The Second Book The 71st Chapter - Hard Yes For You

Oct 23/17

Have you ever struggled with the skill of knowing when to say yes to others when a possible opportunity came your way?  Do you wonder how to place balance in your life?  It is not possible to say yes to everyone that asks something from you, based on factors of your time or your financial resources.

Around 8 years ago I was in a place in my life where I said no to everything.  There was two outcomes to this behavior.  One was I was not living life and the other was I lost the ability of know how to say yes.  I didn't know what opportunity would provide value to me and I didn't know who to trust.  With this cycle of no's, the deeper I went to a dark place of not feeling the joy's of life.  In that time I didn't even know what I was not feeling, all I knew was I was on the endless treadmill of life and not growing. 

These same general patterns would occur and my choice was to punch into the time clock of my daily life of normalcy.  The spark of change happened with my separation from my wife followed a year later by a divorce.  Even though I knew I was making incorrect decisions for me prior to my separation, I didn't make any decisions at that time to create a different outcome for my life.

With the process of change in growth being slow in me, I had no idea of what to do next.  I remember watching a movie by Jim Carrey that was called "Yes Man".  As I watched I could feel I could relate to Jim's character.  So one of the ideas planted in my thought pattern was to say yes to everything that was asked of me.  It was beautiful the change that I noticed of actually feeling a positive outcome from my choices of yes.  Once this process started, I soon realized I lacked the ability to say no, very similar experience to Jim in the movie.

What I learned though was by saying yes to all kinds of opportunities, I was able to learn the skill of when to say no.  It took sometime but over time I was able to recognize a pattern of the results of saying yes.  The biggest gifts I received by saying yes was a to start to live life and have the confidence and ability to know when I had to say no.  I realized I have to figure out what I truly wanted in my life and once I determined how I wanted to live my life the decision process came easy.  All I had to do when an opportunity came to me was to first ask myself does this line up to where I want to take my life?  From that brief moment of reflection it was easy to say either a yes or no in that interaction. 

The biggest gifts I received by saying yes was to start to live life and have the confidence combined with the  ability to know when I had to say no.  The foundation of what I wanted to do with my time I had to create.  Once that was completed the decisions of whether to say yes or no was easy.  All I had to do was think about my foundation of alignment and if this new opportunity was on my life's course.  It was like an individual snowflake coming together with millions more and formed a snowball which is still growing which each moment of my day.

Because I say yes, even when I didn't know why, I had realized that my growth now has no ending.  If you want to feel the joy of life, start today by saying yes to one thing that you would normally say no too.  Through this practice your life of fog will start to clear and you will know your way forward with purpose and feeling.