Sept 12/17
Have you ever experienced a moment of transition and not fully communicated your true feelings to others? Perhaps worried of sharing completely your reality of fear and then showing your weakness?
I have done that several times during my life and I realized by doing that I never fully achieved what I needed for support. What I need during times like these is friendship and a real connection that will provide me a sense of comfort. That sense of comfort that helps bridge us in our moments of transition.
About a month ago I realized I was not getting the support I needed and I could feel the negative effects on me as the days moved on. It was then I finally got over my stubbornness and contacted my friend John. For the first time I actually allowed myself to share on this level of my realness and allowed my vulnerability to be exposed.
I shared how as time has gone on how I was getting frustrated and depressed with the lack of finding a similar past work position. I shared how my ego was getting hit hard and communicated I was not sure of what the future looks like to me. In my past, doing the typically guy thing I would down play any emotions and not truly share my reality. I would say general things like yes I am doing some talking but would never fully share.
This time as I did fully share my emotions, I received support, understanding and more importantly comfort. With these three things getting added to my life, it allowed me to change my attitude which directly impacted my outlook. So from a change of expectation and low sense of self-worth to one of a sense of purpose and direction.
In addition John introduced me to folks that were looking for people to add to their teams. All of this information I would never fully received if I replied in my normal fashion and not being real. The past vague responses would have received past vague interactions and nothing concrete in next steps of value.
If you are in this spot now, realize what is occurring with you and reach out to a positive influence. It is ok to ask for help as that is part of what makes us human. Once the gift of help is given to you, it is your duty to act on that help. Getting real help will allow you to move forward and ensure you don't get lost in your cycle of self-doubt. With a self-doubt cycle you will never achieve what you can fully reach with your built in super power.
It is also a disservice to not act on the real help given to you as that would be a waste of a precious gift from someone. These precious gifts are limited so use them wisely and to your advantage. By practicing your ability to get real, this will allow you to understand yourself at a higher level that will daily increase your effectiveness. You will feel the growth that you have not felt in your past.
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