The Second Book The 50th Chapter - Growing Confidence

Sept 7/17

Have you ever found yourself in a place in your life of transition where your confidence is low?  As you try to go forward yet it seems like your doors of opportunity are not getting opened?

I would like to share an experience that happened to me yesterday.  In my past professional experience I worked hard at growing my level of competence through taking further education and practicing my new learned skills.  As I felt I did grow yet some of the people around me didn't seem to express the awareness of my growth.  The harder I tried to improve it seemed not lead to any change in the value others thought I could bring to the table.  It seemed I was viewed in almost the same way as day one of my growth.

Recently I was invited to attend a post secondary classroom session as a guest.  During the two hours I had the opportunity to have several conversations with the students.  In all of the conversations I realized that yes I was able to provide a greater source of value through my past training and learning.  From this realization the direct impact was the increase in my growing confidence.

Most of us strive to provide value and have that sense of when we have produced a positive experience that will remain with an individual.  Over the last few weeks I have struggled with my confidence of my ability to provide value to others.  There was a period that I felt myself retreating and not wanting to interact with others.  With this choice I notice my confidence lowering with each passing day. 

Then a great friend provided me with the help of encouragement and suggested that I should create some opportunities.  Even though it was difficult for me to reset my habit, I did push myself forward and did interact with others.  By doing this I realized the gift I was given was the gift of confidence.  I am now constantly working my confidence thought vs. allowing my thoughts to take me to a place not adding value.  This is difficult but I realize this is an exercise I need to do to build my overall confidence.

If you can relate to this feeling I encourage you to move to your opportunity and if you don't have one presently to then to create an opportunity.  Connect up with someone that will be able to help you.  Once you put you thought into action you will feel the results of your effort into your goal. 

This pattern replicates in nature and always it takes effort and reassurance to feel the gift of your success.  Use your moments in time to fully capitalize on your growth.  The sooner you start growing your confidence work, the sooner you will feel the benefit of your hard work on you.

The value of your good friend, that truly tries to help you are invaluable and to keep them close to you.  Look for a way to repay them back when the opportunity arises, now that you have experienced their gift to you.  This is then the start of a cycle that will be benefiting both of you.