The Second Book The 49th Chapter - Letting Go

Sept 5/17

Have you ever had an experience that did not produce the desired outcome you had planned for and after that event held onto the hope of what could not be?  Perhaps wishing for a do-over or wishing for a different outcome?  Not letting go of that event and rethinking about that experience?  Ask yourself how much time do you spend in the mindset of reflection and then ask yourself if that time spent was valuable to you?  Chances are the time spend and your energy was not valuable.

As I am going through a transition in my career, having one book published and now working on my second, I still need to find a position that would provide me with a living.  Not long ago I was approached by a prestigious organization and was asked to come for an interview.  I was excited as this is an organization that I would like to work at.  It would provide value for my growth and I know I would have an positive impact on others around me.  A few meetings were arranged and completed before the formal meeting. 

All meetings were positive and seemed like a formal offer would follow soon.  Three weeks went by after a fury of activity and then I received a call with news I wasn't expecting.  No formal offer, which caused a few emotions in me, the obvious one of course was disappointment.  Along with disappointment my ego was also hit with a direct blow. 

As time went on I noticed my thoughts drifting back to one of I wish I was successful in the job application process.  Thoughts of regret, not valued and an general overall sense of beating myself up was my current mindset.  My good friend John called me last night and one of the topics I brought up was my feelings on this experience.  He listened politely and when I was finished.  He commented that there are millions of great people that have great experience and to not let this experience drag me down.

He went on to say, it wasn't meant to be and to move on, move on to something else that can produce value.  In that moment I realized I was in the mindset that I was in my past and that mindset was causing me to lose my momentum.  Because I wasn't fully letting go, it was shifting my current mindset to a point where I was going to miss my target of where I need to go.

Now using techniques taught to me before, once the negative thought of not letting go surfaces in my mind, I actually am able to stop that thought pattern.  To be able to recognize what and why is driving my change is mindset was one of the most valuable techniques in self growth.   It is very difficult for me to do yet I know I need to as this will help me reach the peace I deserve, that we all deserve in our life.

The old saying comes to mind now and that is don't cry over spilt milk, it seems so fitting and relevant now.  If this applies to you, take on your next change by letting go of your past which will enable you to level up your value.