, due to this behavior flaw in me. So from that moment I set out to restart my continued journey of growth and took out the anchors of negative thought.
I know I have a long journey and I will never fully arrive at a place where I have learned everything. However as I pause, I know it is much better now to be back on my positive mindset of exploring and growing.
Monday 25 September 2017
The Second Book The 39th Chapter - Follow Your Insights
Aug 24/17
Have you ever experienced some random thought totally appear out of the blue? Perhaps it is to remember to do a task or to reach out to a friend. It could be as simple as a hi or wanting to share of an experience that has reminded you of them. When you have these thoughts how often have you ignored that thought to reach out to them? Perhaps you worried they might be too busy or you are thinking sharing to them might not have value.
I would like to share a recent experience of how I ignored my thought to reach out to a friend but after a day of procrastination I did reach out. As I published my blog, Chapter 11, this person was in this chapter and as I wrote the words I felt I wanted to share with my friend that I wrote about them. However I ignored this thought and carried on with my day. I was worried they were too busy and my call would be a distraction to them. This morning when I woke up this thought came to my mind again, so this time I texted to say hi and communicated I wrote about them. Of course all good and positive in the writing this share was about them. Almost immediately I received a text back saying that is funny as I was just thinking of you and was going to text you when I was in the office this morning.
I have learned two life lessons based on my one thought with this experience. This is also another example of the multiplier effect in regards to positive events that happen with the follow through of my thoughts that are put to action. If I didn't follow through with the thought to reach out I wouldn't have received the gift of the multiplier effect.
The first lesson is the obvious one and that is for me to remember to follow the thoughts that come to me. The second lesson is so key, as it relates to selecting my inner circle of friends. The gratefulness I have of the honesty and sharing back freely these thoughts to my friend. Also my friend had the same thought as well. That mystic type positive feeling that was created by an honest sharing and neither one of us concerned of the feeling of vulnerability.
A positive example and experience of how real sharing has a positive effect to my surroundings. This has also taught me to keep following up and acting on my thoughts as this is in alignment to the path I need to take in my life. These small moments of positive affirmation are ones that start to move your needle up in your ability to enjoy your life.
Take the energy of these moments to provide for you to move yourself forward and to help others move forwards. Once you start helping others, that is when you can fully experience the multiplier effect of your internal greatness first hand. This is where you will be making a difference that truly matters to people you come in contact with.
Have you ever experienced some random thought totally appear out of the blue? Perhaps it is to remember to do a task or to reach out to a friend. It could be as simple as a hi or wanting to share of an experience that has reminded you of them. When you have these thoughts how often have you ignored that thought to reach out to them? Perhaps you worried they might be too busy or you are thinking sharing to them might not have value.
I would like to share a recent experience of how I ignored my thought to reach out to a friend but after a day of procrastination I did reach out. As I published my blog, Chapter 11, this person was in this chapter and as I wrote the words I felt I wanted to share with my friend that I wrote about them. However I ignored this thought and carried on with my day. I was worried they were too busy and my call would be a distraction to them. This morning when I woke up this thought came to my mind again, so this time I texted to say hi and communicated I wrote about them. Of course all good and positive in the writing this share was about them. Almost immediately I received a text back saying that is funny as I was just thinking of you and was going to text you when I was in the office this morning.
I have learned two life lessons based on my one thought with this experience. This is also another example of the multiplier effect in regards to positive events that happen with the follow through of my thoughts that are put to action. If I didn't follow through with the thought to reach out I wouldn't have received the gift of the multiplier effect.
The first lesson is the obvious one and that is for me to remember to follow the thoughts that come to me. The second lesson is so key, as it relates to selecting my inner circle of friends. The gratefulness I have of the honesty and sharing back freely these thoughts to my friend. Also my friend had the same thought as well. That mystic type positive feeling that was created by an honest sharing and neither one of us concerned of the feeling of vulnerability.
A positive example and experience of how real sharing has a positive effect to my surroundings. This has also taught me to keep following up and acting on my thoughts as this is in alignment to the path I need to take in my life. These small moments of positive affirmation are ones that start to move your needle up in your ability to enjoy your life.
Take the energy of these moments to provide for you to move yourself forward and to help others move forwards. Once you start helping others, that is when you can fully experience the multiplier effect of your internal greatness first hand. This is where you will be making a difference that truly matters to people you come in contact with.
Sunday 24 September 2017
The Second Book The 38th Chapter - Choose Your Opportunity
Aug 23/17
Have you ever been to a place in your life where you have been given an opportunity and with this opportunity there is a cross roads in your life? You know if you make that choice and with that opportunity it will open doors for you yet close others. How do you know what choice to make? How do you know you will be making the correct decision for you?
As I thought about these two questions I wanted to share a story of an experience. As I am currently in the longest non-traditional non-job role of my life, I received a call to go to work for a company. Although I am very grateful for this call this opportunity does not align up to my passion. As the person talked to me more, a feeling of anxiety started to be created in me. With this explanation of this experience I would suggest some of you would think and say to not follow this opportunity.
Yes I agree with you but for me when I am in the moment the path does not always seem clear. I think the combination of me wanting to help others and I struggle with the concept of saying no. With this struggle it causes me to make my path fuzzy on me seeing clearly what the next steps are for me.
I know this is a learning lesson for me and as I write I know my answer and what choices I have to make. The importance to follow ones own advice and not just give it freely to others comes to mind. The strength and power of your words and if you can follow your own words is key. The story of the lone nut dancing by themselves comes to mind and it is always better to do that than to follow a group that is not where you belong.
I have lived too long in living a life of not choosing the correct opportunity for me. Too many years have passed of me not listening to my internal voice. It is better to have taken your risk of passion vs. taking the safe road that leads to your meritocracy.
In organizations that are amazing it is solely based on the fact the people in that organization are able to live their passions. Goods and services that are offered for sale that are average will become extraordinary with the people working there in the environment that allows people to live their passion.
That same pattern happens in our major life choices and with safe choices you will live a life that is average as well. The choice is yours on whether you want an extraordinary life of one that is average. This is all driven by your choosing your opportunity that are presented to you.
If you have found it difficult to act on your passion of choice I encourage you to keep pushing forward. By initial failure of your passion it will increase your reward of your success of passion. Embrace your opportunity and go through the doors meant for you while not looking back at the ones that are closed.
Have you ever been to a place in your life where you have been given an opportunity and with this opportunity there is a cross roads in your life? You know if you make that choice and with that opportunity it will open doors for you yet close others. How do you know what choice to make? How do you know you will be making the correct decision for you?
As I thought about these two questions I wanted to share a story of an experience. As I am currently in the longest non-traditional non-job role of my life, I received a call to go to work for a company. Although I am very grateful for this call this opportunity does not align up to my passion. As the person talked to me more, a feeling of anxiety started to be created in me. With this explanation of this experience I would suggest some of you would think and say to not follow this opportunity.
Yes I agree with you but for me when I am in the moment the path does not always seem clear. I think the combination of me wanting to help others and I struggle with the concept of saying no. With this struggle it causes me to make my path fuzzy on me seeing clearly what the next steps are for me.
I know this is a learning lesson for me and as I write I know my answer and what choices I have to make. The importance to follow ones own advice and not just give it freely to others comes to mind. The strength and power of your words and if you can follow your own words is key. The story of the lone nut dancing by themselves comes to mind and it is always better to do that than to follow a group that is not where you belong.
I have lived too long in living a life of not choosing the correct opportunity for me. Too many years have passed of me not listening to my internal voice. It is better to have taken your risk of passion vs. taking the safe road that leads to your meritocracy.
In organizations that are amazing it is solely based on the fact the people in that organization are able to live their passions. Goods and services that are offered for sale that are average will become extraordinary with the people working there in the environment that allows people to live their passion.
That same pattern happens in our major life choices and with safe choices you will live a life that is average as well. The choice is yours on whether you want an extraordinary life of one that is average. This is all driven by your choosing your opportunity that are presented to you.
If you have found it difficult to act on your passion of choice I encourage you to keep pushing forward. By initial failure of your passion it will increase your reward of your success of passion. Embrace your opportunity and go through the doors meant for you while not looking back at the ones that are closed.
Saturday 23 September 2017
The Second Book The 37th Chapter - Watch For Your Example
Aug 22/17
Have you experienced doing something new in your life that is completely different than what you are normally used too? At first, this experience is exciting and new and does line up to your passion. However with time sometimes the reality of this passing of time sets in and what was once so exciting now feels uncomfortable and scary.
I am currently in the middle of this process and in fact I was almost going to give up on my quest and passion. I was struggling and still ask myself, if I am on the right path for me. I feel sometimes my confidence starts to suffer with the newness of this experience.
A few days ago an amazing example was shown to me by my son. He has a good job however the one aspect he does not like is that the work requires him to work outside in the winter time. For those of you that know of Canada's north, you will know it is extremely cold for long periods of time. For those of you that don't know of this cold, I would highly recommend you to leave it that way.
His example to me was, as winter approached he decided to not want to experience another winter working out in the cold. With that decision he decided he needed to return to post secondary education to align up with his goal of not working in the cold. He realized what he didn't want and in a moment put plans in place to change his reality.
Sounds so simple as I write about this, yet it is. It is us that makes this transitions difficult and we become our biggest hurdle to our success. As I was younger and making my way in this world, there was several times I wanted to make a change in my day to day work life however I didn't make any changes. I didn't follow what I wanted my path to be, I didn't follow my alignment. I continued to slowly plod along in the path of security with the cost of losing who I really was. I realized another cost was I was not making my own path and as I worked hard to be successful, I could never completely lead the pack in my past environment because I didn't know my path.
My thoughts and process of ways of doing things were not in alignment to the people I was working with. The feeling of never truly fitting in existed each day and I realize now that is because I wasn't following my path.
As I carve out my new path it feels good with the fact I know my next step and is sustainable. For those of you not sure of your next steps and if your can relate to these words. I encourage you to make your move forward and to first start looking for your example of how to learn this process in your life. Chances are they will appear in a form or by a person you least expect that lesson to come from.
Capture that gift of example and from that starting point be grateful for the awareness provided. Armed with your new example find your path and enjoy the feeling of knowing your on your path.
Have you experienced doing something new in your life that is completely different than what you are normally used too? At first, this experience is exciting and new and does line up to your passion. However with time sometimes the reality of this passing of time sets in and what was once so exciting now feels uncomfortable and scary.
I am currently in the middle of this process and in fact I was almost going to give up on my quest and passion. I was struggling and still ask myself, if I am on the right path for me. I feel sometimes my confidence starts to suffer with the newness of this experience.
A few days ago an amazing example was shown to me by my son. He has a good job however the one aspect he does not like is that the work requires him to work outside in the winter time. For those of you that know of Canada's north, you will know it is extremely cold for long periods of time. For those of you that don't know of this cold, I would highly recommend you to leave it that way.
His example to me was, as winter approached he decided to not want to experience another winter working out in the cold. With that decision he decided he needed to return to post secondary education to align up with his goal of not working in the cold. He realized what he didn't want and in a moment put plans in place to change his reality.
Sounds so simple as I write about this, yet it is. It is us that makes this transitions difficult and we become our biggest hurdle to our success. As I was younger and making my way in this world, there was several times I wanted to make a change in my day to day work life however I didn't make any changes. I didn't follow what I wanted my path to be, I didn't follow my alignment. I continued to slowly plod along in the path of security with the cost of losing who I really was. I realized another cost was I was not making my own path and as I worked hard to be successful, I could never completely lead the pack in my past environment because I didn't know my path.
My thoughts and process of ways of doing things were not in alignment to the people I was working with. The feeling of never truly fitting in existed each day and I realize now that is because I wasn't following my path.
As I carve out my new path it feels good with the fact I know my next step and is sustainable. For those of you not sure of your next steps and if your can relate to these words. I encourage you to make your move forward and to first start looking for your example of how to learn this process in your life. Chances are they will appear in a form or by a person you least expect that lesson to come from.
Capture that gift of example and from that starting point be grateful for the awareness provided. Armed with your new example find your path and enjoy the feeling of knowing your on your path.
Wednesday 20 September 2017
The Second Book The 36th Chapter - Value of Relationships
Aug 22/17
As time moves on, like a great force that it is, I am thinking about the value of a positive relationship. Whether that maybe a personal one or one that is in our work life. I truly have been blessed all my life with the ease of how relationships seem to happen as well as a job that has provided me the security to grow.
Now as the summer is coming to a close, I was able to experience what it was like to have an entire summer off from an official leadership position. I have realized with my past experiences and with the ease at how things happened this has not created an awareness that reflected of how lucky I was in that moment. I was always looking to far into the future while ignoring the moments as they were unfolding in front of me.
I realize that experience has made me who I am today and I am grateful for that however I know now I can do better. Without this pause I would have not been able to level up in the the way I have been able too now. I have always had a high level of work ethic but this period has enabled me to add another level of clarity that did not exist in me before. That is when I truly value this pause with something that is given to me and the importance of this time I fully recognize.
In my past I would lose some of my value driven by my insecurities. I have realized this new level of awareness is another key component of my growth. Success and awareness of your situation have to be in balance and if they are not success will not come to you. This awareness is the key to your success, by being aware you can unlock and see the areas you need to focus on. Awareness is you light to show you your path towards your success. This pattern will replicate in all of your personal relationships as well of how you make your living.
If your not feeling you are not achieving the success you should, then start searching for your awareness. If your getting your awareness and you seem to be repeating some cycles of negative experiences. It is at this time the universe will step in to nudge your awareness meter. Take these darkest moments in your life and use your light of awareness. As during these darkest moments your light will reach the furthest.
For me, I needed to fully understand what value means in all forms of relationships and now I know why things have happened as they did. I am grateful that I can use my light of awareness to move to my next learning and growing experience.
As time moves on, like a great force that it is, I am thinking about the value of a positive relationship. Whether that maybe a personal one or one that is in our work life. I truly have been blessed all my life with the ease of how relationships seem to happen as well as a job that has provided me the security to grow.
Now as the summer is coming to a close, I was able to experience what it was like to have an entire summer off from an official leadership position. I have realized with my past experiences and with the ease at how things happened this has not created an awareness that reflected of how lucky I was in that moment. I was always looking to far into the future while ignoring the moments as they were unfolding in front of me.
I realize that experience has made me who I am today and I am grateful for that however I know now I can do better. Without this pause I would have not been able to level up in the the way I have been able too now. I have always had a high level of work ethic but this period has enabled me to add another level of clarity that did not exist in me before. That is when I truly value this pause with something that is given to me and the importance of this time I fully recognize.
In my past I would lose some of my value driven by my insecurities. I have realized this new level of awareness is another key component of my growth. Success and awareness of your situation have to be in balance and if they are not success will not come to you. This awareness is the key to your success, by being aware you can unlock and see the areas you need to focus on. Awareness is you light to show you your path towards your success. This pattern will replicate in all of your personal relationships as well of how you make your living.
If your not feeling you are not achieving the success you should, then start searching for your awareness. If your getting your awareness and you seem to be repeating some cycles of negative experiences. It is at this time the universe will step in to nudge your awareness meter. Take these darkest moments in your life and use your light of awareness. As during these darkest moments your light will reach the furthest.
For me, I needed to fully understand what value means in all forms of relationships and now I know why things have happened as they did. I am grateful that I can use my light of awareness to move to my next learning and growing experience.
Tuesday 19 September 2017
The Second Book The 35th Chapter - Personal Boundaries
Aug 20/17
Have you thought of yourself as someone that values getting along with others and maybe sometimes you feel you are a people pleaser? When you have that make up in your personality, one area that that you probably struggle with is maintaining or even starting to have personal boundaries. You might find creating healthy boundaries difficult in regards to how others interact with you.
I know setting healthy boundaries for me is something I have always struggled with and in fact that is a personality trait that I still struggle with. As I have gotten older there has been wins in the this personal development of growth area but it is something I still have to work at. One of the toughest areas or emotions on setting personal boundaries for me is the guilt of when I say no to someone. Also once I say no, I struggle to maintain that sense of no, as a sensitive person, I can feel that disappointment to varying degrees from others.
For me then guilt starts to build with that no and the need to say yes starts to grow to make the other person happy. Recently I had an experience that has helped me build strength in being able to say no and how that no has led to a higher level of my self-confidence.
A person that entered my life for a short time was reaching out to try to maintain a connection even though I felt ultimately we were wasting each others time. After the third time I felt I recognized a pattern that was emerging of the transfer of my energy to that person. In the past there was times I had uncomfortable feelings in this scenario to my boundaries but I wasn't sure I was able to identify where these feelings were coming from.
The learning lesson for me is that I was able to identify where this negative energy drain was coming from and going. From that realization I was able to set up a healthy personal boundary that was sustainable. I used to always question myself if I was making a decision that was correct based on others views. Now with the passing of time I have learned my decisions on personal boundaries have to be right for only me. Perhaps with time this recent decision might have been in error however the take away now is to realize that I do have a voice and it does matter.
The feeling of getting taken advantage of has disappeared with the feeling of confidence growing. I know I will make mistakes in the future however to be even able to have the confidence in my personal boundaries and stick to them is a win for me. With this confidence comes the greater ability for me to disconnect from the need for the other person has to hear a yes from me.
Even though currently I find myself in a situation in my personal and work life that leaves me uncomfortable. I know I have just been given another small piece of the gift of growth of life's experience.
Have you thought of yourself as someone that values getting along with others and maybe sometimes you feel you are a people pleaser? When you have that make up in your personality, one area that that you probably struggle with is maintaining or even starting to have personal boundaries. You might find creating healthy boundaries difficult in regards to how others interact with you.
I know setting healthy boundaries for me is something I have always struggled with and in fact that is a personality trait that I still struggle with. As I have gotten older there has been wins in the this personal development of growth area but it is something I still have to work at. One of the toughest areas or emotions on setting personal boundaries for me is the guilt of when I say no to someone. Also once I say no, I struggle to maintain that sense of no, as a sensitive person, I can feel that disappointment to varying degrees from others.
For me then guilt starts to build with that no and the need to say yes starts to grow to make the other person happy. Recently I had an experience that has helped me build strength in being able to say no and how that no has led to a higher level of my self-confidence.
A person that entered my life for a short time was reaching out to try to maintain a connection even though I felt ultimately we were wasting each others time. After the third time I felt I recognized a pattern that was emerging of the transfer of my energy to that person. In the past there was times I had uncomfortable feelings in this scenario to my boundaries but I wasn't sure I was able to identify where these feelings were coming from.
The learning lesson for me is that I was able to identify where this negative energy drain was coming from and going. From that realization I was able to set up a healthy personal boundary that was sustainable. I used to always question myself if I was making a decision that was correct based on others views. Now with the passing of time I have learned my decisions on personal boundaries have to be right for only me. Perhaps with time this recent decision might have been in error however the take away now is to realize that I do have a voice and it does matter.
The feeling of getting taken advantage of has disappeared with the feeling of confidence growing. I know I will make mistakes in the future however to be even able to have the confidence in my personal boundaries and stick to them is a win for me. With this confidence comes the greater ability for me to disconnect from the need for the other person has to hear a yes from me.
Even though currently I find myself in a situation in my personal and work life that leaves me uncomfortable. I know I have just been given another small piece of the gift of growth of life's experience.
Monday 18 September 2017
The Second Book The 34th Chapter - Say Thank You
Aug 19/17
Like a lot of people right now I a concerned with the increasing division of the people that live in Canada and the United States. We are privileged to live in an area of the world that provides us with such abundance that others would love to experience in their day to day lives. Yet with time, we seem to be going further away from community collaboration and pitting ourselves against each other. This has caused me to pause and ask why and wonder where we are heading over the next 20 years.
I asked myself are we creating value to this planet or are we consuming like a giant parasite? As I looked deeper to why this division seems to be growing, I wondered when the last time you and I said a thank you to someone that is hurting? The behavior to lash out and dominate others with hard view points usually stems from a deep seated hurt in themselves.
We are all born into this world with love and innocence and we need support from others to maintain this mindset. Over time as these two wonderful traits disappear they are replaced with bitterness and emptiness. When you have met a person that has lost their key foundation of innocence, what is your response? Usually my pattern will be to avoid that person but then I thought about how much power would be to say a simple thank you and recognizing something positive in that person. What would the impact be in that person? What would the impact be if we all united with kindness and compassion?
The great leader of India, Gandhi, came to mind and how he lead long term change. How acceptance and compassion can led to incredible change to millions of people. I would like to share a small story of how a thank you has impacted me. As my first book is now published I have struggled in the actual value it is providing to others. In my darkest moments of struggle, out of nowhere a email will come in and say thank you for the words that I have put together. The message will say the words have made a positive difference to them. So quickly the impact of these positive words have on my confidence and changes my outlook to one that is positive vs. one of emptiness of my work. Which leads me to wonder, how would positive recognizing of value add contributions make a difference to our community?
Perhaps momentum of the masses would not start going down the path of bitterness and emptiness by having positive interactions with individuals that are creating positive value. Let's all make an effort to make a positive difference to someone with each interaction and each day.
Like a lot of people right now I a concerned with the increasing division of the people that live in Canada and the United States. We are privileged to live in an area of the world that provides us with such abundance that others would love to experience in their day to day lives. Yet with time, we seem to be going further away from community collaboration and pitting ourselves against each other. This has caused me to pause and ask why and wonder where we are heading over the next 20 years.
I asked myself are we creating value to this planet or are we consuming like a giant parasite? As I looked deeper to why this division seems to be growing, I wondered when the last time you and I said a thank you to someone that is hurting? The behavior to lash out and dominate others with hard view points usually stems from a deep seated hurt in themselves.
We are all born into this world with love and innocence and we need support from others to maintain this mindset. Over time as these two wonderful traits disappear they are replaced with bitterness and emptiness. When you have met a person that has lost their key foundation of innocence, what is your response? Usually my pattern will be to avoid that person but then I thought about how much power would be to say a simple thank you and recognizing something positive in that person. What would the impact be in that person? What would the impact be if we all united with kindness and compassion?
The great leader of India, Gandhi, came to mind and how he lead long term change. How acceptance and compassion can led to incredible change to millions of people. I would like to share a small story of how a thank you has impacted me. As my first book is now published I have struggled in the actual value it is providing to others. In my darkest moments of struggle, out of nowhere a email will come in and say thank you for the words that I have put together. The message will say the words have made a positive difference to them. So quickly the impact of these positive words have on my confidence and changes my outlook to one that is positive vs. one of emptiness of my work. Which leads me to wonder, how would positive recognizing of value add contributions make a difference to our community?
Perhaps momentum of the masses would not start going down the path of bitterness and emptiness by having positive interactions with individuals that are creating positive value. Let's all make an effort to make a positive difference to someone with each interaction and each day.
Sunday 17 September 2017
The Second Book The 33rd Chapter - A Pause
Aug 17/17
For years now I have had job tasks and kid raising activities and at this moment I have neither. I still spend time with my kids but now they are independent and once that process begins, as a parent I find a lot of spare time.
The speed at which I used to go was positive in the aspect of accomplishing tasks however with that speed came the realization I was not able to see everything that was occurring in the moment. Pattern replication once again comes to mind and how fast our speed is as we travel through our life. The faster we go with our thoughts the less we can actually see our surroundings. Compare this to taking a slow walk on a path, our eyes and minds have time to follow and process our environment. Yet if we take the same path while riding a peddle bike as fast as we can that same path will appear different to us. That difference is driven by the fact of an increased speed and a lowering the amount of effective process time.
While I have learned my intuition and gut feeling is an adequate way to base decisions on next steps in life, I have learned the need for balance. There is a need to do things quickly on occasion and you do need to rely on your intuition however by doing this all the time you will miss valuable life growing lessons.
In nature with animals their pace is always thought out and selected. Each movement is one that always conserves energy and taking in all of their environment. The only exception to this rule is when flight or fight concept applies, when life or death is a possibility. Then at the moment nature does operate on quick intuition of insights. I have operated at that high level of flight or fight for years now and it has lead me to lose relationships, effective connections with my kids and even had an impact on my results in my work environment.
I have had several conversations over the years for my quest to fully understand this chapter but fully did not understand it until now. With vast amount of time and no pressure I feel my stress needle sliding down and that has enabled me to understand the value of a pause. I am grateful the universe has provided me with this gift even though it has been painful at times. This pause has forced me to address issues with myself that I have ignored in the past.
With the passing of each day, I realize I am one day closer to where I need to be. I have been asking the universe to help me to stop making the same painful decisions of my past and right now the universe is granting me my wish.
For years now I have had job tasks and kid raising activities and at this moment I have neither. I still spend time with my kids but now they are independent and once that process begins, as a parent I find a lot of spare time.
The speed at which I used to go was positive in the aspect of accomplishing tasks however with that speed came the realization I was not able to see everything that was occurring in the moment. Pattern replication once again comes to mind and how fast our speed is as we travel through our life. The faster we go with our thoughts the less we can actually see our surroundings. Compare this to taking a slow walk on a path, our eyes and minds have time to follow and process our environment. Yet if we take the same path while riding a peddle bike as fast as we can that same path will appear different to us. That difference is driven by the fact of an increased speed and a lowering the amount of effective process time.
While I have learned my intuition and gut feeling is an adequate way to base decisions on next steps in life, I have learned the need for balance. There is a need to do things quickly on occasion and you do need to rely on your intuition however by doing this all the time you will miss valuable life growing lessons.
In nature with animals their pace is always thought out and selected. Each movement is one that always conserves energy and taking in all of their environment. The only exception to this rule is when flight or fight concept applies, when life or death is a possibility. Then at the moment nature does operate on quick intuition of insights. I have operated at that high level of flight or fight for years now and it has lead me to lose relationships, effective connections with my kids and even had an impact on my results in my work environment.
I have had several conversations over the years for my quest to fully understand this chapter but fully did not understand it until now. With vast amount of time and no pressure I feel my stress needle sliding down and that has enabled me to understand the value of a pause. I am grateful the universe has provided me with this gift even though it has been painful at times. This pause has forced me to address issues with myself that I have ignored in the past.
With the passing of each day, I realize I am one day closer to where I need to be. I have been asking the universe to help me to stop making the same painful decisions of my past and right now the universe is granting me my wish.
Saturday 16 September 2017
The Second Book The 32nd Chapter - Who are you
Aug 16/17
Do you know who you are and do others accept you for who you are? Or do you feel your misunderstood and judged by your past performances in either your work place or in your personal life?
I would like to share a snap shot of my 20 year working life up until now. During that 20 years I was surrounded and worked with mostly the same people. I worked very hard on my professional and personal development yet as hard as I worked on those goals the perception of how others viewed me seemed to remain the same. I felt I had grown and was increasing my value to the organization yet based on my intuition it felt like that the momentum of growth realization by others was not identified.
As I thought about this pattern and to why this was occurring I realized my responsibility was my lack of communication my boundaries and expectations. I didn't have the strength of confidence to verbalize how I was getting impacted in a negative way and when this would happen I would try to work harder. Yet with always the same result of this unsettling feeling and not truly being at a place where value could be fully utilized.
I realize I was creating a large part of this reality by this lack of communication on my part. The people around me had no idea of their impact as I didn't communicate that impact and yet for a while I held them accountable. Like wine that has been aged with time, I too feel I have learned a lesson on boundaries and how I can use them in a healthy way.
As I explore my new path I have had the opportunity to meet strangers and with an introduction I am able to share I am an author writing about healing and growth. All of these conversations with people they respond favorable and asked more questions. As I share more the conversations are ending in value being given to both of us. The results of experiences like these is growing my confidence and also how it ties back to knowing who I now am. During these conversations they have no idea of my past therefore no judgments are made of either my success or failures.
I realize this gift of time that I currently have was meant for me to level up and to keep growing. I realize if all of what has happened to me over the last years didn't happen I would not be experiencing the level of growth I am now. I would have lived a comfortable life but not really living life.
As I reflect on my mistakes, I can now see how I added to situations in a negative way. For those I have impacted in a negative way, I am sorry. I realize I did the best I could at the time and now I know how I can do better in the present and the future.
There are still moments of being uncomfortable yet now I understand what is causing these moments. It is exciting of what more I will discover about myself as my journey continues to knowing who I am.
Do you know who you are and do others accept you for who you are? Or do you feel your misunderstood and judged by your past performances in either your work place or in your personal life?
I would like to share a snap shot of my 20 year working life up until now. During that 20 years I was surrounded and worked with mostly the same people. I worked very hard on my professional and personal development yet as hard as I worked on those goals the perception of how others viewed me seemed to remain the same. I felt I had grown and was increasing my value to the organization yet based on my intuition it felt like that the momentum of growth realization by others was not identified.
As I thought about this pattern and to why this was occurring I realized my responsibility was my lack of communication my boundaries and expectations. I didn't have the strength of confidence to verbalize how I was getting impacted in a negative way and when this would happen I would try to work harder. Yet with always the same result of this unsettling feeling and not truly being at a place where value could be fully utilized.
I realize I was creating a large part of this reality by this lack of communication on my part. The people around me had no idea of their impact as I didn't communicate that impact and yet for a while I held them accountable. Like wine that has been aged with time, I too feel I have learned a lesson on boundaries and how I can use them in a healthy way.
As I explore my new path I have had the opportunity to meet strangers and with an introduction I am able to share I am an author writing about healing and growth. All of these conversations with people they respond favorable and asked more questions. As I share more the conversations are ending in value being given to both of us. The results of experiences like these is growing my confidence and also how it ties back to knowing who I now am. During these conversations they have no idea of my past therefore no judgments are made of either my success or failures.
I realize this gift of time that I currently have was meant for me to level up and to keep growing. I realize if all of what has happened to me over the last years didn't happen I would not be experiencing the level of growth I am now. I would have lived a comfortable life but not really living life.
As I reflect on my mistakes, I can now see how I added to situations in a negative way. For those I have impacted in a negative way, I am sorry. I realize I did the best I could at the time and now I know how I can do better in the present and the future.
There are still moments of being uncomfortable yet now I understand what is causing these moments. It is exciting of what more I will discover about myself as my journey continues to knowing who I am.
Friday 15 September 2017
The Second Book The 31st Chapter - The Power of Time
Aug 14/17
It is now exactly 2 months since my company I worked for and I parted ways. After 12 years of challenging management work, at first a sense of reflect was felt, as now I could rest for a while. I was free to explore and reset for my next chapter.
As time marches on so does the power of time. As I have not found a long term home the power of time is replacing the sense of relief to feelings of insecurity, fear of the future and doubt. The dreams and the ideas are always so easy yet I am experiencing now how difficult creating energy is in entirely new circumstances.
From my personal development training this has shown me where I am right now currently and it would be easy to run away. Gratefully my own previous writings about creating a positive reality for ones self are now having a positive effect on me. They are providing me hope, they are providing me energy to not quitting my marathon. I know life has put me exactly where I need to be right now as life is teaching me several lessons.
One is to truly appreciate what it feels like to not have a constant revenue stream coming in. Another is to truly appreciate the love and support of a life partner when going through periods of transition like these. It is hard to be alone on this journey and I know life is teaching me to become a better and more complete person.
Acceptance is key for me, once acceptance happened and I stopped running I can feel the slow start of momentum growing. This lesson is a true test of the trust in my strength to dig deeper to move forward into the unknown. Team building exercises come to mind where you build trust by doing physical exercises with each other. Where you fall backwards to your team members arms and they catch you. I feel that same sense however I know I am meant to catch myself as I fall backwards.
This journey has been very difficult for me and I have been experiencing life's normal cycles that we all have to face. I think life has shown me these experiences what I was younger, yet at the time I was not able to see them as a benefit to my learning and growth. It has taught me to pay more attention to the power of time and to be aware sooner what is going around in my place in this world.
The gifts of being humble, grateful, open and most importantly for me is being able to understand and apply my boundaries are all being defined to me. To have the strength to say no, where in the past I wouldn't say no and would work harder with the expense being a high cost to me. This cost also effects others close to me and I am not willing to repeat that pattern in my life.
In closing, are you learning from the power of time? How can you leverage your life's lessons to create value in you?
It is now exactly 2 months since my company I worked for and I parted ways. After 12 years of challenging management work, at first a sense of reflect was felt, as now I could rest for a while. I was free to explore and reset for my next chapter.
As time marches on so does the power of time. As I have not found a long term home the power of time is replacing the sense of relief to feelings of insecurity, fear of the future and doubt. The dreams and the ideas are always so easy yet I am experiencing now how difficult creating energy is in entirely new circumstances.
From my personal development training this has shown me where I am right now currently and it would be easy to run away. Gratefully my own previous writings about creating a positive reality for ones self are now having a positive effect on me. They are providing me hope, they are providing me energy to not quitting my marathon. I know life has put me exactly where I need to be right now as life is teaching me several lessons.
One is to truly appreciate what it feels like to not have a constant revenue stream coming in. Another is to truly appreciate the love and support of a life partner when going through periods of transition like these. It is hard to be alone on this journey and I know life is teaching me to become a better and more complete person.
Acceptance is key for me, once acceptance happened and I stopped running I can feel the slow start of momentum growing. This lesson is a true test of the trust in my strength to dig deeper to move forward into the unknown. Team building exercises come to mind where you build trust by doing physical exercises with each other. Where you fall backwards to your team members arms and they catch you. I feel that same sense however I know I am meant to catch myself as I fall backwards.
This journey has been very difficult for me and I have been experiencing life's normal cycles that we all have to face. I think life has shown me these experiences what I was younger, yet at the time I was not able to see them as a benefit to my learning and growth. It has taught me to pay more attention to the power of time and to be aware sooner what is going around in my place in this world.
The gifts of being humble, grateful, open and most importantly for me is being able to understand and apply my boundaries are all being defined to me. To have the strength to say no, where in the past I wouldn't say no and would work harder with the expense being a high cost to me. This cost also effects others close to me and I am not willing to repeat that pattern in my life.
In closing, are you learning from the power of time? How can you leverage your life's lessons to create value in you?
Thursday 14 September 2017
The Second Book The 30th Chapter - Your Transition
Aug 10/17
We commonly think of change as a negative or uncomfortable experience when it happens in our life. I am going to challenge you to think about change in a different way and of the end result of change it is good. It is the transition period to get to your new change is the root cause of your struggle.
All of you reading this has experienced some kind of transition, whether it's the loss of a loved one, a job or perhaps an intimate relationship. Once the process of transition begins this is where the energy required from us begins. This is where the pain of an experience is felt at full force. The cycle of the 5 stages of grief begin and they all belong to you once you start your cycle.
As you know at the start of this book I shared that I am an upper middle manager out of my normal traditional work. I was good at my position and based on feedback from my V.P I knew I was in alignment of what the organization considered value. That all changed with the acquisition and in a brief moment a decision was made and I was now in the moment of the start of my transition. With a stroke of a pen I went from adding value to a company asset to now a ledger liability.
At first I was relieved however as time passed I have realized the 5 stages of grief have applied to me. I have spent a while now in the depression stage and now just moving into the acceptance phase. I would like to share of how I was able to move into my acceptance.
That is support that was given to me from a great and incredible human being. As I have been doing this journey without a significant other, support from another human being was something I was lacking. Due to my previous training on personal and organizational development, I knew what was going on with me however I couldn't get out of the cycle of depression. I didn't have the strength to reach out to ask for that support.
I would almost break out of that cycle and then slide back. I was looking at myself and asking myself where was I going and who was I becoming. Then I realized the universe will give you whatever you need but the catch is you first have to identify what you need and second you need to ask for what you need.
So yes, transition was not fun and I still am not sure where my future will lead however a turning point has been made and now with a new acceptance. I am able now to put energy required from me to reach my new change instead of paralyzed in looking back to my past.
Picture your new change as a sense of accomplishment once you arrive which was provided by the uncomfortable transition period we all face in our life.
We commonly think of change as a negative or uncomfortable experience when it happens in our life. I am going to challenge you to think about change in a different way and of the end result of change it is good. It is the transition period to get to your new change is the root cause of your struggle.
All of you reading this has experienced some kind of transition, whether it's the loss of a loved one, a job or perhaps an intimate relationship. Once the process of transition begins this is where the energy required from us begins. This is where the pain of an experience is felt at full force. The cycle of the 5 stages of grief begin and they all belong to you once you start your cycle.
As you know at the start of this book I shared that I am an upper middle manager out of my normal traditional work. I was good at my position and based on feedback from my V.P I knew I was in alignment of what the organization considered value. That all changed with the acquisition and in a brief moment a decision was made and I was now in the moment of the start of my transition. With a stroke of a pen I went from adding value to a company asset to now a ledger liability.
At first I was relieved however as time passed I have realized the 5 stages of grief have applied to me. I have spent a while now in the depression stage and now just moving into the acceptance phase. I would like to share of how I was able to move into my acceptance.
That is support that was given to me from a great and incredible human being. As I have been doing this journey without a significant other, support from another human being was something I was lacking. Due to my previous training on personal and organizational development, I knew what was going on with me however I couldn't get out of the cycle of depression. I didn't have the strength to reach out to ask for that support.
I would almost break out of that cycle and then slide back. I was looking at myself and asking myself where was I going and who was I becoming. Then I realized the universe will give you whatever you need but the catch is you first have to identify what you need and second you need to ask for what you need.
So yes, transition was not fun and I still am not sure where my future will lead however a turning point has been made and now with a new acceptance. I am able now to put energy required from me to reach my new change instead of paralyzed in looking back to my past.
Picture your new change as a sense of accomplishment once you arrive which was provided by the uncomfortable transition period we all face in our life.
Wednesday 13 September 2017
The Second Book The 29th Chapter - Conquer Your Maze
Aug 7/17
You have all seen or experienced in real life a maze. Where someone has going out and started a new journey, that can be compared to a maze, with some kind of large plans. In this maze there are times where they are close to finding the correct way of the maze however there is only one correct way to successfully exit.
As you proceed through your maze of life you will have clues of what you think are you next steps. As you proceed through your life you will make more correct decisions than wrong ones in regards to moving yourself forward. Yet you will experience the dead ends of your maze and when that happens the only thing you are able to do is retrace your steps and learn from your incorrect turn.
One of the most important lessons is to follow your maze, when faced with moment of uncertainly follow your path. Sometimes that path will lead you to your dead end and that is ok, you went with the information you had at the time you thought was correct. Even with the dead ends you will find your travels will provide you with an valuable experience.
Recently as I have traveled down my maze I was drawn to the need to move away to a warm location and start a life of me being able to make a living at a relaxed pace. Even though the pull was strong and I felt I was on my correct path for me, I traveled to my warm vacation with my son in search of this next path for me. I started out this journey with hope and wonder if maybe this is where I would land after years in the corporate world. Even though I met folks at this island that have left the corporate world and now this is their place of residence. I rapidly realized my time is not now for moving away, hence I have hit a dead end in my maze.
Now as I return home and retrace my steps it is with a sense of gratitude as I did follow my clue to what I thought was my path. Not in the slightest am I disappointed as the time with my son and exploring the area there can be no value put on this experience. Even though I hit a dead end, I have actually gained confidence on the fact that my son and I followed a path that has create value for me.
I also truly hope this experience has create value in my son as he navigates his life path, destination and his maze. If your feeling a need to move on a quest, follow it, now matter what it is, as if you don't you will be burdened with the feeling of regret. If you allow it, choices like these will cause you to stop living life and a tragedy it would be if you get to the end of your life filled with regrets. The time is now to conquer you maze and explore life to your fullest.
You have all seen or experienced in real life a maze. Where someone has going out and started a new journey, that can be compared to a maze, with some kind of large plans. In this maze there are times where they are close to finding the correct way of the maze however there is only one correct way to successfully exit.
As you proceed through your maze of life you will have clues of what you think are you next steps. As you proceed through your life you will make more correct decisions than wrong ones in regards to moving yourself forward. Yet you will experience the dead ends of your maze and when that happens the only thing you are able to do is retrace your steps and learn from your incorrect turn.
One of the most important lessons is to follow your maze, when faced with moment of uncertainly follow your path. Sometimes that path will lead you to your dead end and that is ok, you went with the information you had at the time you thought was correct. Even with the dead ends you will find your travels will provide you with an valuable experience.
Recently as I have traveled down my maze I was drawn to the need to move away to a warm location and start a life of me being able to make a living at a relaxed pace. Even though the pull was strong and I felt I was on my correct path for me, I traveled to my warm vacation with my son in search of this next path for me. I started out this journey with hope and wonder if maybe this is where I would land after years in the corporate world. Even though I met folks at this island that have left the corporate world and now this is their place of residence. I rapidly realized my time is not now for moving away, hence I have hit a dead end in my maze.
Now as I return home and retrace my steps it is with a sense of gratitude as I did follow my clue to what I thought was my path. Not in the slightest am I disappointed as the time with my son and exploring the area there can be no value put on this experience. Even though I hit a dead end, I have actually gained confidence on the fact that my son and I followed a path that has create value for me.
I also truly hope this experience has create value in my son as he navigates his life path, destination and his maze. If your feeling a need to move on a quest, follow it, now matter what it is, as if you don't you will be burdened with the feeling of regret. If you allow it, choices like these will cause you to stop living life and a tragedy it would be if you get to the end of your life filled with regrets. The time is now to conquer you maze and explore life to your fullest.
Tuesday 12 September 2017
The Second Book The 28th Chapter - Appreciate Your Life
Aug 7/17
We all go through moments in our life when you feel you are nailing it or the feeling of being depressed. When we are in these lower moments sometimes we are not seeing the positive that we actually have.
As you know of the start of this book I communicated I have been on a new professional journey after years of hard work and dedication. I am looking for a new home as such a few factors come into play that caused me to lose my alignment of positive energy. I was struggling to find the positive in my day to day life and was not understanding the point of the years of hard work. Struggling to understand how to go forward when I lost a group of friends that were co-workers.
As time has passed, there is not the ability to rewind the moment however a Facebook post changed my perception of reality with a simple statement. As I was starting a trip with my son to San Pedro that post stated I wish I could have your life and I am so jealous. At the time that caused me to pause as I was in a negative mindset. Due to the underlining cause of me not feeling a sense of value yet someone looking on thought I had an amazing life.
It took a week for this thought to grow in me and it hasn't left. The thought is even in my moments of darkness there were others that thought my life was admirable. Why is that? What has just occurred? There it is and that is my perception and mind set which creates my foundation of reality. When it was at a low level there were others thinking that they would like to have my life.
Thank you for that comment as that comment slowly started to change my mindset. I went from a sense of emptiness to a sense that I know what I need to do when I return home. I need to refocus to my alignment and what captures my passion. No matter what that passion is in you, you have the strength to follow that passion.
That passion is the gift we have been given to make our difference. Do not let the negative details slow down your passion but use your passion to go into an area you have not experienced before. True growth in nature always goes back to organic growth and in that organic growth there is no force that can stop that growth.
You will struggle in life like I have with next steps and confidence yet please gather your strength to move yourself forward. If you don't no one else will and appreciate your gifts of life.
We all go through moments in our life when you feel you are nailing it or the feeling of being depressed. When we are in these lower moments sometimes we are not seeing the positive that we actually have.
As you know of the start of this book I communicated I have been on a new professional journey after years of hard work and dedication. I am looking for a new home as such a few factors come into play that caused me to lose my alignment of positive energy. I was struggling to find the positive in my day to day life and was not understanding the point of the years of hard work. Struggling to understand how to go forward when I lost a group of friends that were co-workers.
As time has passed, there is not the ability to rewind the moment however a Facebook post changed my perception of reality with a simple statement. As I was starting a trip with my son to San Pedro that post stated I wish I could have your life and I am so jealous. At the time that caused me to pause as I was in a negative mindset. Due to the underlining cause of me not feeling a sense of value yet someone looking on thought I had an amazing life.
It took a week for this thought to grow in me and it hasn't left. The thought is even in my moments of darkness there were others that thought my life was admirable. Why is that? What has just occurred? There it is and that is my perception and mind set which creates my foundation of reality. When it was at a low level there were others thinking that they would like to have my life.
Thank you for that comment as that comment slowly started to change my mindset. I went from a sense of emptiness to a sense that I know what I need to do when I return home. I need to refocus to my alignment and what captures my passion. No matter what that passion is in you, you have the strength to follow that passion.
That passion is the gift we have been given to make our difference. Do not let the negative details slow down your passion but use your passion to go into an area you have not experienced before. True growth in nature always goes back to organic growth and in that organic growth there is no force that can stop that growth.
You will struggle in life like I have with next steps and confidence yet please gather your strength to move yourself forward. If you don't no one else will and appreciate your gifts of life.
Monday 11 September 2017
The Second Book The 27th Chapter - Hard Go
July 18/17
Do you ever ask yourself when is the right time to press forward? When is the moment for you to make your difference? Being in the valley of hesitation will slow your growth and given enough time will stop your growth.
In history there usually is a key moment when a decision was made to have a high return on the investment. A moment of a hard go, when you reach that moment of a hard go, there is no stopping you. This pattern in nature is all around and when that moment a hard go is started all energy is invested to change the current reality.
Just as important is your work up to your hard go moment. Ask yourself what your thoughts and actions currently are and do they line up to your hard go moment. As all this alignment is critical for you to reach your maximum success with this movement.
One moment in history I find very moving is the first manned moon mission. This pattern of ensuring, for years, of alignment of goal was paramount from that one last launch to the pre-work of that first moment of planning. All the sacrifices and resources invested lead to that moment when Neil Armstrong was able to step on the moon. Just as important as to invest all in the moment to press forward, the process to realize your goal is also of great importance. It is vital that your safety systems be put in place, should something go not as planned before you enter into the point of no return.
The balance is required in you for your success and once you have your alignment of your cause, established your safety systems your motivation will signal you to start your hard go. Also be aware that your attempt to level up might not be successful so also think about your options. If you are not successful, when this happens do not think of this moment of a failure but as a moment to evolve and improve your strategy.
After each success or mishap in the moon project there was always a debrief session. Also keep this thought in your process after your hard go moments have occurred as a strategy for continuous improvement. Ask yourself things like, What did you execute well on? What do you need to improve? In your debrief session write down how you are going to make your adjustments.
It is important to physiologically get ready for whatever outcome you experience, whether it be positive or negative. Be aware that once your great accomplishments are complete your energy high will fade. Like the moon project in 1969 the excitement the world felt was one of wonder and a sense of man kinds accomplishment. Fast forward to now and that energy of that moment is lost but to a few people.
Utilize that energy momentum when you are successful on your hard go's. Once it fades, do not morn its lose but use that energy to start building your next moment of a hard go.
Do you ever ask yourself when is the right time to press forward? When is the moment for you to make your difference? Being in the valley of hesitation will slow your growth and given enough time will stop your growth.
In history there usually is a key moment when a decision was made to have a high return on the investment. A moment of a hard go, when you reach that moment of a hard go, there is no stopping you. This pattern in nature is all around and when that moment a hard go is started all energy is invested to change the current reality.
Just as important is your work up to your hard go moment. Ask yourself what your thoughts and actions currently are and do they line up to your hard go moment. As all this alignment is critical for you to reach your maximum success with this movement.
One moment in history I find very moving is the first manned moon mission. This pattern of ensuring, for years, of alignment of goal was paramount from that one last launch to the pre-work of that first moment of planning. All the sacrifices and resources invested lead to that moment when Neil Armstrong was able to step on the moon. Just as important as to invest all in the moment to press forward, the process to realize your goal is also of great importance. It is vital that your safety systems be put in place, should something go not as planned before you enter into the point of no return.
The balance is required in you for your success and once you have your alignment of your cause, established your safety systems your motivation will signal you to start your hard go. Also be aware that your attempt to level up might not be successful so also think about your options. If you are not successful, when this happens do not think of this moment of a failure but as a moment to evolve and improve your strategy.
After each success or mishap in the moon project there was always a debrief session. Also keep this thought in your process after your hard go moments have occurred as a strategy for continuous improvement. Ask yourself things like, What did you execute well on? What do you need to improve? In your debrief session write down how you are going to make your adjustments.
It is important to physiologically get ready for whatever outcome you experience, whether it be positive or negative. Be aware that once your great accomplishments are complete your energy high will fade. Like the moon project in 1969 the excitement the world felt was one of wonder and a sense of man kinds accomplishment. Fast forward to now and that energy of that moment is lost but to a few people.
Utilize that energy momentum when you are successful on your hard go's. Once it fades, do not morn its lose but use that energy to start building your next moment of a hard go.
Saturday 9 September 2017
The Second Book The 26th Chapter - Your Travels
July 16/17
In your day to day travels or perhaps a holiday get away, what are you noticing on your travels? During most of your observations are you noticing beauty and kindness?
I am currently on a incredible journey of the west coast of Canada and the United States. Several thousand miles have been covered by plane, car, boat and by foot. At every turn with some new discovery I have also noticed incredible beauty. I have experienced the new energy from cities I have never been to before.
Even the odd gum wall by the Pike Market in Seattle had a strange beauty and wonder in it. In a small way thousands of people have made a statement and expressed a hope in doing the act of sticking their gum to the wall. Now as I sit in a chair beside the ocean in BC, I am aware of the need for exploring has surfaced. I listen to the waves crash onto the beach and this is increasing the desire for me to explore.
As you travel pay attention to the experience you are receiving. For these experiences will direct you to the start of your next step. It does not need to be of any significant locations then others however when you follow your passion it will become significant to you.
When you start to feel this feeling of growth you will know this is a sign for you. This realization will start shining on your to provide the energy for you to complete the steps you have just started. You too will experience beauty in places that others will not be able to see. Once you start to see this ensure you start to give back in the format of gratitude.
This form of gratitude is a way of planting more seeds for a later harvest, which will be growing your radius of your travels and experience. This will all you to become more aware of beauty that you have not seen before.
So ask yourself what do you need to improve in your life. Start to explore when and how you can start your new travel. You will start to see growth and life in every turn and you will receive this when you least expect it.
Remember back when you were a young child when you experienced things for the first time. To recapture those feelings is important to reengage your natural gift of travel, which leads to exploration of your discovery. All of this relates back to take advantage of your freedom.
Your freedom combined with your natural ability to do will lead you to accomplish what you truly want in your life. Freedom is required to travel and by your travels you will start to experience more freedom. From your ocean view of significance enjoy the beauty that has been created for you. You will start to find a sense of balance and being with natures energy. This is when you will experience moments that will remain with you.
In your day to day travels or perhaps a holiday get away, what are you noticing on your travels? During most of your observations are you noticing beauty and kindness?
I am currently on a incredible journey of the west coast of Canada and the United States. Several thousand miles have been covered by plane, car, boat and by foot. At every turn with some new discovery I have also noticed incredible beauty. I have experienced the new energy from cities I have never been to before.
Even the odd gum wall by the Pike Market in Seattle had a strange beauty and wonder in it. In a small way thousands of people have made a statement and expressed a hope in doing the act of sticking their gum to the wall. Now as I sit in a chair beside the ocean in BC, I am aware of the need for exploring has surfaced. I listen to the waves crash onto the beach and this is increasing the desire for me to explore.
As you travel pay attention to the experience you are receiving. For these experiences will direct you to the start of your next step. It does not need to be of any significant locations then others however when you follow your passion it will become significant to you.
When you start to feel this feeling of growth you will know this is a sign for you. This realization will start shining on your to provide the energy for you to complete the steps you have just started. You too will experience beauty in places that others will not be able to see. Once you start to see this ensure you start to give back in the format of gratitude.
This form of gratitude is a way of planting more seeds for a later harvest, which will be growing your radius of your travels and experience. This will all you to become more aware of beauty that you have not seen before.
So ask yourself what do you need to improve in your life. Start to explore when and how you can start your new travel. You will start to see growth and life in every turn and you will receive this when you least expect it.
Remember back when you were a young child when you experienced things for the first time. To recapture those feelings is important to reengage your natural gift of travel, which leads to exploration of your discovery. All of this relates back to take advantage of your freedom.
Your freedom combined with your natural ability to do will lead you to accomplish what you truly want in your life. Freedom is required to travel and by your travels you will start to experience more freedom. From your ocean view of significance enjoy the beauty that has been created for you. You will start to find a sense of balance and being with natures energy. This is when you will experience moments that will remain with you.
Thursday 7 September 2017
The Second Book The 25th Chapter - Stage Realization
July 15/17
I was recently able to experience a live theater event where the overall theme was about a family and realization of growth. There was a reoccurring theme of when the children were young and growing a sense of joy and exploring with amazement as a foundation. Then as time progressed some issues came up and caused areas of friction in which caused a life that was not so magical for all.
After that stage was complete there was a realization that friction stage was not as significant as thought in their moment. This is were emotions of regret would now surface and the time spent on regret was not adding value as there was not the option to change the past.
This pattern reoccurs in all we do the only difference is the amount of time during the beginning to the end of the cycle for us. The second stage is critical to realize when you are at and ensure you are making decisions that can enable you to lower the friction as much as possible. The concept of the theory of reality is applied while your going through this stage. Acknowledge your friction and don't let it have an long term effect on your growth and others around you.
Do a self assignment at these times and determine what changes are required on our part. Don't discount your feeling of realization yet ensure your maintain your balance to get through this stage as quick as possible.
By teaching yourself to get through these stages quickly this will allow you to pass your competition. The competition can be in the form of your negative thoughts or your direct competitors in your work life. At the end of the day if you move quick through this stage you will cross your finish line first.
The other important objective will be lowing the negative impact on others around you. As you look back at some of your challenges and how you have impacted others. Did you create an experience that allowed your friends to help you climb your mountain? Or did you push others away during your stage realization of misunderstanding? Either result will grow your momentum of your choices.
Learn to recognize where your at in your stage cycle and learn from your mistakes. One experience at a time, learn how to integrate your life's lesson and seek what gift life is teaching you during that experience. Realize that your family is a powerful influence on you and that influence is directly given back to them from you.
I was recently able to experience a live theater event where the overall theme was about a family and realization of growth. There was a reoccurring theme of when the children were young and growing a sense of joy and exploring with amazement as a foundation. Then as time progressed some issues came up and caused areas of friction in which caused a life that was not so magical for all.
After that stage was complete there was a realization that friction stage was not as significant as thought in their moment. This is were emotions of regret would now surface and the time spent on regret was not adding value as there was not the option to change the past.
This pattern reoccurs in all we do the only difference is the amount of time during the beginning to the end of the cycle for us. The second stage is critical to realize when you are at and ensure you are making decisions that can enable you to lower the friction as much as possible. The concept of the theory of reality is applied while your going through this stage. Acknowledge your friction and don't let it have an long term effect on your growth and others around you.
Do a self assignment at these times and determine what changes are required on our part. Don't discount your feeling of realization yet ensure your maintain your balance to get through this stage as quick as possible.
By teaching yourself to get through these stages quickly this will allow you to pass your competition. The competition can be in the form of your negative thoughts or your direct competitors in your work life. At the end of the day if you move quick through this stage you will cross your finish line first.
The other important objective will be lowing the negative impact on others around you. As you look back at some of your challenges and how you have impacted others. Did you create an experience that allowed your friends to help you climb your mountain? Or did you push others away during your stage realization of misunderstanding? Either result will grow your momentum of your choices.
Learn to recognize where your at in your stage cycle and learn from your mistakes. One experience at a time, learn how to integrate your life's lesson and seek what gift life is teaching you during that experience. Realize that your family is a powerful influence on you and that influence is directly given back to them from you.
Wednesday 6 September 2017
The Second Book The 24th Chapter - Grow Your Emontions
July 13/17
When is the last time you have completed a internal check on your emotions and their growth? Do you feel you lack emotions or do you feel your emotions are scattered? Like any pattern in life your emotions too require growth to fully experience life.
If you land in the first group that seems to lack feelings or they are low, spend a moment to reflect and ask yourself why that might be. This chapter will not tell you how to unlock your emotions as this is intended for you to look inward. The Latin word for educate means to come from within, By asking yourself why, you will start to unlock your barriers for your growth. Once you start to experience and feel your emotions grow you will experience a scattering of your emotions.
This is your critical time of your emotional growth and as you explore this growth be mindful of your audience. Rely on your close positive inner circle of friends as emotions of growth is required for you to keep leveling up in your life. If you choose the wrong people to share and combined with your environment this may cause some negative effects to your quest to gather your energy.
Always focus back to your alignment, which unlocks your passion. Once you have your emotions and passions aligned this extra energy will provide you the fuel to a great level of success. Whomever your greatest mentor is they will have mastered this alignment.
This is key for you to practice, as without your doing this on a daily basis you will not go where your are capable of going. You can also use the emotions of passion to increase the probability to exit an organization that you are not aligned with. Senior leaders within your work environment know this concept very well.
Have you ever wondered why in some cases your leaders exit an organization? They probably were a long term high performer and continued to be however all of a sudden they leave. There is a good chance this leader took control of their own destiny by creating their environment to leave. They would have recognized an opportunity and capitalized on that opportunity to move them to their next step.
I encourage you to reach out to this person and ask for a meeting with them. Explain your intent and ask if they would be willing to share with you the experience prior to the meeting. You will learn a lot from this conversation and connecting with this person.
This time spent with them will multiply your time after your meeting. Grow your emotions one moment and one conversation at a time.
When is the last time you have completed a internal check on your emotions and their growth? Do you feel you lack emotions or do you feel your emotions are scattered? Like any pattern in life your emotions too require growth to fully experience life.
If you land in the first group that seems to lack feelings or they are low, spend a moment to reflect and ask yourself why that might be. This chapter will not tell you how to unlock your emotions as this is intended for you to look inward. The Latin word for educate means to come from within, By asking yourself why, you will start to unlock your barriers for your growth. Once you start to experience and feel your emotions grow you will experience a scattering of your emotions.
This is your critical time of your emotional growth and as you explore this growth be mindful of your audience. Rely on your close positive inner circle of friends as emotions of growth is required for you to keep leveling up in your life. If you choose the wrong people to share and combined with your environment this may cause some negative effects to your quest to gather your energy.
Always focus back to your alignment, which unlocks your passion. Once you have your emotions and passions aligned this extra energy will provide you the fuel to a great level of success. Whomever your greatest mentor is they will have mastered this alignment.
This is key for you to practice, as without your doing this on a daily basis you will not go where your are capable of going. You can also use the emotions of passion to increase the probability to exit an organization that you are not aligned with. Senior leaders within your work environment know this concept very well.
Have you ever wondered why in some cases your leaders exit an organization? They probably were a long term high performer and continued to be however all of a sudden they leave. There is a good chance this leader took control of their own destiny by creating their environment to leave. They would have recognized an opportunity and capitalized on that opportunity to move them to their next step.
I encourage you to reach out to this person and ask for a meeting with them. Explain your intent and ask if they would be willing to share with you the experience prior to the meeting. You will learn a lot from this conversation and connecting with this person.
This time spent with them will multiply your time after your meeting. Grow your emotions one moment and one conversation at a time.
Tuesday 5 September 2017
The Second Book The 23rd Chapter - Complete Your Step
July 12/17
We all know of journeys big or small that always start with the first step. However more importantly is to fully complete all your steps to reach your goals. The value of not completing your steps will be worthless in regards to all the pre-work you and others have put into that goal.
I would like to share a journey of the completion of my steps of my goal of publishing my first book. The overall journey to arrive today, this day of the official release of my first book, has taken years to achieve. In short my life experiences to date have created a view that now I have shared on paper. The specific goal of putting the first book together started in Sept of 2015. Fast forward almost two years later and now it is published.
During these time there was several distractions on my goal however with consistent steps moving forward I was able to complete. When I was working towards this goal there was also several people along the way that helped me with my journey. Now that the task is complete I have realized the disservice I would have done to all those that helped me, if I did not finish.
When your on your particular journey there will be several people step up and help you achieve your goal. When you are struggling with the completion, spend a moment and reflect on the investment these people have freely given you. As you think about how they have helped you this far, use these thoughts to motivate you forward. The biggest lose to you and others around you is if you fail to complete each step.
In modern day society could you imagine what life would be like if the current things we use on a daily basis that enable use to live an easy life were not completed. Make each step of yours count to your growth. Each step does make a difference to you and others around you. Your theory of relativity of your value depends on the completing of your goals.
You will stumble on your journey and when that happens correct your balance and move forward. While your moving forward, observer your growth and performance. Identify improvement efficiency in the patterns that occur around you. Act on these improvements when they come your way. The sooner you act on them the quicker your momentum will increased towards your completion quest.
By building your momentum you will be growing an environment for yourself that will be motivating for you naturally. An environment that will allow you to complete all your steps on all your goals.
We all know of journeys big or small that always start with the first step. However more importantly is to fully complete all your steps to reach your goals. The value of not completing your steps will be worthless in regards to all the pre-work you and others have put into that goal.
I would like to share a journey of the completion of my steps of my goal of publishing my first book. The overall journey to arrive today, this day of the official release of my first book, has taken years to achieve. In short my life experiences to date have created a view that now I have shared on paper. The specific goal of putting the first book together started in Sept of 2015. Fast forward almost two years later and now it is published.
During these time there was several distractions on my goal however with consistent steps moving forward I was able to complete. When I was working towards this goal there was also several people along the way that helped me with my journey. Now that the task is complete I have realized the disservice I would have done to all those that helped me, if I did not finish.
When your on your particular journey there will be several people step up and help you achieve your goal. When you are struggling with the completion, spend a moment and reflect on the investment these people have freely given you. As you think about how they have helped you this far, use these thoughts to motivate you forward. The biggest lose to you and others around you is if you fail to complete each step.
In modern day society could you imagine what life would be like if the current things we use on a daily basis that enable use to live an easy life were not completed. Make each step of yours count to your growth. Each step does make a difference to you and others around you. Your theory of relativity of your value depends on the completing of your goals.
You will stumble on your journey and when that happens correct your balance and move forward. While your moving forward, observer your growth and performance. Identify improvement efficiency in the patterns that occur around you. Act on these improvements when they come your way. The sooner you act on them the quicker your momentum will increased towards your completion quest.
By building your momentum you will be growing an environment for yourself that will be motivating for you naturally. An environment that will allow you to complete all your steps on all your goals.
Sunday 3 September 2017
The Second Book The 22nd Chapter - Choose Your Funnel Strategy
July 12/17
If your in sales you probably heard of the concept to work your funnel. To keep your funnel full with potential leads and some of those numbers will end up providing you with sales. That concept works as long as you continue to work the numbers game.
This pattern replicates in nature as well for nature trying to survive by gathering energy in the form of food. What I would like to talk about today is turn your funnel upside down. Whatever goals your currently are working on, instead of the one immediate closure of a goal to expand your goals with a stronger focus by turning your strategy. For example if your in sales and you want to increase your volume focus on building stronger relationships. Build yourself a spreadsheet of what you are going to achieve. By doing it will provide you a step by step plan to reach your goals.
When your building your relationships start by asking how you can provide further value to your customer. This is the start of your inverse funnel strategy. Picture this strategy one of farming rather than one of hunting. One of planting seeds and watering those seeds. As time goes by your reward will grow much further that the immediate sale of hunting.
Your relationships will grow to provide value to your customers and it is at this time they will start to ask you how they can help with your overall growth. This is now the start of growing your funnel upside down. You are now starting to grow your matrix of success. With one successful conversation at a time you will be growing your value and influence.
When you first start out in whatever venture you will need to do both the traditional and the inverse funnel strategy. Like in nature when you first start you will need to hunt at the beginning while also planting seeds for farming. At your beginning you will need to have a higher focus on the numbers strategy and as you become more successful start shifting your balance to one of investing yourself in long term value adds.
The secret is to keep yourself moving and growing. In nature, stopping movement will strop growth and this pattern will occur with you as well. Keep moving and keep sharing your growth with others.
The more you truly share the more you will have in return. If your new to your goals start working your numbers and if your success in your goals help others. Remember at some point you were new at this goal and someone mentored you.
If your in sales you probably heard of the concept to work your funnel. To keep your funnel full with potential leads and some of those numbers will end up providing you with sales. That concept works as long as you continue to work the numbers game.
This pattern replicates in nature as well for nature trying to survive by gathering energy in the form of food. What I would like to talk about today is turn your funnel upside down. Whatever goals your currently are working on, instead of the one immediate closure of a goal to expand your goals with a stronger focus by turning your strategy. For example if your in sales and you want to increase your volume focus on building stronger relationships. Build yourself a spreadsheet of what you are going to achieve. By doing it will provide you a step by step plan to reach your goals.
When your building your relationships start by asking how you can provide further value to your customer. This is the start of your inverse funnel strategy. Picture this strategy one of farming rather than one of hunting. One of planting seeds and watering those seeds. As time goes by your reward will grow much further that the immediate sale of hunting.
Your relationships will grow to provide value to your customers and it is at this time they will start to ask you how they can help with your overall growth. This is now the start of growing your funnel upside down. You are now starting to grow your matrix of success. With one successful conversation at a time you will be growing your value and influence.
When you first start out in whatever venture you will need to do both the traditional and the inverse funnel strategy. Like in nature when you first start you will need to hunt at the beginning while also planting seeds for farming. At your beginning you will need to have a higher focus on the numbers strategy and as you become more successful start shifting your balance to one of investing yourself in long term value adds.
The secret is to keep yourself moving and growing. In nature, stopping movement will strop growth and this pattern will occur with you as well. Keep moving and keep sharing your growth with others.
The more you truly share the more you will have in return. If your new to your goals start working your numbers and if your success in your goals help others. Remember at some point you were new at this goal and someone mentored you.
Saturday 2 September 2017
The Second Book The 21st Chapter - Don't Let Your Past Chart Your Future
July 11/17
Have you had an experience and after it was over you were looking back thinking, I could have done better. Ask yourself why you have this feeling? What should have been an exciting new experience that added value to your life, it has perhaps had the opposite effect.
Part of this concept of not performing like you had wanted to is sometimes you are the subject to your last similar experience. Your environment you are currently in is a determining factor of your ability to create consistent level of value. After each experience look around your environment and feel the energy that is surrounding you. Your mind is powerful and others around you plant the seed of influence, this influence can be either positive or negative and it can have an result on your performance.
Almost 6 years ago I was given the opportunity for a different leadership position at a large company. I struggled at first on how to allow myself do accomplish more value and not let my past influence my current state. There was a time during the beginning I wanted to go back to my old position. When that thought started to occur my performance went down. To the point that was low enough I was almost given a discipline warning due to my poor attitude and performance.
This was the first time in my working life I was struggling at this level to try to succeed at my work. As I reflected to why this was occurring I realized my thoughts were driving my results and I was focusing on my past. I realized it was not possible to go forward and to create the value I desired to create. Once this realization occurred I focused on the moment and thought how can I succeed in this new role.
The key was to have the thought and from that thought value was created. During the remaining 5 years at that position I was able to grow and lead a group of amazing individuals. Not only was I able to create value in my direct reports, I was able to increase the value of the over 1000 people working there through the team of people I was working with.
The 2 key leanings was to be able to identify my current performance level and to be able to identify where others were around me in their journey. By starting first to lead yourself you will have the ability to lead others in a way that will create value.
Your biggest return on your influence will be leading others to a point where they are able to chart their own future that does not depend on their past.
Have you had an experience and after it was over you were looking back thinking, I could have done better. Ask yourself why you have this feeling? What should have been an exciting new experience that added value to your life, it has perhaps had the opposite effect.
Part of this concept of not performing like you had wanted to is sometimes you are the subject to your last similar experience. Your environment you are currently in is a determining factor of your ability to create consistent level of value. After each experience look around your environment and feel the energy that is surrounding you. Your mind is powerful and others around you plant the seed of influence, this influence can be either positive or negative and it can have an result on your performance.
Almost 6 years ago I was given the opportunity for a different leadership position at a large company. I struggled at first on how to allow myself do accomplish more value and not let my past influence my current state. There was a time during the beginning I wanted to go back to my old position. When that thought started to occur my performance went down. To the point that was low enough I was almost given a discipline warning due to my poor attitude and performance.
This was the first time in my working life I was struggling at this level to try to succeed at my work. As I reflected to why this was occurring I realized my thoughts were driving my results and I was focusing on my past. I realized it was not possible to go forward and to create the value I desired to create. Once this realization occurred I focused on the moment and thought how can I succeed in this new role.
The key was to have the thought and from that thought value was created. During the remaining 5 years at that position I was able to grow and lead a group of amazing individuals. Not only was I able to create value in my direct reports, I was able to increase the value of the over 1000 people working there through the team of people I was working with.
The 2 key leanings was to be able to identify my current performance level and to be able to identify where others were around me in their journey. By starting first to lead yourself you will have the ability to lead others in a way that will create value.
Your biggest return on your influence will be leading others to a point where they are able to chart their own future that does not depend on their past.
Friday 1 September 2017
The Second Book The 20th Chapter - Follow Your Own Path
July 10/17
There always comes a time when you need to be going by yourself into unknown territory. As we grow up and as a young child we are constantly learning from our environment. Whatever skill set we learn there is always a moment when you go forward with that new skill alone.
This pattern keeps replicating through your entire life. Remember back to the first time you successfully rode your peddle bike by yourself. There was that moment when your parent let you go and with no other support you went ahead. Usually at the time you didn't even know the hand of direction was removed for your first ride. It comes natural and it just happens, that first ride and the desire to move forward and experience exploration.
So remember back to that growing feeling that you experienced in that moment. Remember back to the determination and passion you had to master you bike alone. Once that transition happened your coach could no longer help you and in fact if they kept supporting you now, the result would be the slowing of your progress.
Now as you read these words, later in life are you feeling the need to go alone? This pattern applies to every aspect of your life from personal life to your career. You always need the support in the beginning from someone to coach you and once that phase is complete it is time for you to move on.
A tangible tool for you to complete leveling up within you life is to operate in your passion zone. The combination of your passion zone and your determination will allow you to accomplish so much more. The patter of your mentor letting you go without your realizing it will happen naturally. If you are doing something that is not your passion than focus your aim to improve your determination.
For your optimum results you would require alignment in both your passion and determination. However these two elements can be at different levels in your environment. The only direct negative effect to you is slowing of your pace for you to accomplish your goals.
Currently I am in a transition phase of growth and right now I am walking down a path I have never experienced before. I realize the direct hand of support has been lifted and I an on my own path. I am following my passion by writing these words and allowing my determination to grow in helping at least one other person discover their passion.
How are you going to apply your passion and determination to follow your own path?
There always comes a time when you need to be going by yourself into unknown territory. As we grow up and as a young child we are constantly learning from our environment. Whatever skill set we learn there is always a moment when you go forward with that new skill alone.
This pattern keeps replicating through your entire life. Remember back to the first time you successfully rode your peddle bike by yourself. There was that moment when your parent let you go and with no other support you went ahead. Usually at the time you didn't even know the hand of direction was removed for your first ride. It comes natural and it just happens, that first ride and the desire to move forward and experience exploration.
So remember back to that growing feeling that you experienced in that moment. Remember back to the determination and passion you had to master you bike alone. Once that transition happened your coach could no longer help you and in fact if they kept supporting you now, the result would be the slowing of your progress.
Now as you read these words, later in life are you feeling the need to go alone? This pattern applies to every aspect of your life from personal life to your career. You always need the support in the beginning from someone to coach you and once that phase is complete it is time for you to move on.
A tangible tool for you to complete leveling up within you life is to operate in your passion zone. The combination of your passion zone and your determination will allow you to accomplish so much more. The patter of your mentor letting you go without your realizing it will happen naturally. If you are doing something that is not your passion than focus your aim to improve your determination.
For your optimum results you would require alignment in both your passion and determination. However these two elements can be at different levels in your environment. The only direct negative effect to you is slowing of your pace for you to accomplish your goals.
Currently I am in a transition phase of growth and right now I am walking down a path I have never experienced before. I realize the direct hand of support has been lifted and I an on my own path. I am following my passion by writing these words and allowing my determination to grow in helping at least one other person discover their passion.
How are you going to apply your passion and determination to follow your own path?
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