Aug 27/17
Have you ever arrived at a crossroads or in a crossroad and you can feel your insecurities coming into your thoughts? Did you current thought start out positive but now some negative thoughts are starting to grow which is now becoming your new reality? Has it progressed to the point you might be effecting the reality of others that are close to you?
I think most of use are aware of how our view point will effect our daily activities and what I would like to share today is how our insecurities can impact others. My young adult son is in a good place in his life as he now has realized what he would like to do with his life. With this realization has come for him to leave a high paying job, for a young person, and go attend post secondary education.
As he is in this process of change, his insecurities of the unknown are starting to impact his thoughts. As the day approached to return from his work, he started to communicate that I did not want to see him make this change and be around him. That over the last 7 month of his working he thought I wanted him to keep on this track. As this mindset continued to grow stronger in him, they started to spill over into him putting on the burden to others around him by projecting his reality.
The impact of his statement of the thought that I didn't want him around caused me to feel a sense of hurt in me. I love my son and have always welcomed his presence and this is now the opposite of what his is communicating to me. As I was processing and feeling this experience I was struck again the importance of communication. Also the importance of how my interactions with others will effect them. It caused me to look deeper of my insecurities and how I might be projecting those realities onto others.
When I was younger, I realized now, I would have actions that were based on my insight and would drive realities that were not always positive. I would not think of how my reality and choices was impacting others. This is an unhealthy place for me to be but it took me years to learn this lesson.
With this recent interaction with my son I had a direct and kind conversation on his statement. I asked him first the why, why was he thinking negative thoughts? I had a good sense of where the why was coming from, however at this moment he needed supportive behavior from me. He did not need me to tell him what to do or need me to become harsh with my words.
As he explained to me his current mindset of thoughts it became clear his new path was bringing up these insecurities. As time went on they became projection gremlins that were then extended to me.
Life is about growth and your self-awareness is required for you to grow. Select your positive inner circle of influences and establish healthy boundaries. By doing this your self-awareness will grow to ensure your insecurities do not become your reality.
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