June 27/17
I recently went on a road trip with my 16 year old daughter. The experience and time together was a positive one, one that was filled with conversations that created a higher level of my understanding of her. As the miles rolled away I was struck with how amazing of a young woman she is becoming. A woman with hopes and unknowns, yet the strength to move forward over the last year and a half.
Over the last year and a half there has been some struggles with our relationship and there are a few different factors to the reasons why. However one of the greatest causes of misunderstandings was a lack of effective communication and actively listening on my part. Most of those miscommunication issues was on my end as she was trying to talk however I wasn't truly understanding her.
Which leads us to this amazing road trip holiday right now in the present. On several occasions there was laughter, discussions along the way with a few tears shed by me. As I thought about the trip I though of the concept of judging others. I believe that is an act that all of us easily do without fully realizing it. I know we all have experiences that shape our bases of communication and interpretations of the world around us.
From this vantage point our judgments on others, based on what we see in a snap shot of information, is then created. As I thought about that concept, that judgment will lead to a feeling or emotions. I never really thought much about this concept until this road trip with my daughter.
When you make a judgment of others does it provide you a source of joy? On this trip I experienced people's judgment on occasions that was directed to me in a negative way. I could feel getting judged at the hotel breakfast stations in the morning. People would see my daughter and I walk in and immediately I could feel being judged in a way that actually caused me to feel ill to my stomach. This feeling has remained with me and I feel strongly this experience should be shared.
Picture a place of bonding and understanding, which my daughter and I were so lucky to experience. To the dads reading this, you know exactly this moment of how special these moments are. In a brief moment some of the judgement were not in alignment at all to our reality. The impact of this judgement was a negative one towards us.
This made me wonder again the power of the thought and how we can impact our universe and others. This has also taught me a lesson in the importance of being more aware of how my judgment of thought effects others and myself. When I have them to also be aware and ask myself, did that judgment provide joy as well as kindness to others and myself?
As I sit beside a quantum physics exhibition at a science fair this thought of judgment and effects of energy seems fitting. Take a moment and determine what effect you want on others and why. Is this patter of behavior allowing you to level yourself up and grow.
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